I don't remember a time when the numbers were unimportant, because I've had a weight problem nearly all of my life (I was very thin until age 5, but I don't really remember those years).
I was put on my first diet when I was 5. I was a Weight Watcher's member for the first time at age 8 of 9 (the youngest age you could join - if you were with a parent and you had a doctor's permission slip).
I spent a lot of time in the mindset problems and the OCD, but this time I vowed to be different, and vowed to let go of the stress. Stress hormones actually make weight loss more difficult, so managing stress is actually part of my plan this time. I've learned to get rid of the stress and guilt.
I don't let the numbers put me into a tailspin. For many years, I followed the advice to only weight weekly or even monthly to avoid the inevitable stress and panic of the scale. Now I weigh daily, and I learned that scale ups and downs don't inevitably result in stress and panic. I don't stress the fluctuations. I don't stress whether my calorie counts are uber-precise. I use an exchange plan, so serving sizes and calorie counts are estimates (each off by as much as 20 calories).
I do keep a health journal, and in it I log my daily weight, food, my exercise, health symptoms, even the weather (because weather plays a role in my fibromyalgia and arthritis). I write it all down, I even give myself "stickers" for each pound loss, and each exercise session (20 minutes or longer).
But no guilt trips. Every time I go down that path, I remind myself of my promise to myself - no stress, no guilt trips.
When I started I had to remind myself alot, but now it's the rare occasion that I get upset or guilty or obsessed. Weight loss is a priority in my life, but not the only priority. Not even the top priority, and that is ok. I get to decide how much effort, stress, and guilt I put into this.
Ironically (or maybe not, maybe it's entirely rational), but I've never succeeded longer, and have never lost as much weight as I have since declaring weight loss a guilt/obsession/stress-free zone.
Last edited by kaplods; 08-15-2010 at 11:27 PM.