Looked in the mirror as I was getting dressed and was saddened at what I saw..
All I saw was a big glob of flab and fat /: It made me cry a little, honestly. I worked SO hard and I've seen no results, even if people do. Under the clothes is just a gross fat person and it breaks me down more and more whenever I see it..
Don't be discouraged. A lot of us have those feelings sometimes where we're not entirely happy with what we see in the mirror. But as others have said, use that as motivation and be encouraged that you are making progress. The transformation doesn't happen overnight but each step forward brings you that much closer.
Don't get rid of your mirror! One day I bought a new outfit. It said 2x and I didn't even bother going into the dressing room to try it on. I knew that the waist looked "big enough" and I really didn't want to see what I looked like anyway. I just shoved it in the cart and went home. Later I tried it on and it felt snug and I thought to myself "I must have gotten the wrong size!" (Note I didn't think that I might have gotten fatter!) I went to go look in the mirror and realized that I was standing on the toilet trying to look at my whole body in the tiny mirror on the wall above. And then I realized that I didn't have full length mirror in the the entire house!!! I don't even know how long I'd been without a full length mirror. Months? Years? All I do know is that I stopped wanting to see myself and it allowed me to get bigger. A XL morphed into a 2X overnight because of this. when I'd had a full length mirror I was just happy to see myself look pretty. It wasn't motivation to maintain my weight in a strict sense (or lose weight if needed) but unconciecely I seemed to stick with the eating patterns that made wearing the pretty clothes possible. I know the mirror is showing you things you'd rather not see, but not seeing them allows you to say that your face looks "full and pleasant" while ignoring the very thing you want to work on! Keep trying! You can do it!
Hey don't be so down on yourself. You should be proud for doing something about it.
When I first looked in the mirror my legs were all cottage cheesey, dimpely looking, gross and I had bat wings big enough to fly away. I have been exercising regularly for 8 months and my legs are much smoother. It takes time but things will improve. Do I love my body now? No but it is much better than a year ago when I started.
Time marches on and only you can decide how you will spend that time and what you will look like in a year from now.
P.S. Is your name Kassie? My name is Kassi (no 'e') I hardly every see someone that starts it with a 'K', it is usually a 'C'
This weight loss thing is a crazy beast! Really. It makes us nuts sometimes, I think. You are beautiful! YOU ARE IMPORTANT and classy and pretty and you have TONS to offer the world and NONE OF THAT has anything to do with what you look like. Start telling yourself that, and once you hear it enough, you'll believe it. You are worth more than you are giving yourself credit for. 23lbs is AMAZING. And hecka hard work, you know? I know! Don't look at what you have left to do, look at what you HAVE DONE. Look how far you've come!
This journey will not happen overnight. It's going to take a LONG TIME... but oh well. We didn't get fat overnight, so we will have to work our big butts off till they are little butts! We have to keep going! Once we are at goal we will be pretty on the outside, but if we don't fix the inside, we will still talk negative about ourselves and that IS NEVER OKAY.
You are beautiful, yell yourself that.
Heck, I'm super awesome. I tell myself that all the time. LOL.
Hugs to you, dear. Chin up... Keep going. You got this!
Hey we lost around the same amount! I know what you mean. I too feel the same way at times, but what keeps me going is NOT thinking about what I will look like and clothes I can't wear - I just mindlessly think about the process "keep going keep going". If I catch myself in the mirror, I think "I have been self critical my whole life. Clearly it didn't lead to any progress. I have been unhealthy and I need to get healthier. I accept the current state of my body, but I do not accept that it will be this way forever."
Hang in there. Like someone said earlier, it's taken us this long to get to where we are, we need to be a little patient. I keep telling myself that. The scale hasn't been moving for me, so I started measuring myself. Try doing that. Inches coming off is a great feeling.
We can be weight loss buddies if you'd like - since we're around the same weight at the moment!
Hang in there. Like someone said earlier, it's taken us this long to get to where we are, we need to be a little patient. I keep telling myself that. The scale hasn't been moving for me, so I started measuring myself. Try doing that. Inches coming off is a great feeling.
We can be weight loss buddies if you'd like - since we're around the same weight at the moment!
Thank you all so much. I AM gonna turn this into a motivation tactic. This made me oodles better.
You're so cute, kassiebby! but srsly, to you. We ALL get discouraged at some point in the game, we don't see what we want to see with our bodies even though things are changing! You are working so hard, I enjoy seeing your questions and looking for answers in your journey. Keep on keepin ' on!
when you look at yourself and you think "that is a gross person", you're basically saying that that one glimpse, that one moment in time, has captured you forever and for eternity.
instead of looking at your image like a photograph - forever static and immovable - try looking at your image as a sculptor looks at the grubby, grimey, dull chunk of rock that, suitably whittled and polished, will become a beautiful diamond.
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You moved down four ticks on the BMI scale, and that is a major accomplishment. You have lost almost 10% of your body weight! That is a major accomplishment.
While you are looking in the mirror, consider replacing self criticism with words like "I approve of myself." Congratulate yourself because what you are doing, turning your life around, says a lot about your courage and who you are as a person.
Looked in the mirror as I was getting dressed and was saddened at what I saw..
- since we're around the same weight at the moment!
but srsly, 
to you. We ALL get discouraged at some point in the game, we don't see what we want to see with our bodies even though things are changing! You are working so hard, I enjoy seeing your questions and looking for answers in your journey. Keep on keepin ' on!
