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I feel thankful that I am not addicted to drugs or alcohol with their devastating social consequences. But I sure wish I could get insurance to cover help for my addiction. My workplace actually pays for rehab for addiction treatment--wonder what they would do if I filed for food addiction rehab. Just saying....We are expected to suck it up and just use will power, etc etc. Even on this support forum 3FC, you cannot post a word about your food addiction without a self-proclaimed expert immediately posting that there is no such thing. Quote:
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I think I am going to follow some of the advice in ladynredd's link and make a list of triggering foods, maybe hold off on dieting. I do not want to join a 12 step program--just not a good fit. Though I think they are overall on the right track about addiction recovery. Outside support is a key ingredient imo, especially given the social attitudes to food addiction.. Hmmmmm, what to do....:?: |
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I'm having a rough day. I've spent so much time thinking about treats and when looking up my favorite bread recipe, I was flipping through cakes with whole grains.
I even dreamed about trying to decide if I should buy a Hostess Fruit Pie last night. I don't remember the outcome and hope I made the right choice, lol. Taking the butter out to make the bread made me want to grab a couple extra sticks. My period is due (two days ago) and this is always the hardest time, so I'm reminding myself to be extra tough. I don't want to wake up tomorrow being sorry that I ate a cake. I want to wake up being proud that I didn't. I cannot make one and eat a piece. That's out! The nothing part is the hardest part of All or Nothing. :( |
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2. This is easier said than done but very powerful when you get some practice under your belt (note to self, here): welcome the nothing with curiosity. This is mindfulness practice and it really works. Practice being the key word. Try to watch what comes into play in your mind around the idea of having the thing you are wanting, and also what happens when you think of NOT having it. It's the opportunity to know ourselves on a deeper level that is missed when we go for the craving of moment. That's my mantra today. :dust: |
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It's usually one day at a time, today, it's one minute at a time. Distraction is good. I shall walk. Thanks! |
I haven't posted here lately, so I just wanted to share some things that are helping me.
As some of you know from previous posts I did a 12-day detox about 2 months ago and am still eating healthy. The detox included very healthy food options, but no processed foods, flour, sugar, caffeine, dairy, or alcohol. I mostly eat salads for lunch, but I forgot my lunch yesterday so I bought an egg salad sandwich on rye and small bag of Fritos Corn chips. I was sooooo full after eating that. Yuck! I would have been good just with the sandwich. I think the Fritos took me over the edge. I have really been trying to listen to my body, so no more Fritos. I'll still do a little bread, but maybe not for lunch! Last week I went to the movies and had popcorn. I was so full and tired when I got out of there. I hate how I felt and that was another lesson. I have a hard time going to the movies and not having popcorn, so I just have to go less often and maybe just buy the smallest bag. I'm also experimenting with some great snacks! I made a vegan chocolate mouse with dates, avocado, and raw cacao. I'm also making my own granola now. It's a great satisfying snack. But really sticking with unprocessed foods, no dairy (since I'm lactose intolerant), eating lots of greens, fruits, nuts, whole grains, and free range chicken or turkey. Eating healthy is becoming a habit and I don't even have to think about it much. I'm not craving those processed foods and sweets anymore. |
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I'm right there with you, getting out of some bad ones and sticking with (trying real hard to stick with, anyway) better ones. I do eat more processed foods than I should. Working on it! |
Hope your walk helped Stripes. If I may share something I learned from my appt with <<ahem>> clinical nutritionist :D, there is some research that shows that delaying an urge to eat by a fraction of a second allows other parts of the brain to get involved in the decision about whether or not to eat. So the impulse comes from some survival reflex--esp for calorie-reducing folks and travels along nerves pathways that are faster than those of our reasoning brain. Allowing a pause gives reason a chance to kick in. That said, sometimes those urges gain traction and can be distracting obsessions---this is what I find difficult to ignore. Work in progress.
