I hate when naturally thin people tell me to "just eat less." What they don't realize is that I probably eat less calories a day than they do and that they're just lucky to have good genetics. Due to hereditary, I struggle to even maintain my weight, let alone lose it. I will admit to being jealous of people who can eat all the junk they want while sitting on their butt all day and not gaining a pound. I understand that they're not healthy either, but I just wish I could be like that.

This!!

My husband doesn't give advice but was always, always thin until he hit his 30s. He never had good eating habits and they caught up to him.

He's 6'1ish and hit about 215 about a month and a half ago and was really unhappy. He weighed again this week and was down 17 lbs! He just quit eating lunch. :mad: If I don't eat lunch I'll gnaw my arm off! He can do sort of an IF thing and be OK though. Punk.

Thankfully everyone in my family/friends are pretty realistic and they really don't mention anyone elses weight or weight loss, more like nutrition and healthy.

As the for hanging fat tummy thing someone mentioned, I think they call that a "Mother's Apron". Oh the things you learn on the internet.

That was me. I had no idea there was a name for that. I guess no fupa but I do have mother's apron. I hope it drastically shrinks without too much sag and flop.

I can work myself to my breaking point and follow a strict diet and lose a little. My husband eats a LOT and loses way more than me. He stopped rubbing it in finally.

lmao I just read this entire thread, post by post. Thank you for the FUPA, Gunt, Mother's apron and so much more!

At least when we are all at our goal weights, we can vow to never be the annoying skinny friend to somebody else!

I read this whole thread just now, and it made me chuckle.
My dad, although not a "skinny friend" is a little bit overweight . . . so he stopped eating peanuts and drinking beer. Lost 12 lbs in a week. The man was still eating blueberry pie . . . like a whole pie.
I was going through pictures today, and saw a pic of me with my oldest son when he was first born (I was 15 a whole other discussion). I was 110lbs (I'm short). But I remember I didn't eat good then either, over the last 15 years I have gained 8 pant sizes, and at least 8 inches around my tummy.
My daughter, who's 12 and has a 6 pack keeps telling me I look fine, but she's fat (I won't let her use the scale). She eats better than I did at that age though. But it's like we're breeding a whole new generation of "skinny friends"

My pet peeve (from the past, it's not happening now at 232 lbs) is when people who are skinnier than me tell me that I have lost too much weight and look too skinny. They're like, "you're not supposed to be skinny though". No, that is not true, I have a fast metabolism from exercising and I look totally NORMAL (and still bigger than them) when I'm skinny!

Oh gosh thanks so much... I learned a lot of new terms tonight :)

BTW RadioJane... you are wonderful :) and I do see where you are coming from. I don't think i will ever rock a bikini (c-section and gallbladder removal) but thats cool I have enough trouble keeping my boobs in a 1 piece.

Interesting.

It occurred to me, while reading this thread, that I do not have any skinny friends. And for the most part, I don't have any skinny relatives.

With the exception of my boys and their wives, who, like myself, watch food and workout, there are no other people in my life who give two hoots about being healthy and working out.

I know those skinny folks through work, but we are not friends.

Most of my relation, think I have an eating disorder and that I'm off my rocker for my workout program.

I don't even talk about any of it anymore. I know that at 53, 138, yup, I have a FUPA too, from having twins that were over 6#'s each, and I have stretch marks up the ying yang, and the girls, they are further south than Antarctica, but, I am at a healthy weight, and I workout and I feel good.

What I have found tough is dealing with all of these folks who think I'm nuts for what I do.

I've been called anorexic, gaunt, peaked, pale, and so on. At a healthy weight for my age, build and so on.

The funny thing is I can work circles around these people!

Another thing that annoys me is when people tell me that I don't need to lose weight. I know I'm overweight and that I would be more physically attractive and healthier at a lower weight.

The most annoying thing is when guys say "You'd look hot in this," while pointing at something that is very revealing. No. No, I would not look good in that. My belly fat should not be hanging out, nor should the seams of the clothing look like they're about to rip.

Oh my gosh. My dad is the same way. I swear he can just miss lunch once or twice a week and lose like 15 lbs, it's infuriating!

This thread was a great read. One thing I can say that bugs me is when I refer to myself as fat and someone says "oh, you're not fat." like they are the authority on what fat is and because they say it it MUST be true. Yes. Yes I am fat and I'm not being self depreciating I'm living in reality. At my weight and height I am morbidly obese, just what the eff is their definition of fat? I don't even carry it well. Some people...

I keep getting the "oh, you look amazing" and "dont worry, everyone has a little extra they wish they could get rid of." Its like, yes I know that, that is why I go to the gym and try to eat right, why cant they just understand that I have to work twice as hard to even loose a pound?

I can't speak for your genes, but I've observed that most naturally thin adults (certainly women) eat a lot less than may appear to the casual onlooker. They may order huge menu items at a restaurant but eat only half, they often skip meals, they instinctively compensate for indulgences by eating "light" for the next few days, etc. I've seen this time and time again.

On a related note, I just finished a gig writing program materials for the Toronto Hospital for Sick Children's teen obesity management program. The kids in the program are morbidly obese, and as part of the intake they have to undergo indirect calorimetry tests to see if they have a metabolic abnormality. As it turns out, the overwhelming majority have normal metabolisms. They just eat more than most people. (Not criticizing -- I also eat more than most people.)

I guess I believe that obese or obesity-prone people have lost the ability to self-regulate the way naturally thin people do -- either because we lack robust satiety cues, because we've developed a reliance on food to self-soothe, or because we simply enjoy eating more than the average bear -- and that this lack of self-regulatory mechanisms, rather than a sluggish metabolism, explains the lion's share of the excess weight.

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I couldn't agree more. This is how I feel about the obesity epidemic.