Weight Loss Support - Reverting back to over eating poor eating under extreme stress. Hurricane!




GlamourGirl827
08-26-2011, 09:13 AM
I'll make this short as I have to go out. I feel like I've gotten my eating uncomtrol and am winning the battle with binging. But I noticed under extreme stress my old habit come back fill force. I am nj and we are preparing for the hurricane. I'm with two young kids and quite scared. And starting last night I've been devouring junk . Insane amounts of only crap. I wanted to get this last 15 lbs off by Xmas but I've told my self I will go back to dieting after the hurricane. I also expect we will be without power for days.
I just can't believe how under stress how easily I fell into binging over eating and poor eating habits. I really thought I had this beat. :(


4star
08-26-2011, 10:01 AM
I know what you're talking about all too well. We are stuck in the middle of a trying to buy a house and it's been crazy. Not to mention summer really threw off my workout schedule and it's been a time crunch so my diet has been off too. I could feel bad about not having a loss to show for the last few weeks. My weight has bounced up and down but no crazy gains. I know it's not forward momentum, but I am not going backwards and that's something to be happy about!Definitely growth! Back in the day, I would have been beating myself up about it but we're human. Ya know? It's times like this where I think we can learn about ourselves and the affects that stress can have on us. Without seeing it and recognizing the effects of stress, you can't begin to head that behavior off in the future.

Don't get down. Look at it in a more of a science experiment sense, observe your curious behavior and take stock of it for what it is. Then experiment with things that might help it when you start to observe the behavior again. You've done so well and there's no reason to think you won't continue to do as well. You can change or at least moderate this behavior. :cheer2:

I will be thinking of you guys. We've been watching this storm pass us by but unfortunately we have family and friends in the storm path. I know it's scary but just buckle up and do what you can to stay safe. FEMA is setting up on the outskirts of where the storm will hit. Many storm-prone communities will be loading up supplies and getting them out to our neighbors who were hit. You aren't alone. Prayers, good thoughts, and wishes being sent!

lin43
08-26-2011, 02:46 PM
I know what you mean. In times of stress, the temptation is really strong to eat the house down. I have a strategy that sometimes works, though: This seems wierd, but I keep telling myself to think like a thin person would. I don't know one "naturally" thin person who eats more when stressful events occur. My husband has never had a weight problem, and he certainly doesn't eat more during times of stress (if anything, it has the opposite effect). So, I try to get into the role of "thin person" and play it well.


GlamourGirl827
08-26-2011, 02:55 PM
This brings about the question: What do thin people do when they are stress? Assuming they don't drink or smoke?? What is their secret!?!? lol

RJ 1980
08-26-2011, 03:04 PM
I am also in NJ and have two small kids... very scared! (I had to cancel my daughters baptism and party that was planned for Sunday, grrr.) And I totally hear you about the eating... although I don't know why I do it b/c it just makes me feel worse! I'm afraid this weekend I'm going to go wild with food. :(

GlamourGirl827
08-26-2011, 03:52 PM
RJ 1980, I saw your post on another thread about canceling the baptism party. I'm sorry that on top of storm prep which is stressful enough that you need to rearrange the party time. :(
My DH has to work Sunday and I'm afraid of being home alone in a storm of this size which they are saying we havent see the likes of in decades. I don't know what to expect. I'm picturing some of the photos from hurricane Andrew (remember that in FL?) or Katrina...I'm scared that this will be far worse than I have seen (as they keep saying that all over teh news) and that I'm going to be stuck on a roof top surrounded by 15 feet of water with a 4 year old and a 15 month old.
I know what you mean about feeling worse after eating, but I just keep doing it! Not only do I feel mentally bad because I'm over eating which is working against my weightloss efforts, but since I've made so many changes to my diet over the past 6-9 months, my body cant handle the junk like it used to. Lets just say al the chocolate I put away this morning is not agreeing with me. :(
I just want to beat myself over the head and scream STOP!! But its like eating is completely distracting me from how scared I'm getting. I hope this hurricane is not going to be as bad as they are saying.

dragonwoman64
08-26-2011, 04:25 PM
I made a joke to bf this morning that my weight at least helps to keep me being blown away in a hurricane (doh!)

be prepared, but don't let it freak you out.