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mars, thanks for totally getting it. I just wanted to share something that happened today. I emailed a copy of that article to my mom and she came over today. She's a wonderful mom but she likes to micromanage me...especially what I'm eating and it drives me crazy. I asked her if she read the article and she said she won't be reading it. She already read another article I sent her in the past and really, anything can be proven these days with "science." She continued on that nowadays, they can prove why (psychologically?) people commit murder. Huh!?!?! I asked her if she's comparing my eating disorder to murder and she started chuckling about it, so I let it go. I didn't want to get into a fight with her but if this is my mom's attitude, then I doubt the world reading this article would make much of a dent. The info is out there, but people are very much stuck in their way of seeing the world.
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Omg luckymommy! Moms sure do know how to push buttons. They can be very triggering. I hope you are tending well to yourself, post-visit! :hug:
When I visit my mom, I end up stuffing my face at Whole Foods on the way home every single time. It used to be fast food, & now the WF volume has tapered down, so I've made progress. It's especially painful and/or annoying to get those undermining comments from those close to us. Do you think she views your ED as a reflection on her mothering and perhaps feels defensive? I can never fathom my own mom's motivations--sometimes they seem like autopilot reactions to things from her own past and have little to do with me. As for people evolving in their acceptance of FA, you're probably right. There is a lot of research money being pumped into food addiction these days. That, along with advances in neurobiology should yield some interesting results for the climate-change deny-ers, oops, I meant food addiction deny-ers! :rofl: I've been casting about today trying to figure out how to feed myself going forward. I'm thinking of Slow Carb, as it's desribed in the 3FC thread. It fits my low carb WOE but is not as restrictive as my default, which is now too restrictive for me. Hi AshliRose Great to hear from you! Those recipes sound delish (tho i admit I would probably scarf the granola in one sitting :devil: ) Have a good evening FFAs & TGIF tomorrow! |
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Days don't get much harder than today for resisting food! I keep finding other things to do. My brain is used to thinking about cake, resisting cake and then obsessing about it nail I make and eat cake. So I figure that I have to break that habit. Think about cake, decide if I want it or not. If not, STOP THE OBSESSING and think about something else. I'm trying to train my thoughts and hoping the habits will naturally develop. That's the plan. (But cake is good.) |
I think you're onto something Stripes. I will try this too.
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mars, I have no idea why mom has these types of reactions. I think she's just frustrated that I'm struggling but rather than being supportive, she's angry about it...that's all I can think of at this point. The biggest issue is that she just can't relate. She has a very healthy relationship with food and her old school mentality just doesn't accept the fact that food addiction exists. Believe me when I tell you that she's an amazing mom and would do anything for me...she has helped me with so many things in life...but she just doesn't do well with this particular issue. Also, she says ridiculous things on a regular basis. On the one hand, she'll say that she's stupid and on the other hand, she acts likes he knows better than anyone. ;)
Luckily, this doesn't tirgger me to binge as long as we're on my turf, but if I visit my parent's home, then I"ll become like a child and end up eating trigger foods and this will lead to binges once I'm alone...and even a little in front of others. |
Luckymommy even great parents have faults and they certainly k ow how to push our buttons! We had decades to develop them!
Makes me realize I'm so fortunate that my husband understands that we have different relationships with food. I don't think he quite gets the SAD and that I really can't help the self destruction if I've already slipped into depression. He just thinks, "well then, stop the SAD symptoms!" |
luckymommy It sounds all too familiar!I think you are doing great, btw. These things are really hard to manage. I have almost 2 decades on you and still haven't 'solved' it. My good friend says 'Of course moms can push our buttons--after all they installed them". The best I can do for my self is to make sure I visit my mom but not past my tolerance. Boundaries....easier said than done, especially for you because there are grandkids! My mom, btw is a wonderful mom, too. It doesn't change what drives me batty tho. Over time, maybe because of all the time, I'm better at just accepting all of it, and no longer trying to 'fix' anything. Meant to thank you for the book recs on the other thread--I had a shopping spree at the public library!
