Looking Good, Feeling Great - What the heck does it mean to be called thick?




hhm6
03-16-2014, 05:32 PM
Hey there 3FC!

Hope this thread is in the right spot! So this weekend I went to a friend's party, and there were two guys DJing. My friend came up to me and said, one of the DJs wanted my number. This NEVER happens to me so I asked her " Are you sure he meant me?" I'm a little older than most people at this party (it was a bday party for a 22 yr old) so anyway, she says "No, he pointed at the person wearing all black at the table, pretty, kinda thick", so I was really flattered until I heard the word thick, does that mean fat?!


I've looked it up online it seems like it's someone who's fat but holds their weight well? I just hate the way that word sounds lol! I know I'm fat, I mean being completely honest I wasn't offended by him calling me that, but I thought it seemed like a weird thing to say to a girl, if you wanted her number? Right?! What do you guys think?


bargoo
03-16-2014, 05:50 PM
Thick opposite of thin ?

PatLib
03-16-2014, 06:22 PM
My guy friend just told me (he has said thick to describe a girl so I texted him for you) that for him and his buddies it means a girl who is big but still proportional. He happens to love thick girls so take it as compliment! :)


hhm6
03-16-2014, 06:34 PM
Thick opposite of thin ?


My guy friend just told me (he has said thick to describe a girl so I texted him for you) that for him and his buddies it means a girl who is big but still proportional. He happens to love thick girls so take it as compliment! :)

Haha! Thank you! Yes, I'm thinking I will take it as a compliment now lol :)

Paulitens
03-16-2014, 07:52 PM
I think it means that you wear your curves well, in the right places. I think I'm a thick person. Even at my thinnest I'm not skinny; I have my curves, I'm muscular, etc. So I will never be "model" thin. I would have been taken aback by someone calling me "thick" but it's funny anyway. :D

The most important question here is... Did you give him your number!?

kaplods
03-16-2014, 07:53 PM
I've only ever heard it used by guys in a complimentary way when talking about women they're attracted to. I don't hear it much in Wisconsin, but in Illinois was fairly common, and generally used only for women in the "barely overweight" range, and usually by guys on the younger side.

The equivalent in old guy speak is "I like a woman with some meat on her bones."

hhm6
03-17-2014, 12:29 AM
I think it means that you wear your curves well, in the right places. I think I'm a thick person. Even at my thinnest I'm not skinny; I have my curves, I'm muscular, etc. So I will never be "model" thin. I would have been taken aback by someone calling me "thick" but it's funny anyway. :D

The most important question here is... Did you give him your number!?

I've only ever heard it used by guys in a complimentary way when talking about women they're attracted to. I don't hear it much in Wisconsin, but in Illinois was fairly common, and generally used only for women in the "barely overweight" range, and usually by guys on the younger side.

The equivalent in old guy speak is "I like a woman with some meat on her bones."

Thanks guys! It was the first time I've heard of this, ever actually. It isn't pleasant sounding (to me at least) to say a girl is thick, I don't know maybe it's me something about it sounds off, but I guess I will take it as a compliment! haha

I actually didn't end up giving him my number, by the end of the night when I saw him again, he was drinking excessively which really turned me off, and he was hired to play at the party so it seemed a little unprofessional. He also looked MUCH younger than me, so I didn't bother and my friend didn't ask me again either.

I get so awkward when people give me compliments, even like this one! If he had talked to me and say something I would have had no idea how to respond.

thirti4thirty
03-17-2014, 04:38 AM
"No, he pointed at the person wearing all black at the table, pretty, kinda thick",

First, make sure your friend didn't add that herself :devil: Honestly, I don't think she NEEDED to add that, even if that's what he said. Women are....
Anyway...
Even if he said it, think of it of something like an elegant way of saying heavy or fat. I don't think it would have been diplomatic of him to tell your friend: " "No, he pointed at the person wearing all black at the table, pretty, kinda FAT".
I personally do not believe in the fact that he used that word because he has a preference for not-so-thin women.

vealcalf2000
03-17-2014, 06:19 AM
OK can I throw in my 2 cents too? Anytime I heard the term thick I always thought they meant someone who is heavy by that their fat is solid or tight looking. Sorry this is a bad description! I have a "soft" fat. Looks jiggly and spongy. I always wanted to be thick! I think of a well trained female athlete who has a large frame, a layer of fat, and is solid! Total compliment! :)

hhm6
03-17-2014, 04:31 PM
"No, he pointed at the person wearing all black at the table, pretty, kinda thick",

First, make sure your friend didn't add that herself :devil: Honestly, I don't think she NEEDED to add that, even if that's what he said. Women are....
Anyway...
Even if he said it, think of it of something like an elegant way of saying heavy or fat. I don't think it would have been diplomatic of him to tell your friend: " "No, he pointed at the person wearing all black at the table, pretty, kinda FAT".
I personally do not believe in the fact that he used that word because he has a preference for not-so-thin women.

