Restarts and the guilt that comes with it.

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  • Quote: Streudel, I printed your response. It's awesome.

    Wishfuiiy, you got this and you're back on track!
    I'm glad I could help. I really do say the bit about puppies and old ladies to myself when I'm tempted to beat myself up.

    Society certainly treats fat people like it's a crime to be fat, so it's no small wonder we feel so terrible when we overeat. Saying to myself that it isn't a crime puts things into perspective for me.
  • I have to second what streudel said. You've gained what? 12-15% of what you lost? In context, it isn't much. However I am a realist; you want a good swift kick? Go into your closet and try on your favorite outfit. How does it fit? Does it look as good as it did say, a month ago? That should be enough to get you back on track.

    Good job with you have done in the past and good luck with what I know you'll do in the future!
  • Quote: I'm glad I could help. I really do say the bit about puppies and old ladies to myself when I'm tempted to beat myself up.

    Society certainly treats fat people like it's a crime to be fat, so it's no small wonder we feel so terrible when we overeat. Saying to myself that it isn't a crime puts things into perspective for me.
    I think when we put ourselves down for making these mistakes stems from a sense of disappointment in ourselves. And we think that if we guilt ourselves and shame ourselves that it will spur us into action. But we have to be kind to ourselves, the way we would treat a student. A good swift kick in the butt is useful every once in a while but constantly doing it is nothing more than abuse. Nurture your mind and your mind will nurture your body!
  • Quote: I am sitting here in front of my computer, rubbing my belly because I just ate myself into a food coma. Once more, I have found the power of food just overwhelming and the cause of my misery. I really don't know what to do to gain back to the motivation to move my butt, or to stop with the sweets I had denied myself so venemently over the last year. I binge eat my sweets, and say I'll start tomorrow and then tomorrow comes and I repeat the process. Over the summer, I was doing good then I just lost it again. I had to move my ticket today from 209 up to 229 and I am on the verge of losing it again.

    Can someone give me a swift kick in the ***? Can I cry on someone's shoulder? I don't know what the **** I can do.
    You are amazing! Look how much you've done already!

    I think it's okay that you had a binge-eat and ate too much yesterday. That's not to say I think it's okay to do very often, but one day is one day. You're still the same person who's lost over 100 pounds; a feat hardly anyone achieves. So I know you can keep it up, and keep it off. I hope today's been a new day for you.

    I think one thing to keep in mind when you feel like binging would be how you feel after. I personally don't feel any different (emotionally) after binging on food I love, although I do enjoy it while I'm eating it. But the problem is, you can't keep eating constantly forever, so the feeling has to end eventually. For me the big binge item is sushi, which I will eat far past the point of being full.

    I've had to train myself to buy sushi in a more reasonable way to avoid this - because I'm decidedly not willing to live my life without it. So I've limited my cash-on-hand and I don't carry any cards I could use to buy it. Sounds extreme, but so far for me it's working pretty well. I've gained the ability to buy just one or two rolls, because I need to save money so I can have more later in the week.

    I guess what I'm getting at is this: It might be time to change up your strategy a bit. You've done such good work, so yes, what you were doing was working for you. But that doesn't mean it will work forever. Why not look into what changes you can make to make this new situation work for you?

    If it's too hard to keep losing weight, it might be a good idea to focus on maintaining for a while, and ease up on workouts if you're not feeling motivated. You don't have to lose the weight all in one go. Just make a plan for yourself so you're ready to go again when your motivation is back. And in the meantime, find a way to keep your weight relatively steady. I say relatively because really, if you gain five more pounds in the next half a year it's not that big a deal. You have the power to turn it around when you're ready. You just don't want to lose sight of that.
  • Guilt is definitely a powerful emotion. It often stems from bad choices, and then can cause a person to make more bad choices leading to a vicious cycle that us food addicts know all too well.

    For me, letting go of the guilt of past decisions and accepting the present as being only thing that is within my control has been relieving. I can focus my energy on the "now", which in turn makes the future look a whole lot more brighter.

    Granted, I'm not that far in to my journey yet, but I feel completely different than I have in the past and much more prepared to achieve the plan I've set for myself.

    Hopefully you can work on developing the same mind set. You deserve to be happy and at peace with yourself.