[MaoMao]

Well, I'm a bit ticked off at the moment so thought I'd come on here to vent a little instead of giving in to temptation!

My hubby and I are calorie counting together as we both want to lose weight. We've both been doing great all week, sticking to our calorie goals and getting plenty of fresh fruit and veg into our diets. Not tonight though!! I was good, I had some soup and pasta, which contained vegetables and brought me to my limit today. I offered to make some for my hubby but noooo...he's still got 1,000 calories left so what does he do? Order takeout! He's sitting here right now gorging himself on southern fried chicken fillets, popcorn chicken and fries, all drenched in tomato ketchup! The smell is killing me, it smells soooo good but it would wreck my diet and I'm trying to avoid all that deep fried junk food rubbish because there's nothing nutritious in it and I always feel rough after eating it.

Therefore, I thought I'd come on here and rant about it rather than shoving my face into the whole other portion that's sitting in the kitchen! That's right, he's having the same thing for lunch tomorrow! He said I could have some but I said NO! It really annoys me, there's no way there's only 1,000 calories in what he's eating but he convinces himself there is because he looks up what he thinks is the closest alternative on MFP and accepts whatever calorie number comes up as correct. He doesn't factor in the oil that it's deep fried in or the gallon of sugary ketchup it's covered in and for some reason it really bugs me!

Anyway, rant over! Sorry for making you read all that but I do feel better now and I'll definitely be resisting the temptation now! Thanks for listening

[applevalleygirl]

Sorry to hear you have to deal with this. I would just get up from the table and walk out of the room. Remove yourself from the temptation until you feel better. His lack of concern is a bit disturbing as he shows he doesn't care how you feel. Sounds like he is making excuses to eat junk food. But his logic is really skewed on this. It will bite him in the a$$ if he keeps it up. Especially when he sees you are losing the weight and he's not. He will probably be confused when he sees he is not losing. You can then tell him about the fried chicken and grease meals he scarfed down in front of you. Its karma.

[nationalparker]

You're doing great! A friend on another thread here reminded us that "it's not what you can get away with, it's how you can improve your body..." and you're doing just that - even if you had extra to 'play with' - it's not setting you further along your road to success! That has me constantly thinking if I have 100 calories left, it's not what I can sneak in there, it's how I can improve... Keep on keeping on!! Stay strong.

[IanG]

He'll soon find out why calorie counting does not always do what it says on the tin.

You'll lose more than him. And the sodium won't help matters either.

As an aside, it sounds to me like he may have bailed on the diet. He might struggle getting back on.

[MaoMao]

As an aside, it sounds to me like he may have bailed on the diet. He might struggle getting back on.

Story of my life! He goes 3 days being committed and then that's it! IT's a repeating pattern with him. Makes it hard for me to stay focussed but I'm going to do my best!

Thanks for the support and kind words everyone. I've calmed down now after last night, I didn't snack at all and stayed within my calories. I'm doing well today too, it's a Friday so it's often tempting to overeat in the evening but I've limited my calories during the day so have more to play with tonight.

If he wants to bail, that's fine. I'm going to carry on because I want to look good in a dress!!

[Palestrina]

What other people put in their mouth is none of my business. I make delicious nutritious food for my family and we all eat it, but my husband has a habit of having a late night salty snack - chips usually. It used to bother me but I'm really over it, because we don't have to lose weight together. It's hard enough for one person to navigate their own nutrition, doing it together is like holding hands while climbing up a steep mountain - better let go and use both hands for the task.

But... I wouldn't be surprised if he does lose weight and lose it faster than you. From what I've seen, most men are able to make slight changes with big pay offs which is completely the opposite from what we ladies experience. Be prepared for the possibility.

[MaoMao]

You make a good point, Palestrina. It shouldn't bother me what he puts in his mouth, though if I make a nutritious dinner he won't eat the things that are nutritious. That means I have to cook 2 different things most nights, which I'm loathed to do after 12 hours at work. That's why it irritates me a bit when he says one thing and does another. Still, I'm calm about it all now

I don't think that being 'prepared for the possibility' of him losing weight faster than me is an issue. That sounds like I want to lose weight faster than him or that I'll resent him if he loses faster than me. That's definitely not the case, I wish him every success and I'm here to support him completely. It's not a race, I know my body will lose the weight at the rate that's right for me and I'm sure it will be the same for him too

[Palestrina]

I wasn't implying that you want to lose weight faster than him, sorry if it came across that way. All I'm saying is that men can irritate us in many ways, and there is nothing more irritating than hunkering down on our diet and seeing a 1lb loss and then a guy cheats all over his diet and loses 10lbs. It happens! it's annoying!

Two meals? Not a chance! Cook the nutritious meal and if he wants something other than that it's on him, don't cook for him something else! Literally every man for himself.

[FairyGaia]

My grown son lives with us and is the same way. He even ate the grandkids stuff in the fridge-yet keeps my freezer full of huge frozen veggies-fish ect. My DH has the VA on his back to eat healthy for his HBP, but he won't, he's naturally thin so think he doesn't need to worry about what he eats. Both have watched me lose 100 pounds, see my health improve drastically but believe they know the best way to go about eating. I've learned for my own health to just not watch- I eat on my patio or at my pretty desk in my living room. I set up a cabinet for my diet stuff, drawer in fridge-shelf in freezer and did same for them. Asked them to stash their cokes out of site& they do.
Your health is your priority and as one that everyone and their friend has tried to get to lose weight with their advice-I know their is no point in wasting your (or mine) energy trying to change another person. They have to come to it on their own. I suggest stop looking at it as losing weight but as getting healthy with good nutrition.

[LovelyLeah]

Is there any way that you could both plan on having a take-out night together? Having take-out once in a while is not a bad thing but if it's clearly uneven in the relationship I can see how that could be bothersome. Maybe set aside a couple nights a month that you guys can grab something that you both crave and share in it together. It'll break up the monotony that can come from dieting and then that way it's more balanced for both of you.