Okay, off to work. Feeling good about doing a little home weights & movement. Have lunchbox, will travel. :) Hope we all have a good day today! BBB enjoy your day off! |
BBB, having a supportive husband is a gift. Mine understands but he has the same problem! I've also been wondering if I have SAD truly or if the winter months are just depressing in general. I hope one day your hubby comes around and gets it but in the meantime, we have to just lean on those people who DO understand...like the ones here. :)
mars, that's a hilarious quote! I'm trying with the boundaries...she was coming over and sleeping here about half the week for months at a time because she wanted a respite from my dad, but I finally had to tell her she needs to go back. I think I must have worn down my back teeth from grinding down on them whenever I got frustrated! I didn't know you saw my list of books. I hope you enjoy the reading! I left something off that list...I haven't read it yet but I've heard nothing but amazing reviews from friends. It's called Americanah by Adichie. It's on my short list but I have a bunch I need to get through before I get to it. |
Support from those we love ... what a difference it can make. In the days when I attended OA meetings I realized that a good stable group could become like a family ... and a good sponsor like an older, wiser sister.
My DH is a retired social worker and in most areas of my life he is very supportive. His training and natural empathy enabled him to encourage me to make changes in my behavior that I needed to make, but was afraid to (like filing several years' worth of back taxes) without being overbearing like my ex-husband. But since I had my "reluctant aha moment" and decided to remove wheat from my diet, I've felt he really didn't "get it." He fears that being "so extreme" will cause me to run amuck when I have a slip. (Not if, when.) A couple days ago I read something that caused another aha moment: When you feel the need to rant, it's a cue you need to make a request. It make me realize I hadn't actually TOLD him that I consider myself a food addict. So I told him and asked him to try to think of me as an alcoholic or drug addict ... would you keep offering me alcohol after I told you that I was an alcoholic? He is still uncomfortable with the fact that I'll sit down every now and then and eat an entire can of green beans but he's not pushing the bread nearly as much ... Had dinner at The Outback last night after going to "San Andreas" (really enjoyed the movie, btw! IMAX and 3D, they had to spend a fortune on the special effects!) of course it was Fri. night, a couple grad parties going on, very crowded in the restaurant. Had to wait about 30 minutes for our table. I refrained entirely from the bread and had a cup of tortilla soup to help fill me up a little, and a wonderful piece of halibut with mango salsa. One of the most expensive entrees but also the lowest in calories. I just love halibut. |
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So interesting to read the issues about support-or not from loved ones. And nice that some of us have that support from husbands, even if they don't get the whole issue. It's a critical part of this puzzle. Food & love have sooo much to do with motivation. BBB Sounds like you are honing your understanding of the SAD issue, esp as it affects WOE. If only it were possible to 'fix the symptoms'. luckymommy thank-you for another book title! (I always read a post with your sig). Most of the titles are on hold at the library, but I now have The Shoemaker's Wife, & Orphan Train. My concentration is really limited, probably from computer, smartphone, & TV overuse. I used to be an avid reader. ladynredd I love your quote about rant/request. I have found that the more i am able to speak up and ask for what I want (and say no to what I don't want), the better I feel. It almost doesn't matter what response I get--just speaking up works a kind of magic. Way. To. Go. re Outback meal! :cp: I am limping, figuratively, this weekend. Today is a new day. It will have its challenge--going to a luncheon at a friend. They asked me bring 'low-cal' dessert. I got some fresh berries and peaches, and for some reason just having those things in the house really bothered me. Then I obsessed over wanting to get rid of my protein chips so overate them, along with some of the fruit. When I am starting a new WOE, I feel like I MUST get rid of everything that doesn't fit. There's really no need as the chips have enough chemicals to keep for at least a couple of yrs, lol. Still I'm in better mental shape approaching the luncheon than usual--the plan is to enjoy the day, eat a reasonable amount & not fret about the meal, instead of my usual mode of resentment/anxiety/binge. Should be interesting! |
