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Originally Posted by MablesGirl
My weight and my attitude towards myself have weakened certain aspects of my marriage.
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Originally Posted by IanG
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Tough one that. Keep going MablesGirl.
This was me too as I was sad about myself and embarrassed about my weight. I wouldn't go with my husband to his work functions or even to our neighbor's house as I didn't want them to all see me living large. I would just tell him to say I was sick or I had other plans. He'd go alone but I know he was sad. He wasn't embarrassed of me, he loved(s) me.
I can say, with my weightloss over this past 7-8 months, our marriage has improved 10fold. I'm the one who says let's walk over to our friend's house and see what they are up to. I'm the one who offers to drive him to work and then pick him up so we can meet up with his work buddies after work. I'm the one suggesting we take the longer walk route holding hands the whole way.
By no means do I mean to imply he never initiates things. But he never wanted me to feel bad (or worse) so he stopped asking knowing I'd reject him. Now I think he's living it up with me and my new confidence, loving my invitations and plan making. Granted I don't have it every single day but most days are good. And I couldn't have done all of this without his help. Now I wish I did this for us years ago, not waiting for a live changing cancer diagnosis and me thinking I was going to maybe die.
I'm not missing out on any more life moments because of my weight with my husband. He deserves me (and I deserve me) at my best.