When you are entertaining or if you are at a restaurant of your choice, you have the option of making healthy choices, so it seems that the problem lies in when your friends cook or choose the restaurant. Maybe when they call you to invite you, you can tell them that you'd love to get together with them but the fatty foods seem to make you feel sick so you'd prefer to go somewhere that has some healthy choices. Surely if they are truly your friends, they will not be offended because you want to be healthy.

I used to go with "I'm morbidly obese and I'd rather not be dead".

Friends are not disposable and they don't have to cater to us when we're on a diet. However, friendships mean being respectful and caring about what is good for the other person, as well, and that needs to be remembered. Morbidly obese people can't just make small changes and expect to lose 150+ pounds; it's a huge commitment and sometimes it requires sitting down with people and having an honest conversation. I don't see the point of making up allergies or what you're craving or not craving today, just have an honest conversation. If they really are your friends and not just people who like to eat, then they'll understand. If they don't, then it is time to change your social circle to remove those who hold you back.

There are also a lot of activities that don't revolve around food. Expand your horizons and search some out. Every time you see people shouldn't have to be about what you're going to eat.

I am going through this right now myself. Most of these people mean no harm. Eating is a social, bonding experience for some so they see saying no as unwillingness to be social and/or bond with them. I tried explaining that I am no longer eating unhealthy food. I tried having a little bit just to satisfy them. I had to learn to just say no and let the chips fall where they may. I indulge if I want to but most of the time I pass. I say no firmly; no explanations, no excuses. I'm done explaining and bending the truth. I'm also done feeling bad about my choices. I look at it this way: Disappointed long term because I am falling short of my goal of losing weight and being healthy vs. them being mildly offended/perplexed for a few minutes. :chin: Better to have them disappointed than me.

Do what is best for you. Your friends will understand and if they don't... remember this is about you not about them. Hope this helps :hug: