Consider the source:
3.5 oz of wine = aprx 85 calories.
Who do you know that drinks ONLY 3.5 oz of wine?
I know that when I feel like having wine, I drink at least 6-8 oz. So that's DOUBLE the 85 calories (170 calories!) and usually I will also have a SECOND glass... so that's another 170 calories (340 calories!) My breakfast sandwich is less than that!
8 oz of red wine is aprx 193 calories.
Can you drink just ONE glass of wine & be happy with that? Because 193 calories is pretty doable in most any diet.