Hi, Turtles,
Lauren, I'm really glad to hear that your exercise program is working out so well. (Hmmm... I didn't intend that pun, but I'm not taking it out. It's got to be at least a two groaner!

) Congrats on the lost inches! The pounds will surely follow.
It's also interesting to me to hear that it took about three months for exercise to become a habit that you look forward to. I guess I've never stuck it out long enough. I planned to set an exercise goal starting this month, now that I'm back on track with the rest of the program.
I think it's also really great that you've written down the pizza and Chinese and estimated the points. I know that for you, that really helps. It does for me, too.
I envy you your bookstore date. Paul and I used to do that. It was easy because there was a bookstore with lots of comfy chairs and a coffe place right across the street. And if we wanted a change, there were two more within a five or ten minute drive. Here, we have two small bookstores with no chairs and the same, limited stock.
Kimmers, first, congrats on the large loss. You're on your way, again.
I know that perfectionist mentality very well. I used to copy lists over if I made a mistake. I got tired of wasting time on being that picky, so I decided to work on learning how to do the best job that was appropriate for the occasion. Now, after many years of practice, I cross out the mistakes on the list, but I still take a great deal of care in the kitchen. The important thing is to learn to stop and think about those little choices. When I slip, I learned to think of it as a learning experience instead of proof that I'm a complete failure who will never get there. Then, I learned to step back and look at the experience, learn from it and move on. That way of thinking isolates that one slip, which helps to keep it from becoming a pattern. I don't think any of us every learn to do anything perfectly, but we can do better, once we figure out what gets us moving in the right direction.
Why do you say that wearing a swimsuit means you're in denial? It's only because our culture says that only people who are the "right" weight should wear one that you think that you shouldn't. If we take that idea to it's logical conclusion, 90% of the population would never go swimming or to the beach, since at least that many people don't look like the ideal. Wow! We could take advantage of uncrowded beaches. Wouldn't that be great?

Anyway, I believe in the attitude that we're more successful with our weight loss goals if we don't "wait until we're thin" to do anything that is within our physical abilities. I'd definitely go swimming, but not try to run a marathon or dance en pointe!
Judy, that mall turned out to be a corner with four separate sets of stores. It's all strung out. You can really walk your feet off. There were five (five!) china outlet stores. I was in heaven! There were at least four kitchen stores. But mostly there were the usual clothing and shoe stores. There's a Bose outlet store, which is Paul's favorite.
I finally did my official weigh-in. I'm really turtlin'. One pound for the month of March. PMS really did me in, but I'll get that worked out, somehow.
Now, I have to get through this day. I'm afraid that Paul and I are going to have a major disagreement this evening and I'm feeling a bit stressed about it. There's an art store opening in the mall closest to our apartment and he wants me to apply for a job. I have so much retail experience that he's sure I can get one. I started temping to get out of retail. I was tired of putting up with all of the bad things about retail for such low pay and no respect. Then I went back to school to get out of temping. So, we moved and I had to drop out of school. So, I signed up at the temp agency. They haven't had any work for me. Now, Paul wants me to check out retail work again. I'm going backwards. I feel like my whole life has spun totally out of my control and someone is pressuring me to choose the life from Hades!
There are only two positive things about the idea. The work is in Salinas, close enough for me to walk during the hours Paul has the car. And it will bring in some extra money, the amount depending on whether or not they have management positions open.
I keep wondering if maybe the problem is my attitude. Most of the people I know think that I need to grow up and just do whatever it takes to get by. Take any job I can get because Paul's at the top of his salary range and it's not enough to live on in this area. Accept that my family will not do very much of the housework or any other chores and if that means that I spend most of my time working, either outside of the home or inside, welcome to reality.
I really feel sick inside at the thought of giving up every dream I've ever had because grownups in my situation have to do that. Paul keeps saying that most people don't get to do what they want. I keep pointing out that he likes the work he does, even if it wasn't his first choice of careers. And I tell him that I'd be happy to take a second choice, if it didn't have to be one I absolutely hate! That's why I went back to school-- to have a choice I could live with. He says I just have to get over it and do what I have to do.
I suppose I'll end up doing the "grownup" thing. I always do. But I resent it like crazy because it seems as if I get to be the grownup and everyone else gets to have a life. They do their school or job and come home and expect to have time off. Right now they do dishes and some chores on Saturday morning cleanup. But when I'm working, especially when I've worked retail with it's nights, weekends, and holiday schedules, plus the fact that the schedule changes every week, they don't do even that much because I'm not here to nag them. My guys won't do housework on their own unless they're hungry and need a dish to eat off of. So, I end up doing more at home chores when I'm working outside of the home than I do when I'm not. Is it any wonder that I don't want to do this? I don't know what will happen, but I'll let you all know.
Despite it all, I'm determined to stay OP today. So far, so good.
Well, I've got to go. You're so great to listen to my stuff. Writing to you does help keep me from some of the stress eating. It gets some of the stress out of my system. I'll keep you posted.
Happy turtlin'!
Lin
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