I second the journalling advice, maybe if you plan ahead what you are going to eat? Log it in Fitday, then try and stick to it. I find it essential for myself to bring my own food with me every day at work. I don't have to make any scary choices when I'm hungry, I just eat what I brought. Saying no to special stuff people bring in like donuts or cookies or whatever is another story, I like to read the nutritional info of whatever it is, usually I decide it isn't worth it. You can do this, you are not alone!!! Check the Whole foods forum for healthy eating tips.

GOsh I messed up Today again:(! For the past four days i have been eating non-stop! Maybe i should just let it all out! I think iam tired! I am tired of life and everything else. I Am only 18 years old but i do so much. I work 6 times a week and on top of that i go to school full time. Iam usually up 6am in the morning and i leave my house at 7am to walk to school which is an hour walk even in the winter. Then right after school i go to work till 8 or 9 then i walk back home an hour and usually iam home again around 10 and this is my week. on weekends i dont really have a weekend i work on friday from 3 ro 3am then on saturday i wake up at 7am to go to my second job sometimes i will seelp when iget home and go to my other job again at 4pm and well i work again the next day. Other times iam up 4am to drive my mom to work using my brothers car. i alway feel tired and i dont think there has been on day where i wasnt feeling tired. On top of doing all that i sometimes have to help my siblings with their homeowkr or putting them to bed. I think the main problem is that iam so very tired and sick of being the mother. I for once wish and pray that my mother was the mothe and not me. I am sick of telling my little sister what to do and when to be grounded and most of all i am just sick of been full of hate. i never and rarly show my emotions i dont feel as if iam in my own skin, but rather like iam watching my life from a distant. BUt the worst thing is i still dont feel like iam doing much. I always feel like if anything in my family goes wrong then iam the one who has to pick up the pieces and put it back together and believe me i have done it many times. I want to move away from my family but something is holding me back and i dont know what it is. All i know for now is that iam unhappy and i want to deal with it but i know this sounds shallow but my biggest priority right now is to lose these 30lbs. Because having none of your clothes fit you is just another sadness added to the loads. I think i probably said too much i guess like evryone says tomorrow is a new day and i should start again! i just wish i had someone who would tell me what to eat and give me a simple menu for a week to follow really simple! Again thank you all for your support.


Xox K

Holy crap, girl!!! You need a hug!!! :hug: I'm so sorry your life is so stressful...is there someone close to you you can talk to that will just let you vent? Like an aunt or a teacher? It's so hard to help from the virtual world.

As for an easy list of just eat this stuff kind of thing, go and look at Fitday for some of the people in the Whole Foods forum or the Maintainer's forum...or there are books, try this sticky from the Whole Foods forum.

Maybe try and find ways to cut back on your work hours? Ya gotta take a break sometime.

Thank You all for your support. I still havent got back on my diet i have been eating terribly! its always like this for me it takes forever to get back on a diet or even a healthy way of eating. I dont know i was thinking of taking hypnosis classes. has anyone ever taken it? and chick in the hat i saw your picture and yuo look amazing! How did you do it? and in how long did you lose that much amount of weight?

Ps. I hope i can get back on this eating healthy soon :(

anyways i g2g to work
xoxo to all

Sounds like you are getting overwhelmed - don't fall into the trap of "perfection." Just concentrate on making some small changes at first. Make a plan to eat a healthy breakfast every day for a week. Pick something quick, easy, unprocessed and portable and go buy enough for all 7 days. Get in the habit of making and eating your healthy breakfast - aim for around 300 calories for breakfast and include some sort of protein. Do it for 2 weeks.

After making breakfast a habit, move on to lunch. Then dinner, then snacks. Little steps, it is a big thing to do all at once.

Make sure you eat ENOUGH. I always always always binged when I restricted too much, then I hated myself. Once I gave myself permission to actually eat a healthy number of calories every day (in my case 1400-1600) I quit binging completely. It was like a miracle.

Its me again! and nope havent got back on that diet yet! Iam so tired these days icant even stand for very long! My working hours have gone up to 42 hours a week + full time school so its going to be a pretty bad month. I had a huge fight with my mom this morning first i was woke up late and had to like walk run to my internship program which was a 45 minute walk that i made into less than half an hour. We had a fight because i couldnt find my balck pants or balck shoes for my waitressing job. and since shes the one who always cleans m y room she didnt know what i was talking about. I hate it when she cleans my room i always tell her not to touch it but she says she cant help it, but instead of her cleaning it she just makes a bigger mess by putting everything in the wrong place so that when i look for my things i end up making a bigger mess by messing up everything neat in order to find my things! i was just so frustrated and iam so mad at her! i cant stand her anymore i havent said i love you or even been near her in 5 years we dont hug or kiss nothing emotional the only time we interact is if she needs something other than that thats it. I think i sort of figured out why i eat its because iam tired and unhappy. I dont understand how people can get up in the morning with a smile on their faces. I have one on my face too but mine is so fake and you can tell it is. Anyways i have to go now.

