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11-15-2007, 03:19 PM
We've gotten to 7 pages (and counting!) talking about the people that irritate us. Given that this is Thanksgiving month, and all, what about the "anti-jerks" - the people who go out of their way to make your life better? Post about your anti-jerks here. I'll start.

1. The woman at the checkout line at Michaels who, after looking at my cart of Christmas craft supplies and wrapping equipment, said "You're better than Martha Stewart!". I have been riding high on that comment since the weekend.

2. The boy scouts who, after seeing my mom and dad on the side of the road when they were in a motorcycle accident, loaded my mom into the back of their boyscout van, applied first aid from their handy-dandy first aid kit, and drove her to the hospital. They were in a semi-rural area, and she would have waited a LONG time for an ambulance (she was non-critical, but hurting).

3. Every single person who has ever gotten out of their car to help someone push their car through an intersection/out of a parking space/over to the side of the road when the car stopped working or wouldn't start. They are the antidote to the people who honk at your stalled car, as if you're sitting in the middle of the lane for fun.

4. The person who paid my bridge toll going through the Bay bridge a few months back. It not only made me happy, it inspired me to do it too, which made me even happier.

11-15-2007, 03:26 PM
Yay Amanda, great idea!

1. The person in front of you in the checkout line who places the divider in back of their stuff, so you can load your stuff onto the belt without a problem. Especially if you don't have a basket and your arms are loaded.

2. The ushers at church who actually make sure people are seated comfortably and who direct the parents with screaming babies to the crying room in back.

3. The unending support and cheering section of wonderful men and women here at 3FC.

11-15-2007, 03:26 PM
Excellent idea!

I'd like to nominate my brother. As most of you know, my mom passed away in May. My brother is executor of her estate. He has done an awsome job of keeping track of every little detail and making sure her wishes were carried out. He even went so far as to take the investments and cash them in before the stocks started plummeting and set up a trust account for us. He called today and is quite sad because of all this, but has done an excellent job of protecting everything while probate is getting ready to close. Thank you, Brother.

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11-15-2007, 03:31 PM
1. Every driver who has been extra careful and courteous, backing up from their driveway to let me go on through with my bike.

2. Polite people, in general - those who say please, thank you, and excuse me in a genuinely pleasant tone always make me smile.

3. Pleasant people who bother to actually smile.

4. My neighbor who constantly tells me how gorgeous I am and that I look like a model.

5. My very awesome boss who gave me an excellent recommendation for the new job I applied for (right now, I work temp for the city, but I'm trying to get a permanent position that also has a great salary:D). He is also very friendly and never breathes down my neck - as long as I get my job done, he pretty much leaves me alone. He's great.

6. One of the delivery guys at GatorFood (multi-restaurant ordering service) always brings me free food. I like him. :)

7. Every wonderful, supportive person on this forum.

11-15-2007, 03:48 PM
1. Thanks to our customers who pay their bills on time. You don't know how much easier it makes my job!

2. Thanks to my DD's band teacher who wrote her a GLOWING letter of recommendation for college.

3. Thanks to the Dean of Admissions who hand wrote a personal message on the bottom of her letter of acceptance.

4. Thanks to my daughter who named me as her hero!

5. Thanks to the patio furniture salesman who jumped over hurdles to make sure I could get my new set before Thanksgiving when I'm expecting 25 for dinner.

I know there is more, but my mind is not on task right now. I'll add more if I can remember the one the other day that made me say "that was so nice!"

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11-15-2007, 03:50 PM
Great idea.
I would like to list my mother. I am having 9 people over to my house for thanksgiving. She is the only one who gave cash to assist with all the groceries. Everyone else just offered to bring a dish. She gave $100 towards the grocery bill...knowing the hostess always has the highest grocery bill. Thanks mom.

11-15-2007, 03:55 PM
Thanks to my parents for randomly sending me small cash gifts for no reason other than to make sure I do something fun over the weekend. I'm thankful to have such wonderful parents, even IF they don't approve of my relationship with another woman... they are still supportive of every other aspect of my life.

Thanks to my girlfriend for being supportive of... everything, including my weight loss journey which she was originally very indifferent towards.

11-15-2007, 04:08 PM
The top nominees here are:

1. Hubby's boss, an engineer. He goes out of his way for us. Offered us a personal loan before he could get the company president to finally make room in the budget to hire hubby on full-time with a nice raise. He's also come out to the house to check a water leak when the home warranty plumber couldn't figure it out. His boss figured it out. ;)

2. My brother. He's helped us out of jams in the past. In fact, he's helped nearly everyone in our family at one point or another. He helps others as well. And he saved a kid's life one time by crawling through raging water that the boy got sucked through from a side tunnel, while everyone else stood around waiting on the cops.

3. My neighbor. I've become pretty handy around the house, since we bought a house that needed some remodeling and hubby's hours keep him away all the time. But trying to put up a fence while watching my son was difficult. Not to mention, I just didn't have the upper body strength to break through the rocky ground with that post hole digger. My neighbor came over and spent several hours helping me build the fence. He's helped me with a few other tasks and has loaned me a lot of tools to save us buying them.

