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Well, ladies, this is it, the last day of 2002. Last year, hubby and I had a quiet New Year's Eve at home, recovering from a major car accident. Our BIL and his girlfriend came over and made us food, as it turned softly into 2002. We felt very fragile and very lucky to be alive.
What would we do with this second chance to LIVE? I distinctly remember saying to our rescue workers, an hour after our accident when the car's roof was peeled away and we were pulled out of our crumpled vehicle, "Hmm... my New Year's resolution was to loose some weight." Even in my shocked and injured state, I was conscious of being fat, of being heavy for the rescue workers... I was embarrassed.
A number of other motivations contributed to my decision (so numerous I would need to write that book) in May 2002 to finally take control of my weight and life. I was sick (and this one's for Lucky) of waking up in the morning and wishing with all my heart that I had started the year before. I had the power to control my destiny and food was not going to rule and ruin my life anymore!!! The moment this realization hit me, I stopped eating foods that would contribute to my morbid obesity. I went cold turkey and never looked back. I eat healthy and I exercise and, although today is not my official weigh-in day, the scale this morning is showing a 114 pound loss. That makes me 156 pounds currently, down from my high of 270!
Hello Everyone
Well it looks like I do have plans for tonight, my mom just talked me into going to my sister's casino(she is the General Manager), and we are going to ring in new years there. I was relunctant, but she will be going back home shortly, so I figured better spend the time I can with her.
She gave me my Christmas gift, which was money, and I am excited because I have so many things I want to purchase. All things to help me in this journey.
Well I am off, I hope you all have a great day!
*hugs*
Cindy
As I sit here and I just finished reading your post, I had tears in my eyes. I had a situation close to what you shared and I remember the same thing. In the midst of chaos, pain and confusion, I remember being embarassed because I was so overweight. It was in October of 1999, we had went to Nashville to see the Grand Old Opry. We had stopped off on an exit to get some gas and get something to eat. (of course) We were going through an intersection and a taxi cab came screaming down a hill into the intersection and hit the right front end of our car. We started spinning and ended up sideways in a ravine. The boys and dh were fine, but because we had just stopped to get gas and I knew we were just going down the street to Shoney's , I had got back in the car and not put my seatbelt on, so when he hit us, my head hit the windshield. I blacked out for a minute and then when I came to, blood was pouring out the top of my head. I couldn't see anything, because I was scared to open my eyes, all I could hear was voices all around me. Someone called the police and the fire dept and they actually laid me down in the front seat, put a board under my back and pulled me out of the car. When they were pulling me out, I was scared to death I would fall off the board and there were people all around me. They put me in the ambulance and took me to the nearest ER. Once I got there in the ER, they were moving me from the gurney to the ER bed and I remember hearing someone say, "I need some lifting help." Here I was, in the midst of this horrible ordeal, and I was totally embarassed and mortified that someone needed lifting help. I am so tired of letting times like this be a part of my life. Times that I have sat in utter pain, because the seat I was sitting in was too small and the metal arms were digging into my legs, but I was too embarassed to say that I didn't fit. You would have thought the purple bruises all over the sides of my legs would have been enough to make me hear that "click." Or especially the time the little girl asked me, (in front of a doctors office full of people, mind you) if I could fit inside my house? Oh the things that overweight people endure.
I wish I had the answer to help us all figure out why it is that we eat, but I don't think it is really any ONE thing. I think every single person has a different reason. I don't think its just that we're emotional eaters, I think alot of it is because we simply just LIKE to eat. But aren't there so many other things in life that we would LIKE to do more? I don't know about you, but I would much rather go to the movie theatre and not worry about the size of the seat than to go to Dairy Queen and eat a banana split. It would feel so much better to go the amusement park and ride the rides with the boys that it would to go to McDonalds and scarf down a big mac.
