I agree totally with misti. From the comments you posted, this isn't harrassment, just thoughtlessness or nastiness. Going above her head to her boss will make you look like a whiner and a troublemaker. If her comments bother you that much, talk to her; she either doesn't realize how thoughtless she is or is trying to provoke you. My suggestion would be develope a thicker skin. No matter what the issue, someone is always going to be nasty about something. Making the general statement that "fat people bruise easily" is *****y, but not actionable.

Mel

Good message, Mel. Have to admit when I think back over all the years I have been working and the crap I have put up with from bosses and co-workers, honestly, this is very low on the "harrassment" pole. I have to admit I can't imagine even "higher ups" would think this was a very serious issue, although they might be forced to deal with it because of our litigant society. And for sure I would NOT cry in her office... crying in the work place is generally a big and loses someone respect.

annk, i dont' envy your situation at all. The ladies here have given you good advise. Isn't it funny how people automatically feel like they can talk to you about your weight when you're losing. They feel like it's free game to tell you how you're looking and how you should be doing things. Just because we wear our weight issues on the outside doesn't mean everyone around us should have a right to offer up their 2 cents on it. Weight is so personal.

Dont get me wrong. I love the compliments and the heart felt support from those i care about but i do tend to hit a point where i just wish everyone would leave me alone about it.

TO answer the question to me...
on the first response, no, I wouldn't send the documentation of the conversation to her supervisor. I would simply write it, give her a copy and keep a copy. And, like the conversation, I would keep it simple, respectful and to the point. Just a "thank you for listening to my concerns...etc... I'm optimistic that we can work through this". THEN... if it continues, you have it to go to the supervisor with your concerns (be sure to date it and reiterate you concerns BRIEFLY).

It really is important that you go into the conversation not as an adversary (which can be difficult when you have anger and hurt feelings... but keep the thought that you are taking a positive step to resolving the situation be your strength) but rather, go into it with the assumption that she WILL hear you and will work on it with you. If not... then step 2... but assume that step 1 will take care of it and you will go in with more confidence.

Good luck!

p.s. sometimes it's helpful to practice the conversation with someone. If you have the words in the front of your mind you'll be more likely to keep from letting your emotions stop you from having a productive conversation.

Well... my last comment on this... I suggest you really make SURE this is a "hill you want to die on." IMO it really just doesn't seem like that big a deal to make a big issue over at work. I've worked a LOT of years and if that is the worst you have to put up with, consider yourself fortunate. But it's just my opinion... hey if you really want to go for it, good luck!!