Sometimes I feel as though I've received comments like this my whole life, not having to do with weight, just having to do with everything. I internalized every mean, negative thing anyone ever said about me or to me and this process went on a very long time in my life

One day I woke up and realized something: I am actually a beautiful person, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

That is not ego, it is health.

When ignorant folk go around spreading random negativity and mean comments, they are so lacking in health that all we can do is feel sorry for them.

I also am learning not to respond to negativity in any form; I am not there yet, but learning.

Ugh, why is it always men yelling out of car windows. Makes me sick. Hope they immediately drove into a retaining wall.

I'm pretty sure it's happened to me in the past, but I can't recall any specific examples.

I agree with everyone who has said that the idiots who choose to express themselves in this way are purely displaying their own insecurities and generally, being douche bags.

Nobody has a right to belittle you, least of all when they don't even know you. They don't know your story or anything about you. Therefore their opinion is meaningless -just put it to the back of your mind and move on. They don't deserve a second of your time to contemplate.

This thread brings to mind a new take on an old phrase-

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will break my heart!"

I feel bad for everyone who has been hurt by a nasty comment. It is completely unnecessary, and anyone who makes them is just trying to bolster they own ego! Sometimes these hurtful comments come from a loved one, and they hurt the most.

We are all beautiful in our own way. Let's not forget that!

Happy Holidays everyone!

No, I've never forgotten any single similar incident that has happened to me like that. I don't forget it so I can teach my son to not be that way.

It wouldn't matter if you were a gorgeous supermodel out there, some people just have to say things to hurt no matter what. People know the most sure fire way to get at a woman is to insult her looks. I've seen people call anorexics fat. People were complaining that the leading US female Olympic weight lifter is too fat. Her name escapes me, but really...an Olympian.

It's not you, it's them. Don't take it personally.

Strangely enough, those incidents really only seemed to happen when I was in my 20's and have gone away now.

When I was in elementary school a girl once told me that I looked pregnant. Now that is obviously unreasonable for a multitude of reasons, aside from the fact that I was stick thin and my parents were worried that I was too underweight. Still, for some reason on occasion if I am in a dark place about weight I will think about how I have 'always' looked bigger than the other girls. Once I shake myself out of the funk I remember that is crazy. Yes, people will remember hurtful things even if they should not. My only advice is try to not let it get to you when and if you remember it.

All of you are better people I would've yelled "FU!!" but that's just me.

As a child i was being mocked at, but for being skinny and sort. They used to call me thumbelina, but not in a cute way. With cruelty....it used to hurt me a LOT, but then i got onto the race track and loved being an athlete and concentrated on that forgetting everything else. That helped me pass through the school years. At this age no one has ever made any cruel jokes on me, i suppose i am quite forbidding in appearance and very strict and strangers rarely look twice towards my direction. Better that way. But i have had 'kind' concerned comments from relatives that are not used to seeing me this way and were asking me 'WHY' this happened. That bothers me some, but i know they mean well.

As for the brainless worm that made the comment to you, don't even bother. Only people that feel low about themselves speak to others in this manner. He is not worth your time.

Just be secure in the idea that it's relatively easy to change your weight but almost impossible to change your personality. You'll be 50 pounds lighter one day soon and they will still be idiots.

Lin