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twinieten 04-10-2012 10:41 PM

I know what you mean! It sounds like you handled it well. People just get excited and have to share their knowledge, I guess, especially if it's new to them.

I've been pretty open about my weight loss/dieting efforts, so that kind of opens the advice flood gates. I get it all the time, and I just listen, discuss, or let it roll off my back. Whatever happens to fit the situation. Sometimes I learn something, and sometimes I don't.

It annoyed me recently when I got in to a discussion with Mr. Know-It-All at work. Nice man, but he has this annoying tendency to give people instructions rather than opinions. I usually take it with a grain of salt, because he is who he is, and we don't have to spend a tremendous amount of time together.

This particular time, though, I found myself really annoyed, because I really got the impression that he thought I was clueless. It's not about dieting, he told me. It's about making good choices, eating healthy foods, lots of veggies and limiting certain carbs, etc. You know, the stuff all of us have pretty much grasped. No matter what I said, my approach on dieting/weight loss was "wrong". I finally told him that as a man, his challenges are very different than mine (a woman). He could probably skip a meal and walk around the block twice and lose 10 pounds, honestly. I also reminded him that he's not looking to lose weight. I am. I explained to him that it takes 3000 calories to lose a pound, and in order to lose about a pound a week, I have to maintain a deficit of at least 500 calories per day.

Light bulb. Once I laid it out to him in this way, he understood that I know what I'm doing and that I have a clue. He hasn't said a word about it to me since!

I'm glad you brought up this subject because it's bugged me, but I wasn't quite sure how to bring it up! LOL!

Misa66 04-11-2012 06:38 AM

Don't you just hate that?
As soon as you let people know you're trying to lose weight they feel entitled to give you tips or tell you what to do. I'm sorry but unless I ask for it, i will not welcome any advice. I applaud how you handled the situation :)
I try to keep my weightloss as "secret" as I can, because when I would make it public, I'd get tons of unsolicited advice, especially from people with terrible eating habits.

sontaikle 04-11-2012 06:44 AM

You handled it well. I did much of the same when people discovered I was losing weight (after a while you can't hide it anymore, haha!).

Now, after ignoring everyone's advice, I notice that I don't get unsolicited advice anymore and instead people come to me for advice.


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