hang in there! remember this is not just about the weight- but giving your body the proper nutrition and care it needs! what you are doing is so great. eating right and excercise are imo the secret to the fountain of youth. you can do this ! also, remember- people may notice and not say anything, if they are unsure how you will respond. if you causually mention youve been going to the gym i bet people will start commenting. if people dont know that your efforts are "public" they may not want to "publically out" you on your weightloss efforts. does that make any sense?

good luck!

you can do it!

It took 30 pounds of weight loss for me before other people started noticing. It took around 50 pounds of weight loss before I could see a difference in myself. And it still doesn't look to me like I'm all that different.

But... my left knee no longer hurts. My legs feel strong. There are times when I actually feel energized. And I was able to find a skirt that hid my belly bulge. And now I'm on the right side of 200. When I started, it didn't seem like the odd pound or two I was losing here and there were really making much of a difference. But they really do add up, and when they do, it becomes apparent that this hassle of dieting is much better than bearing the pain of being fat.

I know how you feel, Ashory. I can wear the same size 14 pants from 190 to 150 pounds, and it is so irritating that the clothes aren't getting bigger and bigger before your eyes. Knowing that I'd have to lose 40 pounds just to get into pants one size smaller makes it seem like far too much work for very little payoff, but it's not true at all. Clothes are just the superficial bonus to weight loss. If you're working out and eating better, even if you aren't losing as much weight as you'd like your body will still thank you. Think of all the heart problems and other health issues that are amplified-- or created!-- by too many ice cream cones and not enough movement. I don't know how old you are, but if you are older these are things that you need to keep in consideration. And if you are young, you need to make sure that you don't give up now and say, "Oh fine, I can have a heart attack in a few years so long as I don't have to exercise now!"

It's definitely hard, and it can be SO overwhelming and difficult, but it won't be forever!

This whole weight loss journey p****ses me off every day!!!

Oh yes, some days its a joy, eating healthy foods, going to the gym, being able to run a bit faster, or lift something heavier (especially when its heavier than the fit boy who just jumped off the machine)

But other times its just do darned boring. What am I going to eat for lunch? How am I going to plan for this party? How can I keep from eating that chocolate bar when some nasty person has just shouted at me at work?

It's tedious, time consuming, takes ages.

But all of a sudden, people WILL notice, you will notice. You'll put on your favourite *fat* outfit and it just won't fit, and you'll have the joy of buying nice new clothes in smaller sizes.

For me it was when the shops I had walked past for three years finally stocked my size. Because I had shrunk, not because they had become fat aware!!

It's ok to feel completely crappy about this journey and not feel happy happy joy joy all the time, completely fine. It would be nice too to just wake up and not be fat anymore. But would any of us really appreciate our new thinness if it didn't result from hard work???

Probably not.

I understand what you're all saying and that it will be worth it but it's hard to see that now... My whole life I've waited and waited for good things to happen but they just never come around and I don't see how this is going to be much different as stupid as it sounds. I want results NOW!! I know I can't have them but it's what I want and it just gets me so down that I'm trying so hard but there is no difference and people are still pointing and laughing at me because I'm fat....i really don't want to do this anymore...even my dad still tells me I'm fat and he sees how hard I try every day to lose the weigh I haven't had one bitort from most of my family my grandma gave me a few cook books and my brother gave me his gym membership only cause he didn't want to pay for it anymore... My WHOLE life my family has told me I'm fat and now that I'm trying they don't seem to want to help me in ANY way....It's like they're scared I'm going to achieve more then them....I'm just really sick of it I guess...but thanks to you guys I did push on for today at least and went to the gym I guess I'll see how I feel next time I have time to go.....Thanks

Hi!!
I agree with everyone and wasnt gonna add my twocents until I though Id add dome of my personality to the mix.
Carry on, not be bcoz it Will eventually show results, but because its a lifestyle change and what have you got to lose by staying on it?
and my main point, my family used to be simular to me and it suck, I would binge eat or over eat and my parents would make faces or comments.
I dont know how your family thinks, but maybe they're saying this as they dont think you can stick to it and will give up anyway or maybe your right they are totally jealous and want to bring you dont well..


Come here for support! we're all in simular boats Im sure any person here would love to chat about certain foods that pains of WL and the painful gain!
I see you only have 8posts, start chatting I promise it will help.
I hope you dont give up, I really believe that WL can be a great hobby.
If you want to kick it with me online sometime PM me

Ashory -- We ALL have saboteurs in our lives and we definitely need to be strong and prove them wrong. ... It won't always be easy but it will get easier. Wipe that negative self talk out of your vocabulary ... Find yourself some positive reiforcement like US and 3fc and stick with it ... Good does come to those who wait...

And like Angel so eloquenlty said:

Sometimes, families say things without realizing how hurtful they can be. Maybe you could mention to them how their comments affect you. I'm sure the last thing they want is for you to think they don't care. Don't let their comments get to you! You are doing this for you and you only. Angeleyez said it best! Doesn't matter if the whole world says you are fat, if you don't want to be, then you know what to do.

20 pounds is a great achievement. As far as your clothes go, perhaps they were tight to start with, so while they are not falling off just yet, maybe you're just wearing the right size now and they fit "better". Am I making sense?

I used to feel the same way as you. I wanted to be thin NOW! And ironically enough, I wanted to be thin so badly...and was so far FROM being thin, that I just didn't bother trying or I would give up early on because it clearly "wasn't" working (that's what I decided anyway).

Others are right, you have to keep going. So many people give up after losing some weight because the road ahead just seems so long, but I found that once you get over that hump, it becomes more of a second nature to eat better and exercise.

I find it really helps to stop focussing on "wanting to be thin" and switch your thinking to "I want to be healthy". Makes eating right and exercising easier. The pounds and inches will come off as a nice bonus to being healthy!

Hang in there. Hugs to you and a rolling pin for the family

Thanks guys you really are all awesome :hugs:

I know how you feel about waiting and waiting and nothing good happens. When you have a lot of weight to lose it seems like an impossible journey; if you have 50 pounds to lose, at a (very optimistic) rate of 2 pounds a week it's going to take over 6 months! However, you need to change your habits now before it gets even worse. If you let your weight get further and further out of your control, those 6 months necessary to get rid of your weight could become a year. Better to do everything you can to nip it in the bud now!

everyone's saying keep going and i really think you should, but if this program isn't working for you, maybe you should pick another one. I did atkins for a month and supposedly lost 11 lbs, but i never saw it in clothes or inches. i felt like i had no control over my weight because i wasnt sure if i was getting it right or not. i switched to calorie counting and am much happier. so, dont give up, but maybe try something else.