Do you believe a personality can change?
My mother is giving me a hard time because she thinks there's something wrong with me. I'm not as happy go lucky as I used to be. I'm more serious these days and if there isn't a reason to be jumping around for joy, then I don't feel like doing that.
I've had a lot of icky stuff happen to me in the past five years; I rushed into a marriage that was a mistake, my father died, I worked on a Master's Degree while working full time, I got divorced, I had 2 surgeries and multiple car accidents, I lost a best friend to a dumb argument, another one of my favorite and very close relatives (my aunt) died, and I lost a lot of weight while being under the microscope of people who thought I was anorexic or something and I'm having a LOT of financial trouble.
(This isn't really about my mother but she's the one who made me think about it)
Now my mother tells me I'm smart, healthy and beautiful and what's wrong with me? Why have I changed? I used to be adventurous and happy.
I'm not sure what's going on. Is it possible that someone's personality can change as a result of life events and changes? Could it be that I don't feel so sheltered and naive anymore?
Is it that I'm no longer using food to cope?
There are times that I feel like I want to look for something to eat and I identify it with an emotion. I realize it's a residual impulse.
Can it be that I'm actually FEELING all that negative stuff now instead of covering it up with food?
I never expected all my problems to disappear with weight loss. Believe me, they don't. It's definitely worth it, but there are some changes that go along with it.
Has anybody else had anything like this happen to them? Is this my true self? Am I a more serious person than I thought? No longer the "class clown"?
Or is there something deeper? Any thoughts?