Thanks for the replies...I am doing calorie counting since that is what worked for me before.
He is overweight as well and has talked about making changes himself but so far he hasn't made any effort to eat healthier with me. However, he has said he would exercise with me-walking together and stuff but we haven't gone together yet.
I am worried about having children so you hit a nerve there! We already know we have fertility problems aside from weight...he has been told by 2 doctors that he is sterile for some unknown reason. I am praying that fertility experts in a few years will be able to figure something out...if not maybe donor sperm or adoption.
I love him very much and he treats me like a princess.
As he tells me...as long as we want to be with each other we can work through anything together. I really need him to balance my obsessive personality lol as he's more laid back.
I am trying to do this in a health way (before I didn't really eating only 1000 cals a day...not healthy weight loss) but this time I am starting around 1600 and can cut back as needed. I feel really good about this and have been going about a week now and doing great!
And Beerab....I will keep that last part in mind! Lol he is always trying to get me to just take a bite of whatever he is having...like "one bite won't hurt" Yes it will!