I saw the video of her singing and I thought she was awesome!! She looked happy, to me. But that voice, wow!!!!

I was a dead ringer for Shelley Winters. Apparently. When she was at her heaviest and I was at mine...and she was, like, 103 years old and I was so much younger.
sigh...
Kira

Someone once told me that I looked like, "That woman from Misery." (She meant Kathy Bates). I was devastated. Of course, Kathy Bates isn't terrible looking but she is 30 YEARS older than me and not exactly who I picture myself as...

I'm more a Jessica Rabbit... :)

Ugh, I'm sorry. Some people just don't know how to give a compliment or keep things to themselves, and so I don't think she meant to insult you, just that her compliment was misguided. Don't let it get you down!

I would definitely take that as a compliment. Queen Latifah is a gorgeous woman.

I felt the same way Buttercup, she gives me courage. I think a good girlfriend day for her and she would be pretty as well. Her personality shines right thru as it is.

Ailidh, if that's you in the pictures you've posted (and I have no reason to doubt that it is!) you don't look anything like her. I think she's a lovely woman with a beautiful smile, but there's no resemblance at all.

Having said that, I know how easy it is to get derailed by someone else's offhand comment. I spent my entire teenagehood thinking of myself as hideous because my sister used to delight in telling me I looked exactly like Sara Gilbert (as her character on Roseanne, you know, the prickly younger daughter).

What she meant was that I was sarcastic and kind of mean and defensive because of my own issues just like the character, and she was absolutely correct. What she *said* was 'you look like her', and what I heard was *you are ugly*. I'm not saying Sara Gilbert is ugly, but I didn't find it a flattering comparison at all.

My long-winded point is that it's taken me YEARS to stop thinking of myself as ugly. I am still working on it, and I just half an hour ago caught myself thinking awful things about my looks and had to give myself a talking-to. It's one reason it's taken me so long to deal with my weight issue; I was ugly anyway, so what did it matter if I'm fat, right?

Well, I'm not ugly, but I still feel that way a lot. My poor sister would never forgive herself if she knew what that horrible joke did to my self-esteem, because she didn't mean it that way at all. But words definitely have power, and an offhand comment, even from a stranger, can cut deep with some personalities.

But I still don't think you look a bit like Susan Boyle. (And I don't look anything like Sara Gilbert: Sara, Me)

I think you are beautiful.

I honestly think that Susan is a very pleasant looking woman.

I think the TWO OF YOU look NOTHING alike. At all.

:)

that just seemed rude shes got nerve !

:hug:

The whole ugly thing is true. I mean, it's not at the top of my head all the time but it's certainly always lurking. When I get a comment like this ~
and it's the fact that it wasn't said to be rude, just an observation that made it feel worse ~
and it's unrelated to any outstanding qualities that the person compared to probably has ~

it's like someone whipped away my disguise and shouted, Aha! You were Pretending to be more attractive but you're just plain fugly.

Back to work on my self-esteem!

You seriously think that you are ugly? Are you for realz?????? You my dear are very much NOT UGLY and trust me... I don't blow sunshine up peoples arses.

When I was in high school people wouldn't just tell me I looked like Stephen Page from the Barenaked Ladies they would actually think I was him, I had people ask for my autograph on various occasions. That wasn't that bad - but in college i somehow turned into Philip Seymour Hoffman!

:rofl::rofl::rofl:

Edited to add: That was in no way intended as a put down to your or the very talented Mr. Hoffman. But I DID think it was funny. ;)