Oh ladies......this is gonna be my year. This is the year I'm gonna shine! You mark my words...........this is IT! I promise you, 2003 will be the year that I get this weight off my body and I start living. The next time you hear me in here griping and moaning about how terrible my food has been, I ask you..........NO, I BEG you to please refer me back to this thread...........300+ And Ready To Try Again.......#260, so that I may read this post I am typing right now and I will get my rear back on track. But you know what, saying that in itself means I think there's a chance I might fail. But there is no chance of that............ Now, don't get me wrong. I will not be perfect. That's for sure. I will eat things that are probably not real good for me and I'm sure there will be weeks that I will gain instead of losing, but I am going to make a real and honest effort to watch every bite that goes into my mouth and take accountability for it all. This is the only body that I have and although I haven't treated it all that well in the past, it is not too late yet. I can and I WILL make a difference.
I would just like to say to all of my family..............I love you all. I hope every single one of us has a wonderful New Year and we will be seeing less and less of each other............(if you know what I mean)
I'm off to nap before work. Just wanted to get my last post for 2002 in. Tina, as always, you manage to bring a tear to my eye! I too, was in an accident, years ago. I weighed no where near what I weigh now, but when they went to lift that stretcher up...I panicked...thinking, "what if they can't lift me?" I had a broken leg and all I could think of was how fat I was. All this, I guess, is my way of saying how deeply ingrained this fat thing is...somehow, we need to stop thinking as a fat person does. If we don't, we will never keep the weight off.
So here's to my new and improved, thin thinkin' (thanks, thin!) me of 2003! And to all of you. Thanks for being here. I love you all. We can do this...
"A year from now, you'll wish you had started today!"
Sara, if you don't mind I am taking this as my mantra for 2003
Quote:
Suggestions, please...here's a few off the top of my head..
1. I was thinking of posting my food/exercise on a daily basis...be accountable not only to myself, but to my cybersisters as well.
2. How about a gratitude thread? To celebrate what is good in our lives and not just dwell on the long journey ahead?
Or a "pat yourself on the back" thread? Try to post at least one good thing you did to improve yourself?
3. How about taking turns being for a day/week/couple of days? Whosoever weareth the hat may dictate...er... suggest an exercise or activity to get our butts moving.
Okay...that's it for now, but I'll try to think of more...I hope you guys do too! Let's shake this up a bit. Make it fun. What do you think?
By Kat
Do I have to remind you yet once again how I hate journaling.... of course, I also know that just means I need, should, have to start doing it. So I like #1 & #2.
I think we DEFINITELY should have a "Pat yourself on the back" thread. We could maybe have a little contest going as to who stayed on their plan the most days. Like, a point for good foods, a point for exercise, a point for water, etc. etc. etc. Not for number of pounds lost, just all the other things that GET us to losing the pounds. We could do it for a month at a time, a week at a time or for the whole year, whatever the majority wants.
Or do you think that's too much pressure?
By Baylee
But then I apparently need pressure!!!!
I heard this from Dr. Phil and it was a a light bulb moment...
STOP.... HAPPY NEW YEARS.....FROM
Okay, back...I have this belief that I have no will power and that is why I don't control my eating. I heard Dr. Phil say (this goes for whatever you want to change) that it is NOT will power...it's behavior that brings about change. You have to behave your way out of your problem/issue. I felt such relief to hear this because if it's my behavior I can change that, will power always seems more like something either you have or you don't. So, I am behaving my way to slimness.
"A year from now, you'll wish you had started today!"
Quote:
A number of other motivations contributed to my decision (so numberous I would need to write that book) in May 2002 to finally take control of my weight and life. I was sick (and this one's for Lucky) of waking up in the morning and wishing with all my heart that I had started the year before. I had the power to control my destiny and food was not going to rule and ruin my life anymore!!!
I had to quote you, Sara, NOT just because you mention me but because you talk about taking control and having power. I feel stronger just reading this. Thanks.
