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neveragainbabe
07-26-2010, 11:35 PM
:mad: Okay. This morning i woke up and ate eggwhites and a banana.

Then I went to the gym for a few hours and had an AMAAAAZING workout. Tons of cardio, and burnt a lot of calories! :cb:

At five I came home and made tons of green beans, and an english muffin.

Then I ran to Walgreens to buy new eyeliner... and i COULDNT HELP IT, i walked out with a huge chocolate bar and skittles. :^: and the pathetic part is, im not "regretting eating it" in fact i'm very much enjoying it and i'm eating it as I type. (im not gonna lie through a computer screen and be like, "oh well i actually put it away and will finish it continuously throughout the week." (yeah right) )

Can I ever just go through the whole day without blowing it? Gah. There goes all the calories I worked my butt off burning.

Sorry for the rant. Can you share your tips as to how you make it through the whole day??


ddc
07-26-2010, 11:43 PM
I think somehow in our subconscience we think we 'deserve' to treat ourselves after we've done such a great workout.
It's funny how the human brain works.

I don't know the answer, cause I do it too :(

Try chewing gum next time, maybe???

Good luck:)

LacieRene
07-26-2010, 11:45 PM
It doesn't sound like you're eating very healthfully to begin with. Your body was probably feeling deprived (living off of egg whites, a little fruit and bread is NOT good) and you gave in cause you were hungry. Losing weight isn't about starving yourself, in fact, it's the best way to sabotage yourself. If you want to feel full, which will keep you from craving the bad for you stuff as much, eat more fiber and protein. You must eat, and eat often. I eat small amounts throughout the day. You want to keep from feeling hungry, but also don't stuff yourself. And giving into temptation isn't a bad thing, just not ALL the time. So don't beat yourself up over some candy. But you should start eating a more balanced diet. Good luck!


luckymommy
07-26-2010, 11:53 PM
I'm sure just about everyone here has done this before too...I know I have. The good news is that you did work out so that will offset a good deal of the calories. Just get back on track....that's what the successful people on here seem to do....if they fall, they jump back up on that horse right away. If you know that going to the store can be a trigger for you, maybe you can make a decision before entering....really think about it and visualize yourself avoiding the junk and just buying what you really need. Just a thought. Mostly, don't beat yourself up over this, since what's done is done and you can only alter the future, not the past. :)

MedChick87
07-27-2010, 12:02 AM
I agree with what others have said...beating yourself up is the one way to keep yourself off the wagon! I know from personal experience, trust me. My issue is fast food though. When I start craving a big cheeseburger I can't even get in my car without going through Wendy's! The biggest thing you can do, in my opinion, is to tell yourself that you enjoyed the chocolate and got your "fix", and tomorrow you'll be really healthy. Trust me, one candy bar won't kill you. However, if you beat yourself up about it and give up, one candy bar will lead to many more. At least that's how it goes with me. Anyway good luck to you!

therex
07-27-2010, 12:10 AM
what i do to combat cravings is to just give in! if i want a cheese burger, okay, or ice cream, pizza, cool.. and etc.

I just make my own, and make them low calories or i get the best possible option. I was soooo craving a cheeseburger today, so i made my own with ww bun, veggie patty, and tons of romaine lettuce... and it wasn't as good of course as one loaded with bacon, but it totally satisfied my craving. Recently i was craving a chocolate bar, so i got the oikos 110 cal chocolate passion greek yogurt.. soooo good. I actually enjoyed it more than i could possibly enjoy a chocolate bar because i put strawberries and almonds in there, and there was absolutely no guilt afterward.

I think you just have to experiment with what works for you.. best of luck!

SheGos91
07-27-2010, 12:12 AM
I have a problem with thinking after working really hard for a week or two I feel like I am entitled to chocolate and pizza and crap food. I just try to remember my goal and if I do treat myself I will treat myself to ONE treat.

duckchick
07-27-2010, 12:38 AM
Don't get mad, just enjoy the treat, as others already said. Also, I agree with Lacierene, eat more protein and such, and perhaps the cravings will become less. They do for me. My own problem was similar, I wasn't eating enough and not the right stuff. I'm trying to adjust to what will work for me, but it takes more work to find out, lol!

pferde01
07-27-2010, 12:39 AM
I can definitely connect w/this feeling.

