So bummed & discouraged

  • I've had a rough couple of weeks food wise.... With a fulltime job and semester midterms and family obligations, I was just too busy to focus on my eating and working out and I didnt do as well as I should. Then last weekend I promised myself I would change it all around and the week started out well, but then on Thursday I had such a busy day with work and school that I was too tired to go home and cook and just hit the drive thru and with ONE MEAL ate pretty much all my weekly points. I was so bummed out and the next morning I got right back on track. I figured that I have always heard of some women making it a habit of eating all their weeklies (something I never do) and that it couldnt hurt much.... So I ate well the rest of the week, drank tons of water, did my cardio, ate my fiber...I felt better.

    My weigh in isnt until Tuesday so I figured I had enough time to turn it around. But then I weighed myself this morning (I weigh myself daily just to see where im at) and im UP almost 4 pounds since last week! I just dont get it. I hear about women eating all their weekly points ALL the time and still losing steadily. I KNOW that the scale is up and down and not to worry too much about it, but 4 POUNDS?!?!?! I drink half a gallon of water a day, I exercise at least 4 times a week, I track EVERYTHING down and also count calories... and yet, I just cant get below my 170s. I have been between 170.5-172 for the last 3 weeks and the scale just wont seem to budge. My goal was to be at 169 by tomorrow (last weigh in I was at 170.6) and it just doesnt look like its gonna happen.

    To make matters worse, last nite my husband made a somewhat insensitive comment. His mom is visiting from Sacramento at the end of the week and I was mentioning that one of my classes was cancelled on Thursday so that I could get a little more gym time this week. And he said, "Yeah, hit the gym. My mom doesnt come in until 11am on Saturday, so you can wake up early and go to the gym then too." It seemed to me like he was trying to push me into working out more and I got hurt thinking maybe he was noticing my weight.... was I being too sensitive? I wasnt sure so I didnt say anything but it stung. My husband has always been supportive of me and always tells me how much he loves my body so whenever he makes these types of comments, I get confused.

    I know that WW is a slow and steady process... but tomorrow marks week 9 for me and I still havent reached my 10lb loss mark and its just frustrating.
  • Normal weight loss is .5 - 2 pounds a week. You are within that so are doing fine. Going to the gym more might get your weight moving down as could changing what you are doing there.
  • I think it's probably water weight! You had one cheat meal. It's ok. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just keep on going and put it behind you. Even if you do end up 4 lbs up when you weigh in, it's just another bump in the road. You can do this.
  • I was thinking water weight too. For me...even if I can fit Pizza and wings into my weekly points...I hold water weight for a few days after. Wait and see how your weight is at your meeting, don't get discouraged yet!!
  • I'm sure you've heard this before, but it bears repeating: Everyone is different! Believe me, I know how discouraging it can be knowing that some women can use up all of their weekly points, plus their Flex points, and still lose, while you seem stuck. But everyone's body is different and everyone's metabolism is different, so everyone loses weight differently.

    The important thing is that even after a "not-so-good" day (or two, even!) you're picking yourself up and moving on. I don't remember who said it, but there's a famous quote that goes something like "Failure doesn't lie in falling; failure lies in staying down." As long as you keep getting back up, you'll never fail. (Even if it takes longer than you want it to!)

    As for the comment your husband made: sometimes trying to lose weight can make us extra-sensitive. I'm sure your husband wasn't trying to be insensitive or make you feel like you *need* to work out more. He was most likely trying to encourage you to work out as much as you can; and maybe he thought that with his mom coming, you might miss out on some of your workout time. I'm sure he didn't mean to come off as insensitive. But I can certainly understand feeling as though he meant something totally different; I get that way too, whenever someone (usually my mother! *L*) makes a suggestion about how I can fit more workout time into my week. I immediately go to that "OH MY GOD, you think I need more workout time, I must look like an elephant!" place too. *L*

    Just keep looking straight ahead and charge on. You will reach your destination, even if it takes a little longer than you'd like.
  • My weight can fluctuate like nobody's business - especially after something with a lot of sodium which I'm sure whatever you ordered from the drive thru had in it. I can easily be up three pounds the next day after eating Chinese food. So give it a few days and I'm sure you'll see a difference!

    And as for the remark from your husband, I react the same with my husband. He said something similar one day and I didn't take it well. He said that the only reason he said about my exercising was because he knows I feel better after I go, so he wanted to make sure I found the time for myself. I think sometimes they just don't think about the way they word things. (And I know my self confidence is not what it should be which doesn't help things either!)
  • thank you ladies!!!! after reading your replies and praying a bit im feeling a lot better.... this forum is seriously my go-to when i need encouragement and i always get it!
  • I agree about the water weight. It will probably come off in a few days. Just keep at it, you're doing great!
  • I agree about the sodium. It could also be hormone levels or a change in your activity level. I was up 3 lbs last week and down almost 5 this week.
    I'm losing slowly also. This is week 12 for me and I'm down 12.6 lbs. There are many people in my meetings that are losing faster than me. You just can't compare yourselves to others; you'll never win.
    As for your husband's comment -- it sounds to me like maybe he was trying to be helpful. You were talking about finding time to work out and maybe he saw a window of time you could use. I'm sure he didn't mean that you should be working out more often and you're unattractive to him.
    I hope you feel better soon!