11-15-2007, 04:38 PM
My boyfriend. I had an itchy scratchy throat yesterday and left for work too late to stop and pick up lozenges. He made a special trip all the way out to my office at lunch to personally deliver Wild Cherry Halls and chewable Vitamin C.

11-15-2007, 06:01 PM
DH - who is so supportive in everything I do.

My friends - who still support me and love me, even when I am too busy to spend quality time with them.

My DIL - who doesn't baby our DS and holds him accountable when he gets selfish.

My boss - who is the most supportive and understanding person. He notices and values all the little things I do.

Everyone that parks in the proper parking space and leaves the handicapped spaces for those that need it.

11-15-2007, 06:14 PM
People who, when in line at the grocery store with a full cart, let the person with a single pack of gum go ahead of them.

People who hold doors for you when you're on crutches or have arms full of bags/stuff/children.

11-15-2007, 06:20 PM
People who haven't forgotten courtesey for elders or those who are infirmed in some way.

11-15-2007, 06:34 PM
The residents of Pensacola who pull over to the side of the road everytime a funeral procession passes in the opposite direction. (This might be done all over the south, but I first witnessed it when I moved here.) That's mighty respectful, ya'll. ;)

11-15-2007, 06:45 PM
People who let you over in major traffic if you're stuck behind an obstacle of some kind (ie, a car stalls in your lane and you can't move around it because the cars are flying past on either side).

The girl in the gym locker room who told me that I looked really good every time she saw me.

11-15-2007, 06:55 PM
The people who let you into their lane (they are merging from a place like a gas station) when the traffic is long.

people who hold the door open for others, even if you don't have something in your hands (manners are always appreciated)

people who actually remember to say thank you when you do something nice, like hold a door open

mandallin took my other idea- people who let someone with one or 2 items in a store go ahead of them.

people who spend free time working with any volunteer organization weather its homeless, habitat for humanity, adoption agencies etc.

and of corse all the wonderful supportive people here.

11-15-2007, 09:26 PM
Oh I like this a lot. There are days when remembering kindness really perks me up!

That man who blessed me on the way out of the grocery store tonight and told me all my dreams would come true.

Strangers who wish eachother a pleasant day after spending only moments together. Like on an elevator.

My mother who sends me postcards, trinkets, small giftcards & cash (and sometimes change :lol:) just because. <3 I should go call her....

11-15-2007, 09:52 PM
Faerie - me too! And the Jerk thread needed a happy, uplifting counterpart.

My partner, who when I said I was sort of dreading the idea of cooking dinner (I'm sick...really, bone-achingly, possibly the flu sick and it just seems like it would take so much energy), came home with soup, cold medicine, and sugar free popsicles without even being asked.

My mom, who calls to check on me and just to tell me things that remind her of me so we stay connected.

People who send cards, postcards, notes, or letters, in the mail, for any event or just because. It is so nice to get mail!

The woman in the apartment complex who forgave my rent being late at least 5-6 times (and the accompanying late fee) after I apologized and told her that my previous employer was not giving me my checks on time.

The nurse at the doctor's office who, when I had to get stitches, saw that I was creeped out and distracted me with conversations about my healthy lifestyle changes (I was about 1/2 through my weight loss by then, and she NOTICED).

11-16-2007, 01:05 AM
Thank you to people that CAR POOL!

Thank you to people that can drive without holding their cell phone...thus making the world a safer place!

Thank you to my wife for allowing me to make my "WOW!" comments, when we watch Ghost Whisperer on date night, and doesn't get jealous.

Thanks Babe for allowing me to be your equal out in public even though you own me! :)

11-16-2007, 09:26 AM
1. People who are polite ("Please" and "Thank You" seem to not be in some peoples' vocabulary anymore!)

2. People who hold the door for you

3. People who don't judge me solely on my tattoos!

11-16-2007, 09:52 AM
Hah, I have to add people who don't judge me solely by my appearance on that list, too! :D In bigger cities,short, wild, spikey hair is not uncommon on girls, but down here, all women are supposed to have long hair. Anything else is pretty much unfeminine :lol:

I have piercings, which makes some (mostly older) people think I'm uneducated, into drugs, or both, so it's nice when they give me a chance to show them I'm pretty much the exact opposite of what they initially assumed.

I also like people who don't think I'm just "trying to be cool" just because I don't dress in a conservative and boring manner.

11-16-2007, 02:05 PM
The girl at Fleet Feet who made me feel better about my giant feet by taking off her shoes and showing me the up from mine!

My former personal trainer who, even though I haven't paid for a session with him in over 8 months, corrects my form if he sees me doing something wrong.

11-16-2007, 02:15 PM
The girl at Fleet Feet who made me feel better about my giant feet by taking off her shoes and showing me the up from mine!

Now I must know... how big are your feet? :) I went from a 9W to an 8 1/2W just because of the weight loss.

11-16-2007, 02:22 PM
11. They used to be an 11W. Now they are just an 11 with normal width.

It stinks because most shoe stores don't carry the pretty girly running shoes in that size, so I have to wear men's shoes, and they aren't cute! I want some pink shoes!