Gale02
08-26-2011, 04:30 PM
:hug: I understand. We had an enormous forest fire threatening our town 2 months ago and I did the same thing. In fact, I gained back 15 lbs which I am now in the process of losing again. :rolleyes:

Do your best and stay safe!

Rana
08-26-2011, 04:52 PM
Don't be stressed out about the hurricane! Turn off the local news!

Seriously.... I live in hurricane country and trust me, they can be bad, but it will never be as bad as the local news indicates it is!!!!

If you have water (which you may need if flooding affects the quality of your drinking water) and you have food to tie you over for a few days at home (and you probably do, even without going out and shopping for it) and you have batteries so you can listen to the radio to hear the news or music or whatever, then you will be fine.

Seriously!!!

The best parts of hurricanes is what happens afterwards.... beautiful weather and even if there was a bad storm, people are so helpful and kind and willing to share so much with you.

After hurricanes here, everyone's fridge is melting, so everyone is having BBQs and partying and inviting the neighbors and friends over to eat all the food before it spoils. Don't eat it now, wait until it's over!!!

You'll be fine... just turn off that TV set... you still have 48 hours to enjoy the weather before it turns bad.

ELBS717
08-26-2011, 05:18 PM
I think skinny people exercise when they get stressed. LOL, myway of dealing is to eat everything in sight and put my butt on the couch. Yikes!
The only thing I can think to do is don't fall into the "after this date" or "after this happens (hurricane), i'll go back on my diet" - it's almost like it's giving yourself permission to binge. For years I always found excuses to avoid changing what I eat for special occasions... well, it's Thanksgiving.. well now it's Christmas, but after christmas, I'll definitely start eating better... Well, it's DH birthday (Jan).. well, it's Valentine's day... " there always seemed to be a reason! I am REALLY trying to avoid that this time... but we'll see what happens when midterms come around.
Good luck and stay safe!! Besides, your and your family's safety might be a bit more important than your calorie count right now....

124chicksinger
08-26-2011, 07:03 PM
A skinny friend of mine used to FORGET TO EAT. So, perhaps that is what happens to skinny people under stress...they fret and food doesn't enter their minds?

I too am in NJ, but I don't have babies or live coastal. I live one long block from the Passaic River and my basement tends to flood in large storms...we have not had the $ to do a pump or drain, so I expect some water this weekend. Over eating, however, is the last thing on my mind.

If you are feeling driven to over eat, try to get your mind off the stress/trigger and keep your hands busy.

I do hope everyone prepares for the weather.

Hugs to all.

4star
08-26-2011, 09:22 PM
This brings about the question: What do thin people do when they are stress? Assuming they don't drink or smoke?? What is their secret!?!? lol

Depends on who they are. Just b/c a person may be thin doesn't mean they have it all together or have constructive coping mechanisms. Stress is something we all have to work to manage. There's nothing special about a thin person. They have just had a calorie deficit a little longer than a heavier person. We're all screwed up in our own special way. ;)

chickybird
08-26-2011, 09:40 PM
During hurricane Ike, I bought a cheapie little mp3 player at walmart that had an fm radio. I got to listen to news and weather updates on that thing for several days using only a couple AAA batteries. Good luck!

Tai
08-26-2011, 09:56 PM
I wish you all the best in surviving the storm. I'm filled with anxiety over it as well.

I use knitting and drinking hot tea as coping mechanisms when I'm really stressed out. Doing lots of both right now!

GlamourGirl827
08-26-2011, 10:08 PM
I'm just sitting here, me, computer, radio. Kids are sleeping, DH is working til 11pm. We just moved last week, and our new place is surrounded by trees. I'm really nervous about one coming through one of the big beautiful windows that are all over the place. The fact that there are so many windows was one of the things I loved about this place when we moved in...last week.
Weirdly enough all I've done is snack and read about hurricanes, or how to improve my running time. Don't ask, I'm a strange bird! I can't find half the stuff we own, because its all in boxes. I do have other hobbies besides eating, but all my sewing supplies are packed somewhere. Besides who am I kidding, even if I'm doing something else, its like this itch I need to scratch when I want to snack. I try to ignore it and distract myself but it just keeps lurking there. What a PITA!!

saef
08-26-2011, 10:11 PM
Thin people aren't interested in eating when they're stressed, so they stop completely, or they feel queasy at the sight of food, too nervous to keep it down, so they don't dare eat.