Hello all! Going to jump in here. ^^
mars735 Really? How so? The fruits thing, I mean. Well, at least it seems like you're snacking on good things! I hope you do have a good time at your luncheon! Personally, when I start fretting about food when I'm out, I try to shift my focus as much as possible to the conversation and to the people, ask the about their day, whatever. Maybe that can help you, too! ladynredd Aw, I know what you mean. My parents got super worried when I stopped eating rice at lunch because I was eating so many carbs for snacks, anyway. What eased them a bit was knowing I did my research and was keeping track of my nutrients, though not 100%. It can be hard to get full support from those around you, but I hope he can start to understand. And oh wow, I cannot believe you kept yourself back from that Australian bread!! Haha I usually attack those! Personally, my issue is sweets. I stopped exercising around March or April and, since I've made progress and my parents are always really worried about me going too radical, I've been letting them convince me that it's okay to have the chocolates I so love. But it's become an everyday thing now, and man, that is horrid! I went to a party yesterday and I didn't even like the sweets (they tasted pretty cheap haha) and I still kept going back to the sweets table for more! Going to try to cut everything out now. Cake, chocolate bars, mousse, whatever. Wish me luck! |
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Social situation eating for me is just plain difficult. In a restaurant, I can make my choices and it's simply a matter of remembering my goals. When I am a guest in someone's home, it's a little more complicated. I feel strongly about appreciating what is served and not imposing my issues. might need to revisit this one. My friends are not food pushers, and in fact very gracious & considerate hosts. But they have not had the kind of weight issues and, frankly, food addiction, that I have. The funny thing is they enjoy wine and I don't, especially. I'll have a glass, maybe 2, but can take or leave it. Maybe I'll nurse along my glass of wine to keep my hands busy. I'm not a particularly social person, so the work of interacting is the stressor for which I later overeat. But you are right--there is also much to enjoy in an afternoon with good friends, apart from the food. Wishing us both lots of strength! :dust: Adding my check in, note to self :write:: Yesterday was too random to list but included an unexpected Whole Foods 5th birthday party in which 2 very triggering sweets were consumed. Funny thing is that they weren't sweet enough--I didn't care for them that much (thanks, anyway, WF)! Then a bunch of protein chips, and I do mean a lot, and fruit, miscellaneous other things. I'm trying to not eat whenever the urge strikes, so this was not a successful day on that score. I expected a big gain, but just up a lb to 167. Goal is to shed 1 lb/month. Slow carb plan as described on the thread--lines up really well with my my ideal WOE: basically low carb but okay to have legumes. They also allow a cheat day/week, which for me will be whatever social eating comes up without angst, NOT a gateway back to addictive eating. Still working on 3 meals no snacks, which will require adapting to good sized meals. After ideal Protein with ~ 200 cal meals, I've become a grazer and that just stimulates hunger all day long. |
I really appreciate all the discussions that are happening on this thread. I'm still battling my addiction but I can see that I'm not alone, which makes me feel a bit more sane. ;)
I have a question for you guys about something that happened when I went out to lunch with someone a few weeks ago. She's a very slim woman who says she absolutely loves food. She also tells me all the time how to eat: things like avoid bananas at all cost (hehehe), don't eat anything after 6pm, etc. I feel like she means well so I just tell her thank you and let it go. Some of her advice might be right and some might be wrong, but ultimately, she can't relate to my addiction in any way so I really try not to discuss it with her. So we went to this restaurant and she ordered a decadent, creamy, huge dish. I ordered a salad without dressing and salmon on top. I tried to focus on the conversation, but I couldn't help but notice her meal and how much more appealing it looked. I told her in advance that I plan to eat light and she knows I really struggle