I don't think she would add that in herself, I've known her since I was 2 yrs old and we're both in the weightloss journey together. I think she just wanted to tell me word for word what he said. But I see your point! It isn't the best thing to say I suppose!

OK can I throw in my 2 cents too? Anytime I heard the term thick I always thought they meant someone who is heavy by that their fat is solid or tight looking. Sorry this is a bad description! I have a "soft" fat. Looks jiggly and spongy. I always wanted to be thick! I think of a well trained female athlete who has a large frame, a layer of fat, and is solid! Total compliment! :)

LOL, of course vealcalf!! I think that description is what I've seen floating around the internet too. Although I have to say, I'm very jiggly now, nothing feels tight or firm!! I would love to look like a trained athlete and be toned!! I don't have access to a gym though, so for now cardio will have to suffice.

Thanks for the responses ladies!!

Radiojane
03-17-2014, 05:11 PM
As long as thick wasn't referring to your mental status, you're probably good :p

TamTam
03-17-2014, 05:23 PM
My husband had to have heart test done because he is too "thick" for them to hear what they needed to hear. and needed more testing. We just laughed. So hopefully one day he will be thin and no longer thick!!

Bellamack
03-17-2014, 05:29 PM
As long as thick wasn't referring to your mental status, you're probably good :p

That is what we always used the term "thick" for. It meant they weren't too bright, like never "getting" jokes. etc. So when I read the op's statement, I thought, "if you have to ask, you might be thick" lol. I am just kidding, I never have heard it used in the context being explained here. who knew?

hhm6
03-17-2014, 06:32 PM
hahaha! You guys are funny, I've heard of thick= stupid or thick-headed? I thought it was more of a UK thing? My cousins in London always use it that way.

EagleRiverDee
03-17-2014, 06:40 PM
Every time I've heard the term "thick" to describe a person, it was a way of saying they weren't that bright, not that they were fat.

kaplods
03-17-2014, 06:48 PM
Thick and thickheaded meaning stupid, naive, or slow to catch on is still pretty much the most common use of the word in the US (or the midwest anyway). Thick meaning not thin, I believe started out as a young, mostly male, urban subculture thing, and is still not as widely used as thick=slow..

GlamourGirl827
03-17-2014, 11:33 PM
Every time I've heard the term "thick" to describe a person, it was a way of saying they weren't that bright, not that they were fat.

This is what I was thinking!

AwShucks
03-18-2014, 12:15 AM
I've only heard it when someone was describing a heavy woman - proportional, not proportional, sturdy, firm, jiggly, whatever -- someone who was not the culture's ideal of thin. I wouldn't take it as a compliment. However - I've been told that some men DO like "a woman with some meat on her bones." I just haven't met one, and if I do, he better not call me "thick" when asking for my number! :) lol

You ladies that have boyfriends or husbands, did he verbally let you know that he liked your shape? Or, was it a non issue? I would think if he wanted to get to know you at all, he liked your shape. He wouldn't have to say, "Hot dayum, I like me a thick woman!" hahahahah :lol:

hhm6
03-18-2014, 12:59 AM
Awshucks- I took it to mean that, although I'm still overweight (or obese by BMI standards) I have a shape.

Honestly, since losing weight, I'm getting somewhat of a shape back, so I feel semi-flattered, but I just HATE the way the word sounds lol, it seems anything but feminine lol.

Learn something new everyday!

kaplods
03-18-2014, 01:13 AM
I've only heard it when someone was describing a heavy woman - proportional, not proportional, sturdy, firm, jiggly, whatever -- someone who was not the culture's ideal of thin. I wouldn't take it as a compliment. However - I've been told that some men DO like "a woman with some meat on her bones." I just haven't met one, and if I do, he better not call me "thick" when asking for my number! :) lol

You ladies that have boyfriends or husbands, did he verbally let you know that he liked your shape? Or, was it a non issue? I would think if he wanted to get to know you at all, he liked your shape. He wouldn't have to say, "Hot dayum, I like me a thick woman!" hahahahah :lol:


I found my hubby through a personal ad I placed that appeared in the local news paper and on the paper's website. A photo wasn't an option for the print ad, but the online ad allowed a photo and additional information.

My hubby responded to the online ad, so he had seen my photo, but some of the guys who responded to my ad had only read the print ad, so had no idea what I looked like, except for my height, exact weight, hair/eye colors, and that I was pear, not hourglass shaped. I didn't use vague or cutesy euphemisms for my weight or shape, because I wanted to weed out the guys who would be put off. I'd rather have a couple interested responders than dozens of ultimate rejections.

Hubby and I got to know one another very well by phone before we met. I didn't even know he had seen my photo online until he sent me his. I wasn't a big fan of men with long hair and absolutely hated facial hair. Hubby had waist-length long hair and a mustache and goatee. He also smoked, which would have been a dealbreaker in itself, if I hadn't fallen for him before I met him (and before I saw his photo).

Early on, Hubby never mentioned my weight or shape much, but did say I was much prettier in person than in my photo.

He and I both have always been very open and honest, so we both know that our sizes and shapes aren't each other's idea of physical perfection. I know that hubby's celebrity crushes are Uma Therman and Drew Barrymore and he knows mine are Patrick Stewart and Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson.

When I tell hubby he's sexy, he tells me I'm blind, and tells me he has no idea what I see in him. He'll occasionally make an objective comment about my shape as in whether particular styles of clothing are flattering to my shape, but He's never really focused on any aspect of my shape wjen telling me or showing me that he finds me beautiful and sexy (except that his favorite boobie is the biopsy-scarred one, because it reminds him how lucky he is not to have lost me to the month-long cancer scare we had after a lump was found on a mammogram I had a week before our wedding, and had removed a month after.)

Munchy
03-18-2014, 10:34 AM
Thick is usually hourglass and larger than average. It's a compliment, though I still don't like it. Here is a link to some pics for visual example. The article is pretty ridiculous, though! LINK (http://healthlevelup.com/thick-vs-thin-how-female-beauty-divides-men-where-do-you-stand/)

AwShucks
03-18-2014, 10:01 PM
Thick is usually hourglass and larger than average. It's a compliment, though I still don't like it. Here is a link to some pics for visual example. The article is pretty ridiculous, though! LINK (http://healthlevelup.com/thick-vs-thin-how-female-beauty-divides-men-where-do-you-stand/)

I saw the linked photos. Really, that's thick? Hmmm.. Well, then I guess it is a compliment. I still don't like the sound of it. The OP should be proud of that comment, then! According to the article, Lord knows what would've happened if she'd actually given him her number! ;)

Kaplods Sounds like you married a nice guy. Keep him!

AwShucks
03-18-2014, 10:18 PM
:)

hhm6
03-19-2014, 02:35 AM
I saw the linked photos. Really, that's thick? Hmmm.. Well, then I guess it is a compliment. I still don't like the sound of it. The OP should be proud of that comment, then! According to the article, Lord knows what would've happened if she'd actually given him her number! ;)

Kaplods Sounds like you married a nice guy. Keep him!


I agree, Kaplods you married a great guy!

And WOW! when I thought thick was more on the lines of this, (http://safa.tv/uploads/201008/31/imgs/1283306243_9-plus-size-models-in-sydney-fashion-week-2010.jpg) those women are in AMAZING shape, I definitely don't have any muscle definition like that! lol

Munchy
03-19-2014, 10:28 AM
I agree, Kaplods you married a great guy!

And WOW! when I thought thick was more on the lines of this, (http://safa.tv/uploads/201008/31/imgs/1283306243_9-plus-size-models-in-sydney-fashion-week-2010.jpg) those women are in AMAZING shape, I definitely don't have any muscle definition like that! lol

That would likely be considered thick too - I know my urban definitions ;)

ChickieBoom
03-19-2014, 04:07 PM
This is a really funny thread.

I've always been called thick as a compliment by men who prefer curvier women. I don't want to get into any racial colloquialisms so I'll just leave it at that. You can look up the work thick in the Urban Dictionary if you're interested.

Munchy
03-19-2014, 05:19 PM
This is a really funny thread.

I've always been called thick as a compliment by men who prefer curvier women. I don't want to get into any racial colloquialisms so I'll just leave it at that. You can look up the work thick in the Urban Dictionary if you're interested.

YEP and YEP. ;)

RVAscreenwriter
04-06-2014, 11:12 AM
Thick is DEFINITELY a compliment. When a guy describes a lady as being "thick" when they're showing interest (umm... phone number request!) it means that they think she's attractive in a curvy, not-stick insect way. Agree with the "see urban dictionary" suggestion.

Bout2Lose
04-24-2014, 10:57 PM
I've been called this a few times. I'm African American. I range from 160-175bs, and I'm 5'8. My stomach is very very flat--don't know why, genetics. I've had some guys say they like that I'm thick and others turn me down because they like skinny girls.

marigrace
04-25-2014, 04:25 PM
I can't keep up with this. I'm still trying to process "phatt" ....or maybe I'm just being thick.