These are both alien concepts to me, but thin people have told me these things as I looked at them in wonderment and tried to make my facial expression as caring & understanding as possible. Because anyone in distress deserves that much from me.

I'm in a flood plain that had a catastrophic flood in April 2007. My neighbors are evacuating. Some of them had water up to their ceilings on that date, with only 20 minutes' notice that the water was rising. I am leaving, too. I have entrusted some of my belongings with kindly people on the upper floors. I have made reservations at a motel on higher ground & was lucky to get a room. I feel sort of numb and sleepwalking through this whole thing. I feigned normality in the morning & went to the gym, then went grocery shopping, even cooked dinner, but as the day wore on, my tension headache grew & grew. I plan to get to bed early & be up early tomorrow. There's nothing I can do tonight.

Eating helps nothing. It's just a form of spinning one's wheels, as I wrote in another thread here. It won't get clothes packed, won't get belongings off the closet floors, won't get the gas tank filled or cash from the ATM. It won't get my cooler packed with healthy food for my hotel room.

Either sit with the anxiety, call a friend or loved one, or act methodically to prepare. Eating will just make you unhappier as well as frightened.

RJ 1980
08-26-2011, 11:28 PM
I'm just sitting here, me, computer, radio. Kids are sleeping, DH is working til 11pm. We just moved last week, and our new place is surrounded by trees. I'm really nervous about one coming through one of the big beautiful windows that are all over the place. The fact that there are so many windows was one of the things I loved about this place when we moved in...last week.
Weirdly enough all I've done is snack and read about hurricanes, or how to improve my running time. Don't ask, I'm a strange bird! I can't find half the stuff we own, because its all in boxes. I do have other hobbies besides eating, but all my sewing supplies are packed somewhere. Besides who am I kidding, even if I'm doing something else, its like this itch I need to scratch when I want to snack. I try to ignore it and distract myself but it just keeps lurking there. What a PITA!!

I lol'd when you said you have other hobbies besides eating! My only (other) hobby is reading, which I do WHILE eating, haha! It sucks. Yep, I ate a half a bag of Sunchips earlier and am about to make a big package of rice. I want my husband to get home already and for us all to not go anywhere for the next few days! I'm nervous about the power going out, my son has bad asthma and sometimes need nebulizer treatments- if the power is out we will have to take him to the car and hope the car adapter works to get him his medicine. Also I'm super paranoid about the windows blowing out even though I know that's unlikely. Where do you live in NJ? Unless you are near a major major flood area I wouldn't worry about being on your roof!! It should be ok. I too am worried about the huge tree in my backyard but we can only hope for the best.... good luck! Hope this is just overblown......

ringmaster
08-27-2011, 01:25 AM
Exercise helps... if you still have electricity pop in an exercise DVD or youtube some workouts.

lucysam77
08-27-2011, 02:52 AM
Hi girl, im in nj too. I was thinking the same about being at home and eating a lot for stress or anxiety about the hurricane, but I have my treadmill and im gonna used instead of going to the gym.

jendiet
08-27-2011, 08:46 AM
Sweety, I would be scared too. My family weathered Hurricane Andrew in Florida. We lived just about in the path of the eye. My mom was freaked out. We moved from Staten Island to Florida to deal with this? She had 5 kids. I remember the panic she went through.

Try to think this way. Is the chocolate going to make the storm better? most likely not, what it is going to do is sabotage your goals. Just maybe you are in the mindset, it is going to be so bad--so why worry about diet. Splurge, before the good times end. That is not constructive though. MOST OF ALL, you want to role model calm and controlled behavior for your children who probably are scared too. Hang in there, I know there are prayers going up for the people in the pathway of the storm. My family still lives on Staten Island and Manhattan.

"Thin people aren't interested in eating when they're stressed, so they stop completely, or they feel queasy at the sight of food, too nervous to keep it down, so they don't dare eat. "

hahahh. This is alien to me too. I know thin people tell me this all the time. I want THAT gene.

