So, after a lengthy discussion, DH and I have decided to wait just a little bit longer. There are a couple of really big life changes coming up for us in the next year or so and the thought of adding a third child to the mix at the same time was causing me no small amount of anxiety. We're not waiting long, the plan is 6 months and then start trying again. I'm not going on any sort of hormonal BC (or getting my IUD put back in). My baby Eli is evidence of my ability to use condoms with any regularity, but we're going to try to wait just 6 more months. That way, by the time baby arrives, DH will be done with grad school (hallelujah chorus!), he'll be in his new pay grade (WAY more money) and we might possibly be able to move into a bigger place (we have 2 bedrooms right now.) I'm also on a really good track with my therapy right now, getting some of these food issues dealt with, and I think I can get down to my #1 PPW in that time, too (197.) Or, at least get closer than I am now.
Things might change again, but this is where I am right now. I feel so much more peace today, having made the decision to wait 6 more months.
I'll let you know when we get a BFP... no more false alarms about TTC!