Thanks for the replies everyone!
I'm 5 ft 3 in. I know my goal weight is higher than what it should be according to all the charts I've read, but it's what I weighed before I got pregnant, and it's what I'm comfortable at. If more weight comes off after that, I'm definitely ok with that

, but if not, I'm not stressing it.
A little history-I did Atkins for about 3 months to lose the first 34 pounds, but I knew I couldnt eat like that for life, I was sick of bacon and eggs, and I wanted to lose the second half of my weight in a way that I could stick with. I counted calories for about 2 months, did some walking at the local track, and didn't lose an ounce, so after some research and suggestions from elsewhere in 3FC, I decided to hit the gym.
I forgot to mention that I also do yoga 2 or 3 times a week. Yoga is SO beneficial in SO many different aspects, and I'm just now (11 months post partum) able to start getting through my entire routine correctly. Yoga is all I ever had to do before now to maintain my weight, and I don't know if it's because this was my 3rd child, or I'm a few yrs older, but I have REALLY had to work these pounds off this time!
Let's see....today's menu
Breakfast- 1 eggo waffle no butter or syrup
Lunch-1 3 oz package of tuna (the no drain kind-LOVE them) w/ a sprinkle of low fat cheddar cheese and 1 Tbs Miracle Whip
Snack- 1 bag of baked Lay's
Dinner- BIG salad with tomatos, low fat cheese, and grilled chicken
Dressing was 4 Tbs Ranch-but I hate the fat free kind, so I
take about 1/3 out of the bottle and water it down to save cals
Snack-sugar free pudding cup (snack pack-so theres no guessing portion)
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE don't say the answer lies in broccoli

I love salads, fruit, and baked potatos, but I am probably going to be a whale for the rest of my life if it depends on a diet of eggplant and celery sticks! Alot of times my lunch will be a lean cuisine, or my snack will be light popcorn or fruit or low fat/low cal ice cream. Other than that my meals don't stray too far from like today. I eat whatever normal meals (like meatloaf, spaghetti, or baked chicken) I cook for my family for dinner, just trying to watch portions-and I have been using whole grain versions of anything possible, like breads or pastas-so I'm hoping that's giving me a good amount of fiber. Breakfast may instead be whole wheat toast w/ cream cheese, or sometimes nothing at all until a snack mid morning-I know it's bad, but I'm generally not hungry right after waking up.
The problem is, on days I lift, I add in another one or two snacks, or somehow between the pot and my plate my portions at dinner get bigger
The things that I'm eating aren't deep fried or smothered in chocolate (like everything I ate to get me over 200 lbs), but even better (though I know not the best) choices add up the calories-that extra spoon of brown rice, serving of popcorn, piece of toast, and handful of strawberries add several hundred calories for the day!
I eat the same types of things on days I lift as on days I don't, but I'm just hungrier. It makes sense to me, also, what shenanigans said-that we use more energy on those days-but if I'm shoveling back into my mouth the extra that I burned that day, will I always just be taking two steps forward and then back again? I've only been doing this for about a month-will my metabolism eventually help me lose anyway because I'm building muscle? Sorry for the lengthy post-I just wanted to get it all out here because I really need some suggestions.....