with this...she has seen me gain a dramatic amount of weight in a short period of time. Then she asked me if she can order desert. I told her she can and so she did. She ate the entire thing, which looked amazing, btw and this really surprised me because she finished the main course and this desert and this was a lot of food for someone so petit. But to each their own. The part that bothers me is that I know I wouldn't do this to someone. If the situation were reversed, I would have purchased a desert another time...even on the way home, but I would never scarf down a desert in front of someone who I know struggles with it. What I was grateful for is that she didn't pressure me to eat it at all, which is more than can be said for some people. But do I really want to be friends with someone who doesn't mind making me feel uncomfortable this way? Let me put it this way: if I was an alcoholic, she would be ordering a cocktail and drinking it in front of me...is this appropriate? How do alcoholics deal with this? I'm sure people are having alcohol everywhere they go so this can't be something they don't encounter. I know that if I was with a friend who is an alcoholic, I would never order a drink in their presence (of course I don't care for alcohol anyway). Sorry this got to be so long. I look forward to any thoughts you fellow addicts may have.:hug: |
Hi luckymommy, Great question!!! It's an all too common situation for so many of us. I hope to read some ideas from others on how to handle. I've faced similar situations.
My first thought was, if you are even considering discontinuing the friendship, then you have a little room to play around first. For example, when she asked if she can order dessert, what if you told her it would be exquisite torture for you, that you would not enjoy the meal (with your choice of words, lol). You can see what she says and more importantly, observe how comfortable or uncomfortable does it feel to speak up for yourself? I think it would be really miserable to be stuck in a restaurant watching someone scarf a rich dessert. At least at a party you can maneuver away from the food! Do you feel she just doesn't really get it, or maybe there is an underlying agenda? Even in friendship, it's human nature to be jockeying for position--maybe this is her one way to feel successful in her life, maybe she is jealous of things about you, etc etc. There is that social pecking order and weight, esp among women, plays a big part. She may not be agreeable and then you can decide what to do. Wouldn't it be great, though, to have that moment when you each find out what the other is all about? Another thing you could do in the future is pick the restaurant & try to find one that does not have a triggering menu, or maybe just meet up for coffee in a place that has only stale, factory-made pastries. Last week I ate out with a friend, who actually does struggle with weight, but lately is in addictive eating mode. She ordered a decadent dessert & it was triggering for me. She is very defensive about what she eats, diets, etc. so I am careful not to talk about mine. But in hindsight, that probably did not serve me well. Maybe I could have said out loud that I am not touching or tasting anyone's dessert. Period! There is that theme of accommodating other people's needs at the expense of our own. Do we equate self-care with being selfish? |
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But to go out to dinner with someone, where they are paying for their own food and so on, I don't think my way of eating should affect how others eat. I approach it similarly with my family. My house is FULL of stuff I can't eat. My kids eat stuff in front of me all the time. My husband doesn't have carb issues, so he eats carbs for breakfast and makes sandwiches with bread, etc. I just have to deal with it as it's my addiction, not theirs. HOWEVER, I don't find that triggering. If I did, I would either not ask that particular friend out to eat, or if I did, go to a place where all the foods would be nontriggering (like Sweet Green that only makes salads). But that is tough! ESPECIALLY if that friend is an intimate friend who KNOWS you have triggers and KNOWS you are struggling... as a good, perceptive friend, you would think she would be more careful, but then "I'M" perceptive... I can't expect everyone else to be! |
mars, your idea is perfect...but I'm not. ;) I'm super non-confrontational and do have a hard time asking for what I want. I come off as super accommodating and then I hold some resentments, even though I know logically that I can't expect people to read my mind.
I think if she asks me out for lunch again, I'll tell her that I'd prefer to go for a walk because even if we go for coffee (which we've done in the past), she will (and has) order(ed) a giant desert. I guess I want my friends to be sensitive and nurturing like I am...and I'm very picky about new friends. I didn't even want her friendship but she actually pursued it intensely. It took me some time to figure out that she wanted to be friends because her son has some significant social difficulties and she wants my boys to be his friends (one of my son has similar social issues). However, as many times as we've tried, they are simply not compatible as friends. She all but twisted my arm to treat me for this lunch because I had her son over for about half a day so she can go get a massage, etc. When he was here, he only wanted to play a certain video game with my son....I think my son hid the game and said he lost it because he didn't want to play hours and hours of this game. We must have suggested 7 different options of what they could do instead but this kid refused anything else. He sat without talking. I asked him if he'd like to go home but he shook his head no. :( Anyway, there's a lot more to this....sorry I got into the details because they really don't pertain to food addiction! ;) BBB, when it comes to family and home and get togethers, I absolutely don't expect anyone to limit anything about their food purchases or consumption. This feels different though because it was just the two of us, no escape, she kind of pressured me to go to lunch with her, etc....If there's a party, there will most likely be alcohol served and at restaurants as well, but if you're going with one alcoholic friend only, it seems like a time to be kind/supportive and thoughtful and I know I wouldn't do this to an alcoholic. It's not a big deal but I do appreciate all your guys's insights. It helps me form my decision to limit my contact with this woman. |
Oh my gosh! I just need to say this out loud to you all.
Talk about "Food Addictions". One day last week I was really tired and didn't want to cook, so I had a chili dog! It was easy and quick. I haven't really been eating much bread, especially white processed flour. So I realized in the past week since then I have had a total of 3 of those darn hot dog buns. They are not those typical little buns, but more of a fresh "white" hot dog bun. A bigger version. Last night I had my third one with shredded BBQ chicken. This morning it just dawned on me I was eating that as if it was normal again. It is my goal not to eat that because my body gets triggered and before I know it I'll gain all my weight back just from white flour carbs! The good thing is that so far I haven't craved anything else like cake or cookies. So I must remember to avoid this stuff like the plague. I know I don't need it and it is not good for my body. I don't function well on processed foods with additives and chemicals. I know I will eat bread sometimes, but I must choose the whole grain option. Thanks for listening and being here. It's amazing how easily the addiction can creep up! |
AshliRose, thanks for posting about your experience. The fact that you were able to eat a trigger food and not be triggered is actually quite a feat!
I've had occasions where a trigger food was consumed and did not lead to a binge but that is very rare and not worth taking a chance...for me, at least. |
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Greetings fellow addicts! Where have you all gone? This thread got so low on the list that I started to worry that it disappeared! We need to post more, don't you think? I do. I'm tired so am coming off a little awkward here, but I don't care! I just want to keep this important thread afloat.
mars, I don't have issues with BBQ flavor but it seems that there's always sugar in BBQ flavor so it would make perfect sense. Also, as far as I know, those quick burst of flavor type foods (think bbq potato chips) are designed so that burst of flavor is very fast acting and disappearing, making us want more, more more! I think I saw a whole report about it on 60 minutes. Have you seen it? If not, then I think it's worth Googling. My mom came over today and she brought my favorite desert in the world. She made it fresh for my kids, to celebrate last day of school. I didn't have any and there's still some in the fridge. I'm really proud of myself but at the same time, I just wish it wasn't there anymore. I don't think she did it on purpose...it just happens to be my youngest son's favorite desert as well. Anyway, it's not worth it. All that sugar would make me feel like crap. I would also end up overcome with guilt if I ate it and that would make me want to consume the entire house. I do NOT think it's worth it and I'm incredibly grateful that I haven't lost sight of what I want. I know that the binge monster can strike at any time...especially when I'm not expecting it to, so I have to stay focused. |
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Thanks for keeping the thread going and for the great ones you've recently started. Exhausting day--time for bed. Wishing you a good rest so you can jump start your day tomorrow. You probably have a gazillion things to do to get ready for trip? |
Hi mars, I would totally throw it away. In fact, I asked my mom to only leave a little bit for the kids and take the rest away but she was really not happy with that. I decided that I will just tough it out. My kids will finish it today and that will be a great NSV for me. I don't expect everyone around me to change, although I do have them eating healthy most of the time. I do like the idea of saying it fell on the floor, hehehe, but I think I'll save that one for a time when I'm not as strong with my plan. Thank you!