11-16-2007, 02:56 PM
My DH for being the sweet man he is and putting up with me, lol.

My youngest son for wanting to put Christmas lights on the house. We didn't plan on doing too much because too many eaves and such.

The guy at Verizon for being so helpful.

11-16-2007, 03:02 PM
The girl at Comcast for being so helpful, also. PSA to all 3fc'ers with Comcast - if you call their customer service and you are paying full, non-promotional prices and have been for at least 3 months, you can get whatever "new member" promo they are running currently. Just call 1-800-Comcast, go through their voice menu to say you want to upgrade your service, and ask them if your account qualifies for any promotions. After the promotion they put you on expires, you have to wait 3 months to qualify again, but we just saved $240 over the next 6 months in ADDITION to getting two additional premium channels that we didn't have before. Just make sure you put it on your calendar to downgrade your service back to the previous levels before they charge you full price when the promotion expires.

11-16-2007, 03:16 PM
11? OOOO your feet are even bigger than miiiiine, mandalinn!!! :D (ok ok ok I probably got put on the jerk list now :o)

Mine aren't wide; just moderately long. They've been a 9.5-10 since I was... err... 13. In 8th grade, everyone constantly told me how big my feet were. I actually took pride in it because I thought it would mean that I would be tall. I wanted to be tall because a growth spurt in height meant an excuse for being so chubby!

I'm still not tall, but I'm surprised at how many women I magically tower over, as well as some men.

11-16-2007, 03:24 PM
My partner is a 12. And YES, jerk list for you!

11-16-2007, 03:43 PM
See, I honestly never knew why women with big feet got self conscious about it.

Is it supposed to be unladylike and/or ugly? I personally think it's just FRUSTRATING because so many cute/HOT shoes are never in my size. :( The girlfriend and I wear the same shoe size, so we hunt for nice ones together.

Now, I actually have a friend who buys men's shoes because her feet are bigger than most women's departments will offer.

SHE has BIG feet. :)

11-16-2007, 03:56 PM
I want to add customers who realize that I'm not hindering their receiving of goods in any way, I'm just the middleman.

I get loads of customers who put ample amounts of pressure on me to "have it their way", and I hate telling people no :(

11-16-2007, 04:02 PM
People who treat the people providing them with service respectfully. I really try hard to say, at the beginning of a customer service call where I am really heated or upset, "I know that you didn't cause this problem. I am just trying to get it resolved".

11-16-2007, 06:51 PM
Passengers who give up their seats to seniors and anyone with a physical challenge.

11-16-2007, 07:03 PM
Doctors who actually care about their patients well being.

and City employees who plow snow off the sidewalks at request.

11-16-2007, 07:12 PM
People who apologize for calling our house by accident; some days I have trouble walking very well.

People who let you out of your parking spot when it's busy, like Fridays.

The store clerks who ask you if they can help you.

The cashiers who tell you of a special you missed.

Strangers who compliment me for no reason.

Family and Friends who send me emails just to brighten my day.

Those who send me jokes for the same reason.

People who remember me and send me a Birthday or Christmas card.

The lady who stopped to help us when our car overheated and showed us where we could get some water just up the road; then drove with us to a friend's place afterwards to make sure we were OK!

People who are kind, thoughtful, and generous to strangers; like the man who offered to help me up some steps one day when I was limping along with my cane.

11-16-2007, 07:26 PM
I want to second the "People who are polite when they dial a wrong number". I got up, I answered the is nice to be thanked.

People who use their turn signals when changing lanes.

People who, when you let them into your lane because there is traffic and you're being nice, give you a wave to acknowledge that you went out of your way to let them in.

11-16-2007, 11:36 PM
BIG FOOT...feet at our house...

Angie is 5'5"....size 10 narrow
My daughter is 5' 10" size 10 wide
Step-d is 5' 8" size 10 regular
Son 6' 4" size 13
Nephew 6' 0" size 12
Me 6' 0" size 11

11-29-2007, 12:34 AM
Teenagers who hold the door for an elderly couple behind them.

The woman who found $10 on the ground, a few seconds later noticed me discovering I'd lost $10, and said "did you lose something?" and handed it back to me instead of walking away.

And I have to agree with EZ on this one ... people with big feet. Definitely a sign of strong moral character. :lol:

11-29-2007, 12:42 AM
People who DON'T push and shove and get generally rude just because it's the Christmas shopping season.

12-10-2007, 07:11 PM
I want to add...

The women who hardly knew my mom, who have arranged for 2 meals for two people to be dilevered to my parents house for the next 10 weeks so that my mom won't have to worry about food on her chemo days.

The friends and family that have gone out of their way to help my mom go shopping, get her to and from the hospital and to all of her appointments. Almost all who have taken time off work and away from their families to help mine.

My best friend who has listened to my whining, complaining and fears over the last many many months. And for constistantly bringing the lowfat frozen yogurt instead of the high fat icecream when were having a girl talk...

12-11-2007, 12:12 AM
the new man in my life is an anti-jerk because he is wonderful to me, loves me the way i am, treats me well and has been an amazing addition to my life. :carrot: