I get that being a bigger person it takes losing a significant amount before it really shows. It hasn't bothered me that no one has said anything. In fact I prefer it. But this just kind of blew my mind... So the other day two co-workers are standing there and one says to me, you are looking great... after thanking her she walks away. The other one says "Yeah, I noticed too, but didn't want to say anything because when you tell some one that you can tell they lost weight - they get cocky and lazy and gain it all back and what was the point of giving them a compliment."
Yeah... that's what she said. I just looked at her and tried my best to channel some sort of southern belle response instead of my native New Yorker... and honestly came up with nothing. Guess I channeled my inner Thumper (from Bambi) and "if you can't say anything nice, don't say nothing at all." I just turned and walked away.
Wow. What an insensitive clod. I've heard people say they don't want to mention weightloss because they don't want to sound like they were saying the person was fat to begin with. But that? Just wow.
As if it's the compliment that directly causes the regain and not that most people unfortunately regain b/c maintaining weight is inherently challenging, made far worse if someone lost through a "diet" and not a lifestyle change. The fact that a compliment occurred is irrelevant to that experience.
I am lost for words. How well just rude, co-workers sometimes, they act like little kids and what comes up comes out crazy. Anyway, congrats to you! I had someone one ask me "how much more are you going to lose?" It just felt rude to me.
So rude! I can't believe she would have said that. She was probably just trying to knock you down because she knew you were feeling good. Just be happy for someone! Don't make rude comments.
You did the right thing by just walking away... as someone else said above "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." Besides, this probably got your point across better than any comments you could have made. People can be unbelievably rude!