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Happy Friday! :dancer:
I've been thinkng about luckymommy's commentI don't have issues with BBQ flavor but it seems that there's always sugar in BBQ flavor so it would make perfect sense. Also, as far as I know, those quick burst of flavor type foods (think bbq potato chips) are designed so that burst of flavor is very fast acting and disappearing, making us want more, more more! It seems there is more than one way to be triggered. The burst of flavor/more more more experience is very familiar to me. With things that pop in my mouth, I may end up eating a lot, but usually that does the trick for a good long time. These would be savory things for me, as opposed to sweets. Certain sweets, on the other hand, are things I can eat my fill of and then want them all over again in a few hours or the next day. Even after I eat a lot. It's a many-headed monster & I hereby ask 3FC to come up with an icon for that beast! :lol: This is my fifth official day of no sweets, except a couple of Quest bars. I toyed with not adding stevia to my cold herbal tea infusion. I think it's helped to keep away sweet cravings. Also doing Slow Carb. Being well-fed also keeps those sweet cravings at bay. Hope everyone has a relaxing weekend :df: |
Glad the weekend is here!
Thursday and Friday were pretty much taken up by my colonoscopy and the prep for it. Thanks to my erratic attempts at intermittant fasting I wasn't fearful about the fast, but had a lot of concerns about having to drink all the prep. Turned out not to be as bad as I thought it might be and the test itself turned out fine. Made an interesting discovery. The liquid I chose to mix the prep material into was iced tea, and on my doctor's advice (!) I used real sugar as opposed to artificial sweetener. The first glass I added 2 spoonfuls, the amt. I would have used in "the old days," and it was WAY too sweet -- I could hardly gag it down. The next couple glasses I used one spoonful, which was better, but still sweeter than I wanted. The last couple glasses I didn't add anything at all. So I guess it's true that our taste buds do adapt over time. Hubby took me out for breakfast after the test was over. I had a nice omelette, which tasted wonderful, gave him the toast that came with it, then went home and took a good long nap since I'd been up since 2:30! Today I'm feeling creative and raring to go! |
That's a double win for you ladynredd! :cheer2::cheer3: :yay: Glad the test went so well, and the takeaway is just fantastic! Sounds like you are in for a fabulous day, well-deserved. And great for giving DH the toast, too. It would have been easy to justify having it. :cp::yay:
I agree about changing taste buds. Today I almost thought I already had sweetened my tea, but no. It tastes fine now without stevia, though I'm leaving it as an option. I sure am enjoying the freedom from intense cravings. |
Luckymommy, I feel your pain. The story about the "friend" who was eating all the decadent food in front of you was interesting, especially since you said that this person was not necessarily a "friend" but someone you met through your children. Whatever your reason for not being able to handle having lunch with her is irrelevent. It's a problem for you and you shouldn't have to just deal with it. I suggest that next time just tell her that it's difficult for you to have lunch with her as the foods she eats are a trigger, and maybe your get-togethers should be non-eating events. Or just keep your interactions with her to kid related activities.
