Well, ever since my first day of weight loss, I have tried to battle with paying to much attention to negative comments. While now I'm more comfortable with ignoring comments like, "Just don't lose too much," or "Don't go anorexic on us," the comments have shifted to my physical appearance. Don't get me wrong, after going from 250 to 150 pounds on my medium 5'3" frame, girls have told me how hot I have become and things of that sort. They make me feel confident, but the comments that are made by my family members are very hurtful. I have three sisters who all gang up on me and harrass me for losing weight. My goal is reasonable but yet sounds to low for a Latino family. When I reach my goal, the only son will weigh less than his mother and sisters! I got a haircut that made my ears more noticeable, and my sister told me to stop losing weight because my ears are beginning to look real big. What a confidence crusher! My oldest sister told me I look like an AIDS patient. My dad told me I look too feminine and fragile. Hey, it's not like I'm going to battle dinosaurs or fight with a lion for food. Just because I'm thinner, I tell people, does not mean that I'm at the perfect ideal weight for me. Yes....people can be heartless...and it hurts even more when it comes from family members. The funny thing is that my male workmates and schoolmates are oblivious to my weight loss. It's all just a mess that I know will come to an end when people get used to my new image; it's not like losing weight is forever, maintaining is.
Well, I'm just venting here because us males have feelings too.
All in all, I can't wait to post my before and after pictures on here in a few months. Oh...and I can't wait to go back to my church where I have not assisted since my weight loss process six months ago. There will be heart attacks!
Does anybody feel the same way I do when you are told something negative (i.e. you look gaunt, you look pale, you look weak, you look like a zombie,)?
well kudos to you on your loss! I really don't know what to tell you when they pick at you like that, I know your family might be worried because you lost it so fast? are you exercising as well ?
150 is good for a guy your height I believe it is about average, my husband he has a serious illness and he is only at 81 pounds imagine that and he is about your height.
I know its hurtful because you feel you achieved so much, let them know how much better you feel and how much easier life is without the extra weight, if you have a doctor have them explain as well that this is best for you, in the latino community heart disease is becoming more prevalent because of poor diet choices as well as the rest of america, you are preparing yourself for a healthy future and a better quality of life..
as far a being pale, go outside get some fresh air, i cant talk because im as pale as a ghost but maybe a little bit of a tan will make you feel good, they say in studies that sun helps promote vitamin d production naturally in the body and elevates mood! just dont forget the sun block....
Psychego, I'm sorry you have to listen to those kinds of comments. I thought it was only we woman that had to put up with that kind of nonsense.
Your family members may be feeling some jealousy that you're doing so well, and they may be feeling some inferiority at their own inability to lose weight.
Whatever the reasons are, it's not your problem. You've done so well, and I'll bet you look great. Take pleasure in the positive comments you receive from others, and tell your family that the topic of weight loss is off limits. Your body is your own, and don't have to talk about it if you don't want to.
Keep up the great work!!
My grandma constantly tells me I look too pale. LOL!! She thinks everyone has to have rosey checks in order to look healthy. I also get teased alot about my breasts. I went from a 42 DD to a 38AAA. Sorry but I lost all my weight in places I really didn't want to lose. It's okay though...I can fit into those button front type shirts now!!!! And the buttons don't pop open anymore!!! LOL!!
I say, "screw them all." It must be a jealous thing. I am not latino but do have latino relatives. I can relate to the "latino ways." I wouldn't worry about it anymore..it's your life and body.....
Anyway, perhaps they are feeling a bit insecure because you have done something to improve your health and your new appearance is a perk of those great results? Nevertheless, you should be proud of such a great accomplishment! I certainly am proud of you and I bet you look TERRIFIC!
Even with me having a long way to go, once in awhile I get asked if I've been sick or something. I guess it's concern, but still, one can't help but be annoyed by such comments at times.
This is what I needed! A bit of reassurance. It helps. Thanks everbody. Right now, it is a great deal to me when it comes to criticism; I've become very sensitive. Has it stopped me? Heck no! I've done this the safest way possible by exercising and eating healthy. It took 3 years to get the weight off, or at least to start. I lost 60 pounds in 6 months. I lost 40 throughout 2 years. I guess from all responses as well as outside support, it all boils down to jealousy. I can't see how one of my sisters who made the ear comment would be jealous, but who knows what is going on in her little head. I guess it's a fair deal to trade 100 pounds in for a set of 2 big ears! I guess I'll be better off like this. Well, I don't mean to scare anybody, but my goal is 130 (I'm only 5''3). It's seems low, but throughout my research on my most ideal weight, it all summarizes that 130 is quite where I should and choose to be. I'll be there give or take 2 1/2 months.
Hey, everybody who has lost so much weight should be congratulated. After all, I lost all the weight that, say, Kirstie Alley would love to shed. All in all, if an inexperienced kid can do it, who says you can't? I could not have gotten through if it wasn't for all the wonderful people from 3fc. Thanks!
You're going through some very noticble changes right now. It's a pity your family isn't being supportive of this, but the fact is that these *are* positive* changes, and you know it. People do resist change all the time. If the other members of your are too heavy, they may resist was they perceive as you "leaving the fat club".
It's not your problem. They wille eventually get used to the new you. Remeber, it's your body; it's your choice.
Negative comments on physical appearance
I thought it was only we woman that had to put up with that kind of nonsense. 
You've done so well, and I'll bet you look great. Take pleasure in the positive comments you receive from others, and tell your family that the topic of weight loss is off limits. Your body is your own, and don't have to talk about it if you don't want to. 
I agree!