I went to a weight loss center and the doctor told me that exercise is sometimes counter productive to weight loss because we do tend to treat ourselves. That being said, I have grabbed M & Ms at the check out even on days I don't exercise so cravings are cravings hehe.

I have recently come across a program that actually promotes eating food you enjoy, it talks about the cycle of deprivation and it makes a lot of sense to me. http://bit.ly/9cR1c9 I have taken a few of the seminars (there are a few weeks left in the series) and it's definitely connected with me. Because for me when I "diet" - I obsess about being on plan AND obsess about the next time I plan to treat myself. So it's really unhealthy mentally either way lol and I know for me that my emotions steer the ship - its not that I don't know what good food decisions are you know? Not sure if I'm allowed to link but its called Losing Weight, Gaining You by Paula Guilfoyle.

skygirl
07-27-2010, 01:38 AM
I agree with some of the other posters that you may not be taking in enough calories of healthy foods, so you are hungry, and working out can increase that hunger. Maybe try to add in lots of protein and veggies throughout the day. And be prepared with a protein meal or snack within half and hour after your workout too. Good luck! :)

Windchime
07-27-2010, 01:56 AM
I work next door to a Walgreens so I understand the temptation of the candy. However, I would caution you against saying things like, "I couldn't help it" when talking about buying candy. I'm a big believer in taking responsibility for what I put into my mouth, so I try to avoid phrases like that because I don't want to fool myself into believing that I'm powerless against temptation. I'm not, and neither are you. So I do really feel strongly about the vocabulary that I use with respect to my diet.

Having said that, it really does help me to resist temptation when I'm not hungry. If I have allowed myself to eat and feel satisfied with lots of good, healthy food, then the siren song of the candy is much easier to resist. And I find that the more days that pass without me indulging in sweet stuff, the less I want it.

Just a few thoughts. Move on--you can't undo the candy that you ate, so just start again now with new resolve!

asharksrevenge
07-27-2010, 04:08 AM
I agree with windchime. I'm for personal responsibility and it is a pet peeve of mine when someone claims they can't help it or they didn't mean to eat their craving food, it "just happened." What I can't stand about that cop-out is the very likely fact that the speaker stood in line, waited for the cashier to ring them up, got their money out, paid for their candy/soda/cheeseburger and drove home. The whole time their mind is saying not to eat what they've bought. They shut the voice down with excuses like they deserved to eat it because they've worked so hard or had a rough day, etc. Then the voice is allowed back after they've eaten the offended article, and the whole cycle of guilt begins again.

I get the temptation, I completely do. I am tempted often. But the difference is, if I give in to my temptation, I'll just pick myself up and keep going and I will make a point not to imagine I wasn't aware of every single second of it. That way, I am accountable for my own actions (and I'll enjoy every second of that craving food!).

Just my two cents.

JayEll
07-27-2010, 07:35 AM
Suppose someone was trying to quit smoking, and they went to Walgreen's for something or other, and then at the checkout they bought a pack of cigarettes because they "couldn't help it" and then proceeded to smoke them.

It's a similar process with the chocolate and Skittles.

Whatever voice in your head is whispering that it's OK, you just have to learn to say No and mean it. Until you do, you can go around this cycle every day.

I think you should also eat more of the good foods your body needs. The way your story reads, you ate eggwhites, a banana, some green beans, and an English muffin from breakfast to 5 p.m. and you did a hard workout. That's not enough real food to keep you going. You were probably hungry on top of the temptation.

Plan your meals in advance and have the foods at the ready. Eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Make sure you have some form of protein at every meal or snack. And have healthy snacks around that you can fall back on when hunger strikes. Instead of caving in on the candy, get yourself home to one of these good snacks instead.

