I posted here a while back. Still trying to help my wife. I guess it's a hobby.
Over the Thanksgiving holiday (four days) she gained 7 pounds. She insists she didn't eat much more than normal, and I was around her most of the time, so I can pretty much vouch for it. By way of comparison, I lost a pound over the same period.
Her weight just keeps going up, little by little (or not so little, as in the case of Thanksgiving).
Here are her symptoms: weight gain--she plateaus, but never drops. Tiredness, fatigue. Crankiness, grumpiness. She has had the dark, velvety skin between her thighs since I've known her. I always attributed it to her thighs rubbing together. Her mom said it was like that when she was a teen. She sometimes gets thick, slightly darker patches on the back of her neck and on her back, which she attributes to eczema.
When we were trying to have a baby (we now have three children) her hormones were a little imbalanced, and the Dr. said we should expect her to have difficulty getting pregnant. In actuality, it was no trouble at all.
I read about skin tags and obesity, and she's had them under her arms.
She has tried low carb diets, hates them, and has never lost a pound.
oh wow you are an amazing hubby to care soo much to ask such questions in the first place!!...i know what it is like to put weight on soo easily..i joke that i just have to smell food to put weight on...but it is no joke really...i can offer some suggestions??...has she been tested for polycystic ovary syndrome??...has she been tested for sleep apnoea??...perhaps fybromylagia??...these are only my thoughts...i certainly don't have any medical validations...just life experience and not much of that!!...i hope you find some help hun!!...you are a real treasure...keep caring!!...cheers liz
I'll preface this by saying I'm not a doctor, don't claim to be, and didn't sleep at a Holiday Inn Express last night. [/end disclaimer]
That said, your wife sounds an awful lot like me, except the only "skin" problem I have is acne. I have been tested for PCOS, and while they can't come to a definite conclusion, my gynecologist has placed me on medication for that.
They also recommended seeing an endocrinologist, which would be more familiar with hormonal/adrenal issues. I did, and have been diagnosed with a thyroid condition as well as insulin resistance.
From about 20 to 24 (now), all I could do was gain weight. Eating 1200 calories a day (I kept VERY careful track), I gained 14 pounds in 14-21 days. I could exercise an hour a day, five days a week, and lose less than half a pound a month. For months at a time. I was tired all the time, although that was partly due to insomnia. Even when I slept 10+ hours a night, five or six hours after waking I would be exhausted.
I hope your wife is able to find some answers to her problems.
Last edited by penmage; 11-28-2012 at 04:57 PM.
Reason: Went into more detail than I should have
Call me a bad person, but there are times when I feel like someone is running an "experiment" on 3FC to see if we will give someone with a health problem bad advice--like telling an anorexic to cut back on calories (that was a previous one)--and I feel like this is one of those times. Just a little too specific.
But if not, just some practical advice: Your wife will only lose weight and keep if off when she decides she wants to lose weight, and keep it off--and even then it's really hard. The only other alternative, which you may hate even more--she has a health issue (I think PCOS is the one mentioned here), and she's NOT going to lose weight, even if she wants to.
Well I'm not a doctor and I don't like to play one on the Internet. But I do have PCOS and have had many of those symptoms you mentioned including the dark skin and skin tags. If I were you I would google insulin resistance and PCOS so you can read up on it. Next would be finding an endocrinologist or a really good OB/GYN to get the bloodwork and testing done. There are scripts, diet, exercise and some alternative therapies if the tests find she has PCOS/IR.
Last edited by mariposssa; 11-27-2012 at 09:50 PM.
My advice: Express your concern to HER. I realize your heart is probably in the right place, but strangers on the internet are not going to be able to do anything to help your wife. Tell her your concerns and offer to go to the doctor with her! I mean all of that in the most helpful way, no snarkiness at all -- I know that it can be hard to read tone on message boards, so just felt I needed to add that.
We have discussed. Just a few minutes ago, as a matter of fact. She's always been a calories in <> calories out believer. When she was eating below 1800, though, she never lost weight. Doctor always says the same thing: just keep at it.
She's now believing that someday science will ID bacteria, etc. that affect how people digest, gain weight, lose weight, etc.
I think it might be a PCOS/hormonal imbalance, but she's been tested as borderline for that kind of thing, not enough for a doctor to want to treat.
One thing that is not often, if ever mentioned, and I'm not a Doctor, but is allergy testing. I see she's been tested for lots of things, but seems borderline.
I have food allergies, I've been tested. And they can wreak crazy havoc with your body, and you don't really know why. Once the testing was complete and I had the results, I was like, DUH!
It could also be a case of quit worrying about the weight and simply tracking everything, good or bad and weighing everyday and keeping a journal and using the info as feedback, to see how certain foods affect her body in general. This may take awhile. Like, 6 months or more, and DILIGENT tracking and journaling. However, the feed back can be invaluable as to what foods affect your body and how.
For some this is not an easy process, and it takes time and persistence to find a path that works for you and allows you to feel good about yourself, and be comfortable with doing things at your own speed that are good for you.
She could put on that kind of weight in 4 days if she is sodium sensitive...most of it is water weight but I think she is in denial of the actual amount of calories she is ingesting along with the salt. Maybe her idea of a proper portion size is incorrect as it is for most Americans.
As far as a low carb diet ("she just doesn't like it") ...I believe that is the only thing that will show results for her, as she feels she can't do without carb-y foods. I was there at one point and jumped off the carb wagon...it was tough for the first couple of weeks, but if you avoid sugar the cravings for both really do go away.
It also sounds like she should be tested for an inactive thyroid, which can produce the tiredness and lack of energy.
Good luck, you sound like a great husband. Why doesn't you wife want to post on this site?
We have discussed. Just a few minutes ago, as a matter of fact. She's always been a calories in <> calories out believer. When she was eating below 1800, though, she never lost weight. Doctor always says the same thing: just keep at it.
She's now believing that someday science will ID bacteria, etc. that affect how people digest, gain weight, lose weight, etc.
I think it might be a PCOS/hormonal imbalance, but she's been tested as borderline for that kind of thing, not enough for a doctor to want to treat.
All doctors are not equally knowledgeable on current PCOS treatment. Just saying. IF you and your wife both feel hormones, PCOS and/or IR are the problem; I would suggest an RE (reproductive endocrinologist) because they are the type of specialist who deals with PCOS most. There are some old school doctor's out there. There is even a PCOS forum/section at this site under dieting with obstacles. Here's a link. http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/pcos...ce-support-70/
what could the problem be?
for being such a caring hubby!