Okay, Tina I have this thread copied with a note to "remind" you of it when needed.
As I was reading Baylee's last post " I won't feel sad at it's passing as I've got a lot of good memories "...I didn't have any good memories pop into my head ...we do need a "pat on the back" / gratitude place...whether we use "Thankful Thursday" or do a daily thing I need it.
I was just thinking we have had some good suggestions and will probably have many more once all of us sober up!!! So, how are we going to do it????? Put someone in charge???? How about coming up with ideas and we could vote...there is a vote button here somewhere.... Do we want to keep everything on this one thread? I don't know if more threads always work...
Okay...I will finally close this.....with this thought...we have all seen each other ... next years pictures will show us smaller!!! BECAUSE in the infamous words of Sara: "A year from now, you'll wish you had started today!"
Hidey HO there good neighbors. Have you missed me????
I sure have missed all of you. I will try to catch up with most of you... but no promises. My daughter is sleeping just feet away from me and if I wake her up I am sure she will kick me out of here. Ssshhhh HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!!!!!!!!
I had a very NON party atomosphere New Years Eve.
I love to throw parties and plan games and decorate and I always do something that will be a "surprise" for everyone.
Once I threw myself a birthday party but did not tell anyone it was my birthday. LOL . When they arrived they saw all the gifts wrapped and were all surprised to find out they were presents "for them". They were all just silly gag gifts... but it was fun. Each gift was specially selected for that person. It really makes you feel good inside when you do nice things like that for others. It did not cost much... but gave a million dollars worth of good memories.
Anyway... tonight we just stayed home and the three of us played "Farkel" and when hubby went to bed about 10pm... my daughter and I played canasta until 2am. Whooppee. Aren't we a bunch of party animals.
My visit with my parents went pretty good. I don't think my mother will live through January though. She is really doing poorly. I just sat and held her hand. Not much more I can do. She does not get any "love or affection" from my dad or my sister. They love her I am sure... but they just don't show it. But that is a longggg story and no need to go there. As much as I don't want her to die... I am certain she will be much happier in her after life ... than the life she is living today. She is just miserable... and I am devastated seeing her suffer for so long. I want her to have peace and joy again... and this world does not offer her that option any longer.
My dad is healthier... but still going downhill. He can barely dress himself. I have had to help him dress on several occasions. Some days he is on a high.. and other days he just says he has lived too long. But I must say... he is still a go getter. He wants to go, go, go. It is soooooo sad watching him sit at the window and watch him, watch the world go by.
Enough downers... On to happier things..... to be continued......
Last edited by 2cute2Bfat; 01-01-2003 at 05:39 AM.
300+ And Ready To Try Again... #260
Here I was, in the midst of this horrible ordeal, and I was totally embarassed and mortified that someone needed lifting help. I am so tired of letting times like this be a part of my life. Times that I have sat in utter pain, because the seat I was sitting in was too small and the metal arms were digging into my legs, but I was too embarassed to say that I didn't fit. You would have thought the purple bruises all over the sides of my legs would have been enough to make me hear that "click." Or especially the time the little girl asked me, (in front of a doctors office full of people, mind you) if I could fit inside my house? Oh the things that overweight people endure.
Now, don't get me wrong. I will not be perfect. That's for sure. I will eat things that are probably not real good for me and I'm sure there will be weeks that I will gain instead of losing, but I am going to make a real and honest effort to watch every bite that goes into my mouth and take accountability for it all. This is the only body that I have and although I haven't treated it all that well in the past, it is not too late yet. I can and I WILL make a difference. 
I hope every single one of us has a wonderful New Year and we will be seeing less and less of each other............(if you know what I mean) 
I have to work tonight...:(
of course, I also know that just means I need, should, have to start doing it. So I like #1 & #2.
But then I apparently need pressure!!!!
a light bulb moment...
Do we want to keep everything on this one thread? I don't know if more threads always work...
Have you missed me????
