Have you lost any "friends" from weight loss?
I don't know if this is the correct place to post this, but have any of you lost friends during either your or their weight loss journey?
One of my close friends, whom I've known and been friends with since 1990, got gastric bypass surgery about a year and a half ago, lost a lot of weight really fast, and from then on, he doesn't have time for me and for what I considered a good friendship.
I see on his FB that he has a new bunch of friends from his spinning class, and some new friends from his LGBT group. They go out to eat (so it's not like that was his and my only connection!), they do little local vacations and sight seeing and wine tastings etc together, & they travel together.
I've finally given up calling and emailing, and leaving a message to say Hi, and see how he is, what's up. He doesn't get back to me, and I can read the unsaid message. I actually stopped trying to make contact in January. My birthday, which we always celebrated, came and went recently--not even a phone call.
Even my husband remarked about it. It's hurtful to be cast aside for his new group of friends. Was I just a placeholder all those years until he lost his weight, until people more exciting came along? I do understand they are all united by this spin class, more so than the LGBT group.
My weight journey, for losing lbs, is just beginning and his is into maintenance.
Okay, end of my pity party. Just wondering if others have experienced this.
Thanks!
Jo
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