QuilterInVA
08-27-2011, 11:58 AM
I am in Yorktown, VA which is near the NC border and my house is on water. The eye of the hurricane will be here this evening and my house may be flooded. I had an English Muffin and a peach for breakfast and I only have OP foods in my house. I can't control a hurricane but I can control what I eat. I realize that stressing about it is counterproductive. There is nothing I can do to prevent it, so I've prepared my supplies and plan to pick up what is left at the end. I've been without power for 12 days after a nor'easter and you just get through it. I have several books to read, lots of batteries for my radio and CD player, 10 books on CD and many hand quilting projects to work on.

Laneyy
08-27-2011, 12:17 PM
A skinny friend of mine used to FORGET TO EAT. So, perhaps that is what happens to skinny people under stress...they fret and food doesn't enter their minds?

I too am in NJ, but I don't have babies or live coastal. I live one long block from the Passaic River and my basement tends to flood in large storms...we have not had the $ to do a pump or drain, so I expect some water this weekend. Over eating, however, is the last thing on my mind.

If you are feeling driven to over eat, try to get your mind off the stress/trigger and keep your hands busy.

I do hope everyone prepares for the weather.

Hugs to all.

That's how my last 2 weeks have been, I've just forgotten to eat. Everyone is freaking out about this storm, and I don't think it's going to be nearly as bad as everyone is making it out to be. We'll see. Natural disasters don't phase me too much, it just happens.

GlamourGirl827
08-27-2011, 02:57 PM
That's how my last 2 weeks have been, I've just forgotten to eat. Everyone is freaking out about this storm, and I don't think it's going to be nearly as bad as everyone is making it out to be. We'll see. Natural disasters don't phase me too much, it just happens.

I felt the same way before I had kids. My DH and I used to do EMS. We live in a coastal area and when people were heading away from the flooding, we were heading in. But now I have two small children, and my DH has to work tomorrow. He works in the ER and HAS to go to work. I have to worry about having enough supplies for the kids, including diapers. And my older son has feeding issues and only eats certain foods, most of which are refridgerated, so loss of power is a problem. Personally, I feel its more frightening when you know you are responsible for someone else should the poop hit the fan. If for some reason there were an emergency evacuation last minute, I have to make sure I am ready to go with two kids and their supplies as well. I don't know if you have kiddies, but if not, you many find nature distasters phase you a bit more when you do. ;)

All and all, none of that is an excuse for me to eat out of control. I have definitely taken this as a sign that I need to take a better look at stress management. Life is stressful and not always when its convenient. There's going to be other times of stress, and I need to learn how to deal with it more effectively. I can't say I've done much better today, but I think this has been a huge wake up call for me since I thought I had made more progess than I did.

KaeBae
08-27-2011, 03:48 PM
Essex County checking in. Storm has me a bit nervous. My family has me even more nervous preparing and getting stuff last minute. :/ Be safe everyone.

GlamourGirl827
08-27-2011, 04:24 PM
It's pouring here in Ocean. I feel like its not IF will lose power, but WHEN. Hopefully not until the morning, so we aren't stuck here in the dark. I will keep checking in as long as our power is on and I can get online.

KaeBae
08-27-2011, 05:14 PM
It's pouring here in Ocean. I feel like its not IF will lose power, but WHEN. Hopefully not until the morning, so we aren't stuck here in the dark. I will keep checking in as long as our power is on and I can get online.


Weren't yall supposed to leave? :P

GlamourGirl827
08-27-2011, 05:58 PM
No. Only the Barrier Islands. And those right on the water. Ocean County, not Ocean City. :)

mzKiki
08-27-2011, 08:47 PM
I'm so scared as well! We went to the store and my family purchased plenty of junk food.
I keep telling myself that this will all be over Monday good or bad. So no need to have to deal with cleaning up and losing the 5 pounds that I will have to worry about after Irene makes her departure.
Stay safe and please keep your eyes on your ultimate goal.

GlamourGirl827
08-28-2011, 10:27 AM
I'm so glad I ate like the end of the world was coming, because, you know, the power didnt' even go out...:rolleyes:
Boy, was this a learning moment.

Rana
08-28-2011, 11:33 AM
Well, at least you're seeing it as a learning opportunity... :)

Now, for the next one...

Tai
08-28-2011, 12:47 PM
I'm so glad everything worked out well. Next time I'm going to really limit the amount of news coverage I watch; it made me so anxious!

Now I just need to resist the urge to eat off plan out of relief!