3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > Weight Loss Support

Weight Loss Support Give and get support here!

People ask how you do it?

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 04-03-2013, 10:37 AM   #1
Trying to be in the 160s
 
IanG's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Washington, D.C.
Posts: 3,451

S/C/G: See my siggy ;)

Height: 5'8"

Default People ask how you do it?

More and more people are asking me how I am losing weight.

To be honest, I feel reluctant to tell them so I am deliberately vague. There's a little bit of shame but it's mostly because I don't want people picking apart what works for me, especially to my face (I don't care so much if you guys do that!).

Part of me thinks I am not being fair because people are showing a genuine interest.

Any tips on what to say? Should I just come clean and spill the dirty deets?
__________________

Running because of Diana
Believing because of Sue
Elvis lives!
Getting fashion advice from Sum
ReillyJ and Carpediem saved my knees!
Don't believe the hype. EAT MORE FISH.
IanG is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 10:44 AM   #2
Heidi
 
newleaf123's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Pittsburgh
Posts: 2,966

S/C/G: 204.5/149/153

Height: 5'7"

Default

I find that people don't really want a long, detailed answer. I usually say something to the effect of, "You know, healthy food, exercise. Nothing fancy." People make some comment back like, "Oh, the old fashioned way." Or, "Good for you!" And so ends the discussion.
__________________
Original Goal Met



Working on losing some bloat...





newleaf123 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 10:45 AM   #3
Senior Member
 
betsy2013's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Washington state
Posts: 1,273

S/C/G: 396/349/160

Height: 5'7"

Default

For the ones who are genuinely interested and you know you can trust them to not pick apart your approach, just tell them what you're doing as long as you're comfortable doing so (and if not, what are you doing to make you so uncomfortable). If you're not comfortable with answering the question, just answering with counting calories and exercising. Regardless of which diet approach any of us are using, there's an element of calorie reduction and exercising involved.

This question doesn't bother me with people that I know are friends and are trying to learn from my approach. But to have an acquaintance ask -- I always wonder if the next question will be what's you favorite sex position.
__________________

Mini Goals: Move Here Weight (2005): 344 DONE 4/19/13, Stop Smoking Weight (1997): 333, Mom Remarried (1990) 313, Twoderville: 299, Move to NC (1989): 280, Closer to 200 than 300: 249, More to Come....
betsy2013 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 10:47 AM   #4
Stephanie
 
LockItUp's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: Phoenix, AZ
Posts: 3,221

S/C/G: 236/135-140/More Fit

Height: 5'6"

Default

I literally tell people "I ate a lot less", which is totally true, but obviously vague. When I first started losing I would go into more detail but found people would argue with me -- got annoying real quick!!!

There are a few people who I have shared more with, but not many. Because people typically really don't want to know for real, unless you're going to tell them you take a magic pill, never exercise, and eat tons of pizza and ice cream all day long.
__________________
Stephanie
LockItUp is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:16 AM   #5
Lifelong Alaskan!
 
alaskanlaughter's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Juneau, Alaska
Posts: 2,514

S/C/G: 230/180/150

Height: 5'5"

Default

when I get a comment on that I've lost weight I just smile and say "thanks"...ive never been asked straight up HOW I've lost weight but I suppose I would be equally vague...oh! I did have someone at the school ask me how I've lost weight once and I said "I like to do some running" and she looked at me like i'd gone crazy and said something like "oh I could never do that" like it's impossible
__________________
alaskanlaughter is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:21 AM   #6
Senior Member
 
Daki's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 530

S/C/G: 215/201.5/155

Height: 5'6

Default

In my experience people want your magic weight loss pill secret. When they find out there is no secret, they get annoyed. I can't tell you how many times I've had this conversation:

"What have you been doing?!"
"I eat low carb, have a cheat day once a week and exercise."
"OH GOD. I COULD NEVER DO THAT/DON'T HAVE TIME FOR THAT. I wish I could lose weight."

People don't like hearing that there is no magic pill.
__________________
Emphasizing "lifestyle change" over "diet." Only recording weight on the first of each month.

Rerestarted July 23rd 2013
Daki is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:24 AM   #7
Senior Member
 
CherryPie99's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Northern NY
Posts: 1,922

S/C/G: 344/119/116

Height: 5'1"

Default

Yeah - it seems like every time I am asked and start to talk about eating right and exercising the eyes start to glaze over and they look for a reason to end the conversation. If I can't say "a magic pill" no one wants to hear it.
__________________




"I'm through accepting limits, cause someone says they're so. Some things I cannot change but 'til I try I'll never know!" ~ Wicked ~

"Have you ever looked fear in the face and said 'I just don't care!'" ~ Pink ~

http://jenhudsonmosher.blogspot.com/

My goal reached thread http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/goal...ncers-say.html
CherryPie99 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:27 AM   #8
Member
 
emid78's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: NY
Posts: 47

S/C/G: 240/250/140

Height: 5' 3"

Default

I think most genuine people are looking for guidance. Everyone on this site is here for the same reason. I don't think that anyone should every criticize what people are doing to better themselves, unless maybe they are a certified doctor. In which case, they probably wouldn't need the advice.

I would absolutely love for you or LockItUp to share your secrets with me. I promise I would not criticize. I personally have been in such a funk with this whole weight loss, that I am on the verge of giving up. I am the type of person who needs step by step, hold my hand and walk me through it guidance.
emid78 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:30 AM   #9
Stephanie
 
LockItUp's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: Phoenix, AZ
Posts: 3,221

S/C/G: 236/135-140/More Fit

Height: 5'6"

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by emid78 View Post
I think most genuine people are looking for guidance. Everyone on this site is here for the same reason. I don't think that anyone should every criticize what people are doing to better themselves, unless maybe they are a certified doctor. In which case, they probably wouldn't need the advice.

