I, too, have a warped relationship with food. I guess I have a loose definition of the word "relationship", because I feel like I have a relationship with anything that I interact with regularly. So, I believe that having a relationship with food
doesn't have to be a bad thing. Unfortunately, I've
had a terrible, abusive, shallow relationship with food for years.
For years, I have looked to food to solve my problems. I thought it would make me feel happy when I was sad, satisfied when I was restless, entertained when I was bored. But that's not very realistic... I wouldn't expect a living, breathing friend to do those things for me. In turn, food has only made me feel more miserable and unsatisfied than ever before. It's a wily creature!
But, I believe that it is possible to put food back in its proper place! I can enjoy food for exactly what it is: sustenance. It isn't there to make me feel better or solve my problems.
It's just there to provide nourishment, and nothing more. And then food and I can have a nice, healthy, not-messed-up, balanced relationship with each other.
I never want food, for me, to be only fuel or nourishment, because it is such a source of pleasure in my life. I am trying to think of eating a great meal as the equivalent of taking a long, hot shower with my favorite shower gel- it feels wonderful, I can pamper myself and enjoy it, but when I'm clean, I get out of the shower with no (or little
) regret! When I'm eating, I want to truly enjoy it- life is too short for anything else. But when I'm not hungry anymore, I want to "step out of the shower", be hapily finished with my meal, and be looking towards another activity. At least, that's the ideal goal 
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