Online, I'd start
here at Krista Scott Dixon's website. You can also take a look at
this for a short video clip of how to do each exercise.
If you and your husband are beginners (and if all he's doing is bench presses, he's a beginner, no matter what he thinks
), I'd take a look at Bill Phillips'
Body for Life. You may not want to do the complete lifting/nutrition program, but it is a good introduction to how to use weights and proper nutrition to transform your body. Other good books are
Exercise Anatomy, The
Body Sculpting Bible and
The Body Sculpting Bible for Women, all available from Amazon.
You might also just stop by your local bookstore and cruise the magazine racks for Shape, FitnessRx, Oxygen or any other fitness related magazines.
Mel