Hang in there! Good luck!
Jay

rockinrobin
07-27-2010, 07:59 AM
Don't get mad, just enjoy the treat,

I'm sorry, but it's thinking like that that will have you running around in circles - yo-yo ing back and forth on the scale.

I think it's perfectly fine to be disappointed with yourself for eating healthy/exercising all day and then eating some crap. Although I agree with the others - your menu really isn't all THAT healthy, but I digress. The second I stop feeling badly about un-planned so called treats, that's the minute I'm steps away from being 287 lbs again.

To get to and be a healthy weight takes MINDFULNESS, maturity, awareness and RESPONSIBILITY. No, you can't always get what you want, not if you want something much better. It's okay to tell yourself no. In fact, it's a must.

You can't give into momentary whims. You're not a spoiled brat. You have to make mature, reasonable, careful decisions. You don't drive recklessly, you shouldn't eat recklessly.

Do you plan out your meals and snacks ahead of time? If not, I think it's a MUST. It sure as heck is for me. Eating healthy doesn't happen on it's own. You can't wing it. It takes a concerted, conscientious, continuous effort. You've got to PLAN for it. Much easier to stay on plan, when you've got one.

And I agree with windchime (shocking, I know ;)) - making statements, thinking that "i COULDNT HELP IT" is just a bunch of nonsense. It's giving yourself permission TO eat the stuff. Of course you could have helped it. Why the heck not? Stop giving the food so much power. You have the ability, you ARE capable of saying no.

You've got to put blinders on in those places - and again - tell yourself no. You've got to stick to your plan. You can't have it both ways. You have to decide what you want the MOST - one minute of *pleasure* or the all day long wonderful feeling of adhering to a healthy eating plan and the results that you get from it.

Make a plan that's full of delicious, lower calorie foods to keep you satiated and satisfied. When you're content with what you're eating, it's much easier to say no. But it does take time to get there. In the meantime - you've just got to force yourself, push yourself as you establish new healthy habits and learn to say no to yourself about certain things (the junk) and YES to yourself about the HEALTHY things - adhering to your plan full of voluminous, healthy, tasty foods.

ddc
07-27-2010, 10:17 AM
I forgot which book this is from (I've read soooooo many diet books), but the author had a phrase for when she was tempted by treat foods-she would say "not an option". So when you go to pick up that candy bar at the checkout, just say "not an option" and do not buy it. She also ate baby carrots as her snack when she was craving something that was not on her plan.

ThicknPretty
07-27-2010, 10:34 AM
Hmm...compared to what I did this past weekend, you're an angel. :p I wish chocolate and skittles were the worst of my sins! (Krispy Kreme, that's all I'm gonna say...)

Here's the thing...you should feel a little bad. You should feel kind of guilty and yucky. If you don't, that's a little bit of a sign that your mentality has not changed or shifted into your new lifestyle. Once you become fully committed to being healthy and making good choices, you WILL feel bad when you slip up.

However, I have learned this time around that beating myself up and wallowing in the guilt and sorrow and indulging in slow motion instant replays of every bite I shouldn't have taken will only pull me down farther and make it harder to get back on track. So when I mess up, I kind of give myself a little smack and grumble and moan...and then dust myself off and promptly move ON with it. It's the only way. You will never be perfect and will likely have more slip ups along your journey...it's what you do after the slip up that matters the most.

We're all human...

rockinrobin
07-27-2010, 11:46 AM
I forgot which book this is from (I've read soooooo many diet books), but the author had a phrase for when she was tempted by treat foods-she would say "not an option". So when you go to pick up that candy bar at the checkout, just say "not an option" and do not buy it. She also ate baby carrots as her snack when she was craving something that was not on her plan.

Yes. This is what I do. I've decided that I won't *eat that way* any longer. It's no longer an option. I don't have to even THINK about it. There is no more should I?/shouldn't I? going through my head. I just don't do that anymore - it's not an option. Nothing to even contemplate. Move on...

gardenerjoy
07-27-2010, 11:55 AM
Another good one is "That's not about me." Works great on holiday candy displays. "That's not about me" and move on to whatever task had me in that store in the first place.