I would absolutely love for you or LockItUp to share your secrets with me. I promise I would not criticize. I personally have been in such a funk with this whole weight loss, that I am on the verge of giving up. I am the type of person who needs step by step, hold my hand and walk me through it guidance.
Oh gosh, I'm talking about people in real life. Here is a TOTALLY different story!!! Here I'm MORE than happy to share! I think most people's comments on this thread are speaking about people in real life!
__________________
Stephanie
LockItUp is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:36 AM   #10
Krissy Missy
 
Missy Krissy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Michigan
Posts: 913

S/C/G: 181/see ticker/120

Height: 5'2"

Default

People have commented on my weight loss but don't usually ask me how. When they do ask I usually say something like "I just watch what I eat" or "Eating right" or "Eating less." No one has pressed me for further details.
__________________

One for every five pounds lost!


Mini Goals:
No longer obese – achieved 10/12/12
, 20 pounds down and pedicure reward – achieved 11/16/12, 40 pounds down and facial reward – achieved 2/22/13, No longer overweight - achieved 4/12/13, 60 pounds down and full body massage reward
Missy Krissy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:40 AM   #11
Intuitive Eater
 
SouthernMaven's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Deep South
Posts: 612

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by emid78 View Post

I personally have been in such a funk with this whole weight loss, that I am on the verge of giving up. I am the type of person who needs step by step, hold my hand and walk me through it guidance.
Emid, I know exactly how you feel...

The problem with "step by step, hold my hand and walk me through guidance" is that, even though it will likely get the weight off initially, it's likely to come back if it's not something you have internalized.

That's why you so often hear the term "way of eating" or "lifestyle change" as opposed to diet. Diet, as others have said, signals a temporary change - something that one day will be over.

I personally don't believe you have to give up any of your favorite foods in order to lose weight. I don't think you have to go hungry in order to lose weight. And I don't think you have to eat any certain way in order to lose weight. But I do think you have to learn to think differently about food and its place in your life.
__________________
"As I cleared out the clutter of diet propaganda that had expanded
to fill every available convolution of my brain, the fat went away with it."

- Rob Stevens, The Overfed Head


Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
- Albert Einstein
SouthernMaven is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:43 AM   #12
love machine!
 
om namah shivaya's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Minneapolis
Posts: 78

S/C/G: 167/130.2/120

Height: 5'6"

Default

Yea, i usually say "a lot of hard work and nutrition" and people say ".......cool."
om namah shivaya is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:45 AM   #13
A full week OP! wooohooo
 
sassyangies's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Glendale, AZ
Posts: 671

S/C/G: 310/305/199

Height: 5'5"

Default

I was just approached this last night while I was scrapbooking with the girls. One girl commented on my weight loss and asked what I'm up to now I told her she said good for you and ended it. Then another girl I don't know very well said how are you doing it? I told her my speal and she was well, that's way too little calories, I bet your not getting enough protien in there and so on. I couldn't believe it. I have never had anyone do that and I told her I do what works for me and you do what works for you. Got it? lol.. It's definetely a hard one though especially when it's at a time your not really prepared for.
__________________
SW305
Mini Goal to be at 299
Mini Goal lose 10%
Mini Goal lose 50 pounds =
Mini Goal lose 20% of weight=
Angelia
sassyangies.wordpress.com
sassyangies is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:46 AM   #14
Intuitive Eater
 
SouthernMaven's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Deep South
Posts: 612

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Daki View Post
In my experience people want your magic weight loss pill secret. When they find out there is no secret, they get annoyed. I can't tell you how many times I've had this conversation:

"What have you been doing?!"
"I eat low carb, have a cheat day once a week and exercise."
"OH GOD. I COULD NEVER DO THAT/DON'T HAVE TIME FOR THAT. I wish I could lose weight."

People don't like hearing that there is no magic pill.
EXACTLY! Especially your conversation

Whenever people ask what you did to lose weight, and then follow it up with "Oh I could NEVER do that," they are simply looking for validation of their own decision to remain overweight. You're right - they want you to say that you've added some kiwi fruit to your normal daily intake and the pounds magically disappeared!
__________________
"As I cleared out the clutter of diet propaganda that had expanded
to fill every available convolution of my brain, the fat went away with it."

- Rob Stevens, The Overfed Head


Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
- Albert Einstein
SouthernMaven is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-03-2013, 11:55 AM   #15
Trying to be in the 160s
 
IanG's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Washington, D.C.
Posts: 3,451

S/C/G: See my siggy ;)

Height: 5'8"

Default

I do IF, so that is why I am worried to tell people. It is nuts but it so works for me because I am never hungry for dinner.
__________________

Running because of Diana
Believing because of Sue
Elvis lives!
Getting fashion advice from Sum
ReillyJ and Carpediem saved my knees!
Don't believe the hype. EAT MORE FISH.

Last edited by IanG : 04-03-2013 at 11:55 AM.
IanG is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Posts by members, moderators and admins are not considered medical advice
and no guarantee is made against accuracy.


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
How do YOU do it? mommyskinny Ideal Protein Diet 23 09-10-2012 09:59 AM
Makeup - Never Worn It - How to do it? my2cats Looking Good, Feeling Great 20 02-06-2012 01:33 AM
How do you do it? Tips Appreciated!! soxmanyxemotions Weight Loss Support 30 01-26-2011 11:00 AM
Need advice: when friends ask…”How did you do it?” daniela 100 lb. Club 28 09-18-2009 04:45 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 12:08 AM.






Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2