I need a kick in the butt. I just started this current journey on 6/1/06, but we've had company, and there has been MUCH food--mostly because it was family, and all of our family functions seem to revolve around food. I'm still on track, kind of (not gaining), but I need like a "wake up and smell the coffee" sort of moment. The food's been wonderful, but last night I think I ate way too much (still feeling incredi-full this morning ). I think I need someoene to share encouragement with and to check-in with occassionally.
However, my biggest problem is that I live at home with my parents (I rent), and they don't really care how they eat or if they exercise at all. More than that, I do tend to like the healthier stuff (veggies, chicken and fish), but my parents--mostly my father--are stuck on tons and tons of red meat and fried stuff. I've got some cholesterol problems, and so I'm not supposed to be eating tons of red meat or fried stuff, but it's so hard when we all are making dinner as one to share between all of us to come to some healthful foods. Do I need to just prepare all of my meals by myself (ie, no more "family pitch-in cooking") and schedule a differet time for eating, so that I won't be tempted to eat stuff I know I shouldn't?? Also, I buy really healthy stuff for myself (outside of the family grocery shopping) that I like to have on-hand, but then they get all offended by the fact that it's for me--like I'm some sort of snob and can't share stuff. But the healthy food I buy I buy specifically because I can't/won't/don't/shouldn't eat the chips/cookies/cakes/pies that are in the house currently. How do I let them know that I am doing this for my health without sounding harsh so that they'll accept that I have to have those on hand so I stick to it? Any advice on anything???
I just had a peek at your profile - I am a little younger then you but I understand where your coming from.
My mom didn't cook too bad but lots of times my boyfriend and I ate out or at the house he lives at and it was usually wasn't very healthy and I didn't have control over how it was cooked... AND it was good! But since I moved out on my own I can control everything and for the most part I seem to be eating much better. The house my boyfriend lived in, they all took turns cooking dinners (my boyfriend and I included) and one son was a vegiteran (sp?). Anyway two dinners were always made. When we cooked we would make a dinner for everyone and a special one for him. And when he cooked he made one for him and one for everyone else. It might seem like a pain, but it works. I would just talk to your family.
If you share their food it is only fair for them to have yours as well. Just do the shopping with your family and have a look at things, you will notice quickly that there is a healthy choice for almost everything and just started suggesting it. You don't have to eat those cakes, pies etc. They might be in the house, you can't change that, but you don't have to eat them. You can make that choice
If you share their food it is only fair for them to have yours as well.
It's not that I don't mind sharing, I'm more than happy to share, but they'll finish what's left in stock, and I'll go to reach for something, and there'll be nothing there for me except all of the unhealthy stuff, and I ususally don't have time to run to the store for something as I'm generally running out the door late already.
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hmmmmm well in that case I sure wouldn't want to share.
What about getting a little fridge in your room? And keeping your stuff there. Or maybe set up an area of the fridge and saying this is for me and my lunchs. Just say it very nicely - I am sure you family would understand that you are trying to be healthier and lose weight.
Well, when you buy the healthy food, are they going to eat it at all? (Assuming they prefer the fatty, fried, red meat and all) If they would, then its great! You're whole family can chip in to buy healthy foods. If not, then tell them its okay for them to eat your food too, even if they wont (It doesn't hurt if you know they wont eat it!)
The thing with social gatherings is that they almost ALWAYS have food. Otherwise, what other laid back activity would people join in and converse over? I mean, eating takes almost NO attention, so you can eat and talk at the same time! While doing things like playing tennis, watching a show, TV, or other sports etc will require all their attention, so eating is very very popular among the rest of us .
If you can control yourself during the family events (like bbqs) then that would work! (I used to gobble gobble gobble so quickly just so I could eat more; now I chew a lot, talk before I even eat, and through one entire day I'd probably end up eating less than I thought I would! (People now make fun of me for chewing constantly)
Don't worry- sit down, take a breather and relax a bit.
Well, when you buy the healthy food, are they going to eat it at all?
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The thing with social gatherings is that they almost ALWAYS have food. Otherwise, what other laid back activity would people join in and converse over?
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If you can control yourself during the family events (like bbqs) then that would work! (I used to gobble gobble gobble so quickly just so I could eat more; now I chew a lot, talk before I even eat, and through one entire day I'd probably end up eating less than I thought I would! (People now make fun of me for chewing constantly)
They don't eat it all, and it usually isn't a big deal if they have some when there's more there, but when they eat the last, that's when the issue comes up.
I see your point about laid back activities...I guess it's just a fact of life, huh? I think, since I'm so early on to this particular lifestyle choice, that it's just too hard right now to "control myself" at bbqs and such. I want to go, to be socialable, and what not, but I don't want to fall off the wagon. But, I think the chewing a lot might help with that, so thanks! I think I'm going to try that one. And, I think it's better to be made fun of for chewing too much rather than because of what you look like in general.
Any advice???
). I think I need someoene to share encouragement with and to check-in with occassionally.
But the healthy food I buy I buy specifically because I can't/won't/don't/shouldn't eat the chips/cookies/cakes/pies that are in the house currently. How do I let them know that I am doing this for my health without sounding harsh so that they'll accept that I have to have those on hand so I stick to it? Any advice on anything??? 
