I found this on Dr. Phil’s website:
Five Steps to Your Weight Loss Goal
Follow these five steps to create a strategy for your weight loss goal.
1. Set a very specific goal.
Remember that losing weight requires a change in thought and behavior, so set goals for your emotions and weight.
Don't just set vague goals like, "I want to lose some weight." Be specific: How much weight do you want to lose? How do you want to feel? Close your eyes and visualize yourself after you've reached those goals. Use this visualization to feel commitment and inner strength.
2. Work out a detailed strategy.
Willpower doesn't work! To lose weight and keep it off, you must have a strategy.
Plan ahead: Get rid of your expandable clothes, stay away from fast food, and keep healthy food in your pantry.
3. Identify small, measurable steps.
Implement steps that will fit your lifestyle, not somebody else's.
Be sure to move toward a positive goal, not just away from being fat. Every step you take will bring you closer to being who you want to be.
4. Create a healthy, realistic timeline.
Where will you be in a month? Six months? A year? Fit your goals to your calendar, and stick to it.
Don't expect to see huge results overnight; take the time to change your lifestyle, and you'll change your weight.
5. Create meaningful monitoring and accountability.
If you know you have to report your progress to someone, you'll be more likely to stick with your plan.
"Go public" with somebody you trust. Find support when you need it, and celebrate your victories!
This is from Dr. Phil’s message board and I found it “food for thought”.
Sweet I can so relate to what you said about being single. I can use the excuse that I am not dating because I am fat. Take that away and what will my excuse be. Maybe there is just something wrong with me.This way I pick the reason
Isn’t .
This way I pick the reason profound????? I NEVER looked at it this way but I feel I resonate with it so it is probably true for me.
Part of another Dr. Phil’s message
I got lucky. I was a guest on the weight show that will be aired soon. What I finally understood is that being overweight is a form of physical, emotional, and mental abuse. The big problem is that I am doing it to myself. I wouldn't ever allow anyone to hit me, but until I talked with Dr. Phil, I didn't realize that I was the one who was allowing someone to continue to abuse me, and that person was me. It was one of those "AH HA" moments.
( I will TRY to quit posting Dr. Phil’s stuff here but since the program was on weight I went to his website and keep finding things that I find fascinating – so I KNOW you, my dear friends, will too)
Malia, keep your eyes open at all time for me!!!!! This way you will have an excuse to watch all those men!!!!
Baylee, that was definitely exercise….
Well, I am off to the parade…it is freezing here…I turned the heat on!!!!
I moved two years ago from the big city to a small town so the pickings are slim but.......
Hi-ya my lovely chickies!
That's okay; hubby and I had a quiet, stay at home, day yesterday which suited us both fine! You know, I've been going out every weekend recently which is a HUGE change for me. Because I felt bad about my weight, I had lost all interest in going dancing... NOW, I'm starting to love it again! On Friday night, I had SO much energy on the dance floor, I was literally jumping up and down! 
My food was acceptable all day. I passed on gravy and cinnamon rolls and biscuits at breakfast. I passed on chips, cookies, ice cream and pop at lunch.
Gee... was that odd. 
