[Hope1974]

Originally Posted by fiberlover

She's in OR and can't see you, right? Tell her you lost 10 LOL!!

::AGREED::

[mrs dorson]

tell her you changed your mind and you arent gonna do ANYTHING about your weight or health......then when you have lost alot ...oh, say 20 pounds....then send her a pic and say....SURPRISE!

BUT I AM MEAN.


hehehehehehe


do you ever watch "you are what you eat" ?

i LOVE that show!!
but really glad jillian isnt at my house!

[Lori Bell]

I like the kill her with kindness suggestions...

When she starts in, shower her with complements, tell her how proud you are of your baby sister. Ask her about her plan, let her tell you all about it. When she asks you how your diet is coming a along, just say real excitedly, "Oh really good". If she tries to pressure you into a number just say, "I really want it to be a big surprise for you when we see each other again, I think you'll be proud of me too"

[Pandora123a]

Jimaterry,

I'm an older sister and I am always surprised how competitive my siblings are with me, even when I am not feeling competitive. We play cards as a family, and my siblings joke that they don't care who wins...as long as they beat me! My two brothers compete the same way at golf.

I think younger siblings often feel that they can't live up to their older sisters or brothers...whatever they do the older sib can do better and has done first. I think the best advice you have gotten is to avoid the competition, praise her for her success, say it isn't a contest and that you'd much rather talk about other things.

It's too bad she always has to compete, but remember,. that is her problem, not yours.

[Beverlyjoy]

Sounds like a frustrating situation - certainly not what you wanted or expected. Just tell her you aren't posting pictures - you want your journey to be a surprise when next you see her.

Try to be 'teflon' and let her comments, etc just slide off. You are doing well and carry on.

[lisaslost]

Isn't it wonderful that your sister wants to be so like you. It must have been very hard for her growing up in your shadow. Knowing what a special person you are and not knowing if she could ever compare. So now she competes. Keep up your good work. Remember positive thoughts bring positive actions.

[lifechange]

Maybe she has the best intentions behind it and doesn't realize that what she is saying and doing can be perceived differently. It could be that you inspired her to lose weight as well and now she wants you to motivate each other through the process vs a competition. Just be honest with her, that you appreciate the idea behind the motivation of posting the pictures etc but you want to keep it low key at the beginning, keep the pressure low and focus on changing behavior.