This is about the time self sabotage mode kicks in :/
I am seeing results and feeling more energetic. Everytime this happens when I get close to the the 160s I always self sabotage. Am I afraid? I don't get why I always do this. I know I'm anticipating comments about how "skinny" I'm getting and that always makes me uncomfortable. I'm determined not to do it this time because I've been working so hard the past few weeks. I guess since I've never been lower than 167 that I'm afraid of what's to come? I want to move forward but I guess I'm afraid. Anyone else have or had this problem?
Yes. As soon as I lost 20lbs the first time I did this. By the grace of God I didn't gain that back but I did the same thing. I think it has to do with not believing that it is possible to be as small as you want to be. And for me maybe worrying that even after I lose that weight I wont "be good enough" I'm not sure what for but that feeling is there.
I tend to self sabotage too, but not out of fear of anything. I honestly don't know why I do what I do.
The fact that you know you do this is the big thing. It's when you don't realize you're doing it that it's a problem. I guess you've done it enough to recognize the pattern. Now that you see it, you can fight it.
Face the fear, overcome it, and see how you'll really feel when you get there!
Seriously, the fact that you are self aware is huge! I can understand the fear for sure. I also kind of start getting uncomfortable. Some of the trainers at the gym have started to comment, and while I absolutely LOVE the compliments, at the same time it makes me feel weird. I never thought I was the kind of person who couldn't talk a compliment. Even when DH says something, I take it great right then, but then I dwell on it and it makes me feel strange. I'm not sure why.
Maybe write down how you are feeling. Sometimes just keeping it in the front of your mind keeps you from doing things that may sabotage you.
Yes! I am about at the point that I start with the self sabotage too. I've spent a lot of my life in the 130s, and my body seems fairly happy here. It doesn't help that at this point weight loss slows to a crawl anyway, so I feel like I'm doing lots of work for little result.
Oh YES. I have had major fears, like what if I look freaky. The thing that helps me is NOT focusing on goal, just on how I will get there. Will I have a healthy meal today? Yes. Will I do some activity today? Yes. I weigh myself and thats it - just weighing and habits!
I am at that point too. I reached 142 and what do i do--binge yesterday so i'm back up to 144. This happens whenever i get to the low 140s. I don't think it's self-sabotage in that i don't want to lose the weight; i think it's your body fighting back because you've lost so much weight, and the body likes homeostasis. That's what i believe anyway. That's why weight loss gets harder and harder as you lose more.
Yes yes yes!! I have this belief that it's *impossible* to get under 167 (lowest weight ever) - the only really it's "impossible" is because I'm scared!
I do this. Usually after a "swoosh" of weight loss, I will hit a "comfort zone" and stop trying. I dropped from 225 to 205 very quickly. Then I hovered at 205 for months, because I wasn't eating clean anymore. Then I did P90X and lost more weight and dropped to about 190. I then hovered between 190-194 for six months. I just did a detox and lost 7 lbs and am at 187 now. I'm bound and determined not to get back into the 190's so I'm trying to stay on program and drop a few more pounds so that even if I have a bad day and pick bad foods I won't bounce up into the 190's again. I have huge incentive for this, as 190 is the cutoff for me to get health insurance (they won't take me over that weight) and I really want to get this health insurance.
I JUST did this to myself. I was at 170.something and I stopped all efforts of weight loss. Getting into the 160s would have been a huge mental win for me. But I spazzed out and gained 14lbs instead. I'm determined to get there this time but man, it's frustrating to have been that close and sabatoged myself.
You have to truly analyze these irrational fears you're experiencing. Many people go through an identity loss once they lose weight, they tend to lose connection with themselves because they can no longer identify themselves as "fat" and also because they can't blame their failures (for instance lack of social skills, relationship problems) on their weight anymore.
Figuring out what's causing you to sabotage yourself is the only way you'll find a solution to it. Don't be discouraged, it's perfectly normal to feel this way, but it's also something you need to deal with.
Well, I'm glad I'm not alone in this. I'm still feeling very determined to get out of the 170s once and for all. I'm sure I'm almost there. Excited and anxious to weigh myself on Monday.
Scarily, I had the exact same number that I was stuck at - 167. I say was, because JUST this morning I dropped to 166! And I was stuck at 167 for so long because I just stopped trying last year. I guess my advice is, remember why you're losing the weight and hold onto that. I try and take it day by day, and remember the promise I made to my body that I would treat it well and eat healthy.
Scarily, I had the exact same number that I was stuck at - 167. I say was, because JUST this morning I dropped to 166! And I was stuck at 167 for so long because I just stopped trying last year. I guess my advice is, remember why you're losing the weight and hold onto that. I try and take it day by day, and remember the promise I made to my body that I would treat it well and eat healthy.
That's awesome you got past 167! Great advice! (from everyone as well.)
This is about the time self sabotage mode kicks in :/
