Welcome to 2017 - I'm guessing there is tons of new people here like me.

But for me it isn't the new year that made me sign up, it's my upcoming nuptials. I am getting married soon (like in two weeks soon) and all I have done during my engagement is gain lots of weight. Like 75 pounds of it.

It's brought so much shame and now I feel so ugly walking down the aisle. But I'm not going to be quiet about it anymore. Which is why I'm here - trying to find people to talk to and support. To step out of the fat closet and say I'm not doing this anymore. I'm tired of feeling emotionally and physically depressed.

So the facts are what they are - I am going to be a fat bride. But I refuse to continue looking at the scale increase. New husband, new life, and new number on the scale. Let's go!

Also, as a soon to be newlywed, do a google search "8 Sexy Ways to Burn Calories" Who said losing weight isn't fun???

All it takes is the switch to go in your head to be like..." Im Done!" for you to have enough motivation to decide to change. For me it was being yet again the single chubby mate (only mate) who isnt getting married, having babies and looking awful in wedding photos.

Soo here comes a skinnier me....

I guess it's the stress of planning the wedding, but I think once I started to gain weight it just spiraled into an healthy loop. Gain weight - get upset - which makes me overeat - gain more weight... and on it went. I'm so over it. It's just a bit depressing to think I'll look back at my wedding photos and see a version of me I don't like. That's a hard pill to swallow.

I feel you girl, although I'm not married -- I put on so much weight during my relationship with my current bf that I had just gotten flat out uncomfortable to be around him, and that is something I don't think he will ever understand. I kept putting on weight and getting depressed which just ended in the cycle of weight gain depression. And because I was so depressed about continually gaining weight, I turned into a monster towards my boyfriend and now he still loves me but I just know that he won't even think about marrying me unless I start taking care of myself again. And that's probably what's bothering you now too -- but we can't let that defeat us. We are human, we have weak moments, but we are strong enough to conquer those weak moments with the help and support of those around us. Keep pushing to be the best version of yourself. You deserve it!

I was a fat bride too. I kept telling myself that I had all this time to lose weight before the wedding and blah blah and before I knew it it was time to be married and I'd only gained weight. But you know what? It was still perfect. My husband looked at me like I was the most beautiful woman in the entire world and my weight had absolutely no affect on that day because I didn't let it. There's so much pressure to look a certain way when you get married but the marriage is about you and your partners love, not your appearance. You just have to try to put all those feelings and negative thoughts behind you. Once you are dolled up in your dress you are going to think you are beautiful. I didn't look at a single wedding picture for this very reason though until recently-almost 3 years after it happened! I literally hadn't seen a single one (but I didn't get any professionally done, just through a family member who takes amateur but beautiful pics). My husband was the one that wanted to see them. I finally sucked it up and finally said "okay." I was ready to look. And when I looked at them I surprised myself. I loved them. He and I looked so happy. I only had positive feelings looking back on that day. It wasn't about how big I was. It was so much more than that and you have to keep that in mind. I know how hard it is. God do I ever. And I always tell myself that if I want, down the line, I can always renew my vowels and make sure I look how I want to at that point and get pictures done.

I was my heaviest on my wedding day. I regret that I had not made better health choices prior to getting married, but my husband didn't marry me in spite of, or because of my size. My wedding pictures are my reminder of who we both were, and I can look back at them with happiness at the growth and progress we both have made. I've lost over 100 pounds since, and I can't wait to do a fun photo session redo session when I have reached my goal.

Don't let yourself get down on what hadn't happened. Just look forward to the future and enjoy your wedding day. ❤

I also was the heaviest weight I've ever been on my wedding (and consequently honeymoon!). I'm not gonna lie, I sometimes look jealously at other peoples wedding photos at what I consider "healthy thin girls" and feel guilty and ugly that 200 pounds on a 5'1" frame is what I gave my husband. But you know what? For some crazy reason, he looked happy to see me walking down the aisle that day. He cried. And he married me, felt I was beautiful, and we had so much fun and even more on our honeymoon. We even had fun when we missed two hours of our wedding to go to the ER so I could get six stitches in my arm (real moral of this story is to always put all sharp objects down after cake cutting as to not slice your arm open).

And there are flipsides to being the "big bride". For one, I have so much confidence in my husband's love for me. He married me at my heaviest after all! No matter how my weight fluctuates, I don't panic about if he'd leave me or think me ugly...I already know. When it came time to start the journey I had a built in partner I could honestly believe when he said "I love you, no matter what". There are a lot of people that would love that security in knowing their spouse would marry them at their heaviest!

We are always our harshest critics, remember that. I'm sure the same wedding photos I look at and feel "fat" in, you would all think I looked pretty fantastic in, and my husband thought I looked pretty smoking in . Don't look at yourself through the eyes of ugly, look through eyes of love.

Oh, and you can totally achieve your goals after getting married. Don't listen to anyone who says "marriage makes you fat" or whatever. I dropped sixty pounds after my wedding!

omg, I'm engaged and I also dont want to be a fat bride! Sad, isnt it? Your wedding day is supposed to be special and you are supposed to feel your prettiest but it's kinda impossible if you dread the excess weight.

Id love to be weight loss buddies with you and we can encourage eachother to stick with this diet. Let me know