I ultimately had to make a rule "No eating anything purchased in drugstores or gas stations." It took awhile, but now my cravings associated with those places have gone away and I no longer even consider going inside when I buy gas or perusing the candy aisle when I go to Walgreens. If I'm in the mood for perusing something at Walgreens, I head for the magazines and paperbacks.

As I was eating my nectarine this morning, I thought "who needs candy?" It really does get to the point where a nectarine tastes that good!

thesame7lbs
07-27-2010, 05:21 PM
One thing I'm trying to do is learn from my slip-ups. I have learned I cannot put away the leftover cupcakes if I've had more than one glass of wine, for example.

Another one of my weaknesses is if I have to go to the supermarket at night, after dinner, usually for milk or something for the kids' lunches the next day. So I learned that before I go, I have to think about it ahead of time and plan for the temptations -- the ice cream aisle, the smells from the bakery section (which I often can't avoid if we need milk or bread), the candy at the checkout. So now, if I have to go to the supermarket, I tell myself ahead of time, "I will get only what is on my list. I do not need a sweet treat." It really is so much easier if I have reminded myself ahead of time what my priorities are, before I'm staring temptation in the face.

Think about your trouble spots or challenging situations, and next time you have to go to Walgreens, or step inside a gas station, or get money from the ATM at 7-eleven (another of my former trouble spots), plan in advance.

kellost
07-27-2010, 05:39 PM
Just want to say, I totally relate to this! I have a problem with binging on candy. Halloween has always been a favorite holiday for me, and I know it's because of the candy!

I recently returned from a vacation and my scale is up, up, up! I felt pretty down about it the other day, and I happened to be at Walgreens. You can probably guess what I did...bought way too much candy and ate every bit of it! It is like shooting myself in the foot. I am to the point where I need to ban myself from candy, because I am that crazy over it! Candy is my enemy and my obsession.

Just wanted you to know, you are not the only one. I try to remind myself that these are such empty calories. No nutritional value at all. Chewing gum does help me sometimes also.

girlonfire
07-27-2010, 06:39 PM
Hmmm it's kinda hard to tell the advice to give you without your history with food. Everyone works a little differently. Robin's advice worked out GREAT for her, but for me there are no forbidden foods. But I have huge bingeing/bulimia problems, so obviously what works for her is going to drive me further. I subscribe to the "French" approach which is to eat delicious, healthy foods, and small amounts of rich foods sometimes. Not a crummy chocolate bar from a drugstore, but maybe a small piece of rich, delicious fudge or dark chocolate. That helps keep me on track and keep me from going to those horrible foods. But I don't know your relationship with food, so I can only say what works for me.

If you don't have those kinds of problems, then I would take her advice. A little bit of guilt keeps us on track, but excessive guilt could lead to problems down the road. And I am with everyone else on upping your food intake- a lot. A workout that lasts a few HOURS with only that for fuel would make me pass out. Good luck on continuing your journey! :)


P.S. I hope this post didn't make it sound like I was putting down someone's advice. Just offering an alternative. We are all different :)

beerab
07-27-2010, 06:41 PM
If you didn't eat anything from breakfast until 5 pm no wonder you did that- you really must eat every few hours to keep from sabotaging yourself!

TXMary2
07-27-2010, 06:55 PM
If I had done the exercise you did and ate so little beforehand I would have eaten my own left arm. Don't beat yourself up, but don't let yourself off the hook either.

My advice (take it or leave it) and my opinion is that for some people having "forbidden foods" will just strenghten the obsession. If I know I can choose it and it works into my calories then I will choose it. I can walk past the bakery, fast food and not "have to have it" but I can also choose it and be ok with it. My rules are it must be in my calories and it must be a reasonable portion.

The good news is you worked out. Just forgive yourself, take note of what you did wrong (not eating enough earlier) and try not to repeat it.

