My standard reply to anyone's rude remark is, "So manners are optional in your family?" I actually use it on my daughter's friends when they're catty about other girls. And on my daughters, on occasion. I know it's a rude response, but I do say it nicely and with a smile!
Photochick and Traci - I will have to remember your one liners. They will enable me to have more confidence when I can say something that will hold a person accountable to what they say!
OMG...that's crazy. I can't believe someone would just say that. Sorry Trazey your friend had to go thru that. Totally uncalled for. Photochick nice response
They say misery loves company. Some people just like to rain on other's parade...pathetic.
I've had to endure a few rude comments myself in the year and a half I've been trying to lose weight. Most people are supportive, but some make comments that are catty...I chalk it up to plain old jealousy. Maybe they feel threatened because they're afraid I'll look better than them, perhaps I remind them that they should get off their a$$es and fix something in their lives they aren't happy about. For years, I had the "role" of being the biggest staff member...that has changed. They see me losing weight, getting attention, getting confident, and they probably don't like the change. I have been told by some of my coworkers that others at work don't that I'm getting smaller than them. That's their problem and they are going to have to get over it.
Your friend is to be commended on her loss so far.
I'll get off my soapbox now (didn't mean for it to be so long!).
I love all the ideas for one liners! I'm totally gonna use them. Trazey please tell your friend good job for losing the 10 pounds from us, she totally deserves the praise! That woman is an idiot. I hope your friend realizes that.Your friend and everyone here are embarking on an amazing journey, one that that woman will never have the privilege of knowing. What an idiot, I have mentally punched her in the nose!
I probably would have been really immature about it and said something like "Well, at least I'm not a miserable b*tch like you."
As ookpik said, sometimes people expect others to fullfil a certain role (esp. overweight people) i.e. Office Fatty, Fat friend, Fat Sister, etc. and they actually LIKE YOU FAT because it confirms their superiority (in their own minds). If your friend is able to lose weight, where will that leave the co-worker who depends on your friend being overweight for her own self-esteem?
That is one of the worst things I've ever heard. Jeez, some people.
My response is usually an icy, "Excuse me?" accompanied by dagger eyes. When I'm that shocked, it's all my frozen brain cells can eke out, but it gets the point across.
Wow - that is so rude and hurtful! It still amazes me to this day how negative people can be. It seems like when someone shares good news, there's always someone there to say "you could have done better". There's always a nay-sayer.
Your friend is probably hurt by it - but she should know that this woman who made the negative comment probably has a lot of issues that she can't deal with and it probably makes her feel better to say hurtful things to people.