I used to be very addicted to food. What changed? I was diagnosed with diabetes. I had to quit eating sweets. It was very hard, but in time, my tastes changed and I no longer crave them, thank God. Also, I had to quit eating large meals, another problem for diabetics. I used to eat a full dinner, and was in there snacking on something an hour later. It was no longer about weight, it was about things that could change my life drastically, like losing my eyesight, my toes, or needing dialysis for my kidneys. Even though my diet is much healthier now I still eat too much and that will probably always be a battle for me, but I no longer feel "addicted." For the rest of my life I will have to be around foods that are off limits to me. DH always has junk food in the house. My extended family is always having get-togethers that center around food and drink. I have learned to deal with it, because I have to, similar to what Berry Boys posted. I hope that all of you find a way to control this, any everyone's way might be different. |
Alone time is a challenge
Last weekend my husband was out of town for 4 days and I was on my own during that time.
I ate IP diet but also had buttered popcorn, skinny cow ice cream sandwiches and peanut butter GF bread with milk. Also hash browns, grilled tuna sandwich and fries. The anxiety of having nobody around who knew I am an addict felt like a vacation but also showed me how much I rely on having others around to keep from sneaking food. My husband is traveling again this next week for 2 nights and I feel like it is an opportunity for me to master myself and stay on IP. Does anyone want to share ideas for staying "clean"? My house is clean of trigger food (except peanut butter and rice cakes). Should I give those foods away? Or should I practice leaving them alone? Your thoughts/opinions are appreciated. |
Hi amyniagara! :wave:
The anxiety of having nobody around who knew I am an addict felt like a vacation but also showed me how much I rely on having others around to keep from sneaking food. Can you say a little more? I could be totally misreading, but it sounds like you doing IP with DH in a support role that might be feeling a little like you're being policed? And then wanting to rebel? That would be totally natural! Especially when you body thinks you are in a big famine. Your brain is gonna do everything it can to get you to stock it up with quick carbs, fat, you name it. We are so creative when it comes to inventing reasons to eat those things :wizard: :devil: On the other hand, maybe you are feeling loneliness with DH away that is making you turn to food? That's of course also totally natural! Everyone is different as to what they can tolerate, but if you are like me, get all temptations out of sight. When you are on an extreme diet like IP, there is no need to make it any more challenging than it already is. Positive affirmations can be really helpful. Even something as simple as "I can do this" or "I am strong" You can have some fun composing one that makes you feel positive and strong. The thing about Ideal Protein that you probably already know, is that once you eat over a certain amount of carbs, you are out of ketosis. So when you go back to following the plan, your body will once again go through that tough few days while you burn through all the newly stored glycogen. Each and every time. So if you absolutely feel the need to eat, you will have an easier time by eating more protein, free veggies, clear chicken broth, fat free, no carbs per label, or even an extra packet. Hope this helps :hug: If you ever are looking for a post IP plan, c'mon over to the Slow Carb thread for a sustainable WOE & fantastic support. (first post explains the basics) http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/othe...hread-3-a.html |
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I've been OK the past few days, but tonight I saw a Instagram picture of pizza and found it triggering. I plan to stick to plan today, but I was just looking at snack food on amazon, not sure what my problem is. Just venting.
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You are doing fantastic! :dust: |
Today was my weigh-in day. Happy to report another loss.
Spent yesterday at a water park celebrating the 34th birthday of my daughter-in-law. The venue was chosen as a fun place that could be enjoyed by all ages, including my 18 month old grandson. I really enjoyed getting to see him interact with his parents in the water. My husband and I both loved the lazy river -- and he stayed in the water for 3 more "rounds" after I finally gave up and climbed out! I knew the food would be challenging as the menu was quite limited. I stuck to what I planned to eat and was ever so grateful for the baggie of baby carrots I had the foresight to bring, despite being told park rules did not allow food brought in from the outside. This was the first time that I was bothered being around food that I've decided not to eat -- I could literally smell the sugar and it made me feel unsettled, even though I didn't particularly want the food itself. At any rate, I tried to keep in mind the ultimate goal of being healthy and fit and "stuck to my guns." Had a couple people offer me a variety of food and, when I turned it down, comment "You're being good!" I decided to accept the comments as a compliment and not get bent out of shape over the judgement the comment implies. |
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