I don't live in the UK but I can't imagine that experiences are all that different from anywhere else. You must have a thick skin and keep your expectations in check (as in, pretty low). Approach meeting men as the potential to make a new friend to take some of the pressure off.
I've met 40 or so men online in the last handful of years and did manage to keep one around for nearly two years but all in all I wouldn't say I've had great luck considering that most barely knew how to have a general conversation.
Then again my sister, several friends and co-workers have all met just 2 or 3 men online and married the last one they met!
Good luck and congratulations on your weight loss!
My friend met her current man on zoosk.com. Its still early days but she's really positive about him. We both went on Plentyoffish.com and had terrible luck with it, our theory is that as it was free, the men weren't really that serious about finding a potential relationship. But a thick skin is definitely a must as it is very, very hard going. I'd do some research into different sites, I know they do sites for people with different interests like cooking, keeping fit etc so its easier to find a like minded person. I'm not sure how much help that was but good luck!
I also am in USA and have been on a dating site for a little over a year......I have no horror stories, and have made a few great friends and met a great man I dated for 8 mos........turns out he was not Mr. Right, but nonetheless a great guy!
Be careful and don't expect love overnight. If someone does not respond when you write them, don't take it personally.
I think online dating is a great opportunity to meet people you would not otherwise meeet. I use plentyoffish.com (pof.com) and okcupid.com...both of which are free.........
I met my DH online! Not on a dating site though, on AOL years ago when ppl still used AOL to chat lol.
My sister met her husband on plentyoffish!
There are alot of creeps and weirdos & married men on those sites, but some good guys as well.
I say go for it, if nothing more you'll at least have some fun dates.
Hi, I have had a great experience with dating sites. I wasnt big on going out drinking so i was finding it hard to meet guys. After 2 not so great dates (not bad but just didnt really like them) i met my now boyfriend who i have now been with for 3 years and he is just perfect! Also I got my mum onto it and she met the man of her dreams too. I now try and get all my single friends to try it as I really do think that is is the perfect place to meet a partner. Go for it! x
Definitely worth a go but, as already mentioned, don't go in with high expectations and don't take things too personally. I've got some hilarious tales to tell of awful dates with men who'd blatantly lied, misrepresented themselves etc. I've had nice dates that just didn't click and am now dating someone who I did totally click with. Early days yet (about 6 weeks), but so far so good.
I've tried a few dating sites, some paid and some free. I've had no luck at all - all the people who've contacted me have been looking for instant sex, and I'm old-fashioned, and want a friendship, then maybe a courtship, then maybe a bit of..... (deleted). He may yet be out there though!
oh and ps, I have contacted some guys as well, I'm not THAT old-fashioned! but with pretty much the same results.....
I was on OkCupid for a while, it was free (which might be a good idea to start with to see what it's like before you pay for anything) and quite good to use. All of my friends who have used both match and OkC have preferred OkC. I definitely think it's worth a shot! I mean, what's the worst that could happen? You might find someone great!
I'm not from the UK, but I do know how you feel about dating sites. I had an excellent relationship for 3.5 years with a guy I met on Okcupid, and when that ended I wasn't quite sure what to do. Oddly enough, within a month from the end of that one relationship, a new guy contacted me and we've been dating now for about a month. :] alot of people on there are really shallow and only want instant gratification, but you have to stick to your guns and keep your heart protected because sure, there are some unsavory individuals out there, but I think it's just as dangerous as going out and meeting someone in person at a bar or club.
Patti Stanger (the millionaire matchmaker) says that there's nothing wrong with online dating and to put a semi- professional picture of yourself up (you HAVE TO look good :]) she also says that there's alot of cute and confident guys at the gym, so put on a little mascara!
I think that having confidence in yourself and your beauty is one of the sexiest things a woman can have, and if a guy doesn't notice how amazing and wonderful and special you are within a few conversations, then he DOES NOT deserve your time.
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