Elijahs phoenix
07-27-2010, 07:05 PM
I can totally relate right now! I'm beating myself up as we speak. I took the dogs out today for a 2 hour walk,got back and me and hubby got in a little fight, by that time it was 3PM and I hadn't eaten anything since breakfast and we had nothing in the house, I was starving so we went out to a Chinese buffet:hun: I skipped the soda and had only one plate of mostly shrimp with veggies and sushi but I did have a piece of lemon meringue pie for dessert and a small 1"x1" chocolate cake. Now because it was so late It was both lunch and dinner but, I feel so bad because It wasn't on my plan and I have know idea how many calories I ate:frypan: I agree If I get to hungry I loose self control!

jay12
07-27-2010, 07:35 PM
[QUOTE=rockinrobin;3405857]I'm sorry, but it's thinking like that that will have you running around in circles - yo-yo ing back and forth on the scale.

I think it's perfectly fine to be disappointed with yourself for eating healthy/exercising all day and then eating some crap. Although I agree with the others - your menu really isn't all THAT healthy, but I digress. The second I stop feeling badly about un-planned so called treats, that's the minute I'm steps away from being 287 lbs again.

To get to and be a healthy weight takes MINDFULNESS, maturity, awareness and RESPONSIBILITY. No, you can't always get what you want, not if you want something much better. It's okay to tell yourself no. In fact, it's a must.

You can't give into momentary whims. You're not a spoiled brat. You have to make mature, reasonable, careful decisions. You don't drive recklessly, you shouldn't eat recklessly.

Do you plan out your meals and snacks ahead of time? If not, I think it's a MUST. It sure as heck is for me. Eating healthy doesn't happen on it's own. You can't wing it. It takes a concerted, conscientious, continuous effort. You've got to PLAN for it. Much easier to stay on plan, when you've got one.

And I agree with windchime (shocking, I know ;)) - making statements, thinking that "i COULDNT HELP IT" is just a bunch of nonsense. It's giving yourself permission TO eat the stuff. Of course you could have helped it. Why the heck not? Stop giving the food so much power. You have the ability, you ARE capable of saying no.

You've got to put blinders on in those places - and again - tell yourself no. You've got to stick to your plan. You can't have it both ways. You have to decide what you want the MOST - one minute of *pleasure* or the all day long wonderful feeling of adhering to a healthy eating plan and the results that you get from it.

Make a plan that's full of delicious, lower calorie foods to keep you satiated and satisfied. When you're content with what you're eating, it's much easier to say no. But it does take time to get there. In the meantime - you've just got to force yourself, push yourself as you establish new healthy habits and learn to say no to yourself about certain things (the junk) and YES to yourself about the HEALTHY things - adhering to your plan full of voluminous, healthy, tasty foods.[/QUOTE


I AGREEE WITH ALOT OF THE THINGS U SAY!!!!

jay12
07-27-2010, 07:46 PM
IF YOU FIND YOUR SELF UNABLE TO SAY NO TO CERTAIN FOODS YOU ARE IN BIG TROUBLE. THATS HOW MANY OF US WENT BACK TO BEING OVER WEIGHT!!!!! IT ALWAYS STARTS WITH THE LITTLE THINGS LIKE CANDY FROM WALGREENS. TELLING URSELF WELL I WORKED OUT TODAY ITS OK. NO ITS NOT OK!!!!!!


its hard to say NO to alot of things when ur trying to lose weight. but for most of us here this is gonna be a constant battle. We need to take control and be able to say NO! I go through this alot myself and only eat what i want when I know i have worked my a** off all week at the gym and i have been sticking to my regular meals. Even when i 'TREAT' myself i try to not over do it and i must admit sometimes i do but thats something i have to constantly wrk on everyday but i feel so much more in control now than ever. Every time i want something not healthy i remind myself how depressed i was back then.

waiting2exhale
07-28-2010, 06:11 PM
eat a big fat juicy pickle! it works for me sometimes! then after all the salt thats in them makes me no longer crave any sweet or salty!