Am i suppose to start a new forum everytime i write something or do i just use the old one?????

Hello Lose25,

My name is Angie, and I feel your pain...I started last year and stopped after 2 months losing 15lbs. In my opinion don't look at what your not doing look at what you are doing! First look at "had to like walk run to my internship program which was a 45 minute walk that i made into less than half an hour" Look at that, you did a half and hour of excersize there, some people would have just found another way to work such as catching a ride, so look at the bright side of what you are doing...YOU ARE getting excersize in which is a great step at a better you. Like alot of the other posters here, look for insperation on this site, and if you want to try something that helps look into the Calorie Queens book, when I first started it I was like there was no way I could count my calories until I found out that I was eating 2640 calories a day to maintain my weight on 220. To wiegh 140 I have to eat about 1680, even more if I incorperate excersize. I actully found it hard to TRY and eat 1680 calories.

What I would suggest is start out slow (and some people will probly yell at me for this, but eat what you want, just in smaller portions, as your body gets used to eating less you can then start to eat better. One of the big things that you may find that work which I did was to limit the amount of soda I drink, you wouldnt believe the difference it makes. I allow myself 1 12 oz diet soda a day, either after work or with my lunch - and I hope within a few weeks to limit that to every other day then once a week because dang it like soda! I find that Diet Dr. Pepper and Diet Wild Cherry Pepsi hardly taste like diet. Somethings in a diet seem too much to handle, like using low cal or fat free dressings, in my opinion USE them, just limit how much you use! And if you do mess up as we all do make sure you excersize those extra calories, remember 1 lb of fat = 3500 calories - it sounds a lot but over the course of a week it adds up. I know it is easier said than done but as long as you keep beating yourself up the more tempted you are going to be to eat. Think about the positive - not the negative.

One motivation for me to start my weight loss plan again is the clothes I want to wear, so I have posted a whole bunch of pictures of clothes that I want to buy around to motivate me into makeing the right choices. Remember dont try to start cold turkey, remember it takes time and if you start slowly YOU CAN DO IT!!!

I'm not gonna argue at all .... just eating a little less is a wonderful place to start. Calorie counting, ww points, portion control ... that's all fine tuning.

In the most basic sense, it's really just eat less and move more. Anything else is manmade confusion and individualization.

Sorry to hear about the trouble with your mom. I'm kind of the opposite of you. My DD (16) does not clean her room, but unlike you, I refuse to clean it for her. Recently she lost a valuable item which I am sure is somewhere in her room, but I told her that I was not willing to help her look for it because I wouldn't know where to start. Her piles of clothes are the most disturbing (how can she know what is clean vs dirty?). When it is time for me to do laundry, she never has any in her laundry basket.....Sometimes I wish she'd respect my home, but in her words, this is her way of rebelling, so I just close her door and don't look at it.

You sure do sound like you have a lot on your plate (as it were). The stress has got to be overwhelming. But you need to understand that it can get better. Think about what you can do to change your situation and be positive about it. Life will turn around. Put a smile on your face even if it hurts. You'd be amazed at how much better things look when you have the right attitude.

Hi there, Sweetie!:hug:

It's a lot that you have been dealing with these days! I commend you for trying to take on weight loss at the same time, because weight loss often seems like having ANOTHER JOB!!!

When I get really frustrated I go walking or workout. My friend years ago told me that it would really help to give me more energy AND would also clear my head so that I could think more positively. I gave it a chance and have been walking and exercising ever since! It really IS true!

It also helps to write down all of the POSITIVE things that you have accomplished and ARE accomplishing in a journal. Too often I think we spend so much time yelling at ourselves that we just forget how many great things that we have already accomplished!:cb:

Sounds like you could use a big hug! Here's one from someone who wishes she weighed as little as you do!:hug:

Cheryl

Wow You Guys are all amazing! I was crying reading all that stuff you wrote! I still have way too much things on my plate and i find that my mom makes it all harder i come from a very culutured background and i dont ever rebel i alway listen to everything my mother says and i do it all but i think the problem is everytime i do something for her with a smile i feel like i hate her a bit more for asking me. I mean doesnt she understand that working 42 hours a week and doing school full time is a lot and on top of it i have A's in all of my classes this year except one which is a 78 but i think i just have given up trying to be make her understand because she doesnt and never will. i can understand why we would have problems if i was a bad kid but i am not and she should maybe appreciate it a little bit. I mean the only thing i dont do is clean my room but everytime i have time i do clean it. Its not like i enjoy having a messy room i myslef cant stand it but sometimes iam too exhausted to do any of that. Anyways on the brighter side i dont think i wil start college right away in Januaray instead i will start in september and just take 6 months of to work and save as all we as take time to take care of myself and relax. I was thinking of maybe moving away i have talked to my mom about it but its a huge NO NO. so that plans went down the drain but i havent given up yet i want to convince her of letting me move out for a while. I dont want the situation to get ugly. My brother said that if i moved away i should forget that i had a home which was a bit harsh. But it doesnt matter i think i would rather lose that than be unhappy. I feel like iam 50 and not an 18 year old like i am aging a year every day. But hopefully in february that will change. Like you said Cheyrel weight loss is like a second job so i have decided to quit one of my jobs once iam done school. I dont want to work till 3 to 3am every friday because i have noticed when i work that long i just become depressed and tired and i endup eating my self to death. So i told my boss the other day and he wasnt happy he was trying to convince me saying that it was only once a week. But i wont back out, i think its time i put my slef first and go out and have fun and be an 18 year old and who knows maybe get a bit drunk too LOL JK!! WOW i didnt notice but i think i have written way too much and if this was an essay maybe i would get an A + on it :).

So... anyways i have decided that i wont diet till iam done school. I havent got back on the diet and i have been eating a LOT i guess i could say iam binging but one of my best freinds whos only 18 is having huge problems with her life believe its Huge and not good either i wish i could tell you guys but its a secert for now that is, and its also taking a toll on me lets just say i want 2006 to be over ASAP and i want to start a new year.


Thanks to all again
XOX

So I do think i should stop eating well i believe in the past two weeks i have gained another 10lbs and i dont want to wait until school is done anymore. so i think i will start again tomorrow. Oh ya and i got a treadmil that should be here this week or the next one it was given to me by my brothers friend. Still kind of depressed though and i have been eating a lot but now i just feel gross and discusted with myself. :(

It sounds like you have a very stressful life, between work, home and school. In my view you might want to consider applying to school away from home in time for the summer or fall semester, where you can live in a dorm or something. Use that as a means of getting away from the responsibilities you have at home and just worry about getting your education. I worked 25 hours per week in college and paid the rest of my tuition and living expenses with financial aid and student loans. Just a thought mami, it sounds like a few extra pounds (which is really all you are at that height) is the least of your worries. In the meantime, think (and act) more positively! It really will have an effect on how things work out for you. For example, when you eat healthier, cut out some of your favorite unhealthy foods (even just one), or do some exercise, you should be thinking how great of a start that is toward your goal of losing weight. Everything need not happen right away. Take small steps toward changing things in your life. Make a list of your issues and brainstorm (and write down) ways to solve each issue. As long as you're working toward dealing with the issues going on in your life that need improvement, including the unhealthy eating/lack of exercise, you should be happy (but still actively working toward moving things even further along toward improvement).

So i did talk to my mom about moving away and she freaked out! She had a huge issue with it but i told her that one oof my teachers is helping me find a plce to live and she kind of seemed okay with that idea since she knows my teacher and they are very good friends. I know what you mean mami its just that i dont know how to start. So i decided to brain storm some ideas and here is my probelms...

I do really good for about a week or the longest was 10 days and THEN all of a sudden I STARt a HUGE binge and I just EAt and eat for a whole week which is what happend last time. And i think when i eat is because i get filled with emotions and i just stuff myslef if iam having a bad day or working too much or what ever. Then i have the problem of not having much time to exercise which is also a huge issue. Hopefully when i am done school i will be able to have some time. Another thing is i should be planing ahead but that ALso needs time. I think since last i might of gained some weight but i havent weighed my slef but i can feel it, thats why i took out my signature because i know i have gained back the 3 lbs i lost. I was also thinking that instead of wanting to lose 25-30lbs i should just aim to lose lets say 6 pounds a month that way i dont get discouraged. I just want to finish school and take te timei have off to lose weight as well as taking care of myself.

I was just wondering though How Do You Guys Start Over Again After Messing up?

So i gave some thought to what it was i was doing wrong and i thought of all of things. One is that i dont eat three times a day sometimes i go all day without eating then when dinner comes i eat huge amounts of food and on top of that i crave sugar so i binge from the time i come home from work which is about 9 or 10 to the time i go to bed. And i realized that i will start slow first by eating three times a day with no snakes and then i will work on eating healthy. I think this is going to take a lot of patiences but i have Januaray to june to do this which is 6 months andthat isnt so bad. And i will be doing that starting today!
All of you out there wish me luck

Xox