Originally Posted by Thistleberry:
You're trying to sell us on the idea that you haven't got the 3 seconds it takes to measure out some cereal? To me it sounds more like you don't want to make the effort.

I tried at one point. And then my dad caught me measuring cereal and gave me a weird look then asked if I was on a diet or something so I told him yeah I guess. And then we had to have "the talk" about how I'm too young to be worrying about my weight, and that I don't need to lose weight or I might hurt myself, idk **** like that. Then after that I felt embarassed. I don't want my parents, or my friends to know I'm trying to lose weight.

Originally Posted by chibir3dpanda:
I tried at one point. And then my dad caught me measuring cereal and gave me a weird look then asked if I was on a diet or something so I told him yeah I guess. And then we had to have "the talk" about how I'm too young to be worrying about my weight, and that I don't need to lose weight or I might hurt myself, idk **** like that. Then after that I felt embarassed. I don't want my parents, or my friends to know I'm trying to lose weight.

OH MY GOD YOU SOUND LIKE YOU'RE IN MY HOUSE :(

Seriously, PM me if you want. My family is the same way. We can gripe about them together.

This is what I did to avoid measuring/hearing it from my family:

1) I looked at the measuring cups and tried to picture how much would go into whatever the serving was that I needed. I then would estimate how much I was eating based on that. Not exact, but it obviously worked for me.

2) I got up early so I could eat breakfast and prepare my lunch in peace and measure whatever I needed. I eat the same thing pretty much now so I don't have to measure as much.

3) Bake/cook something where there would be no questions as to why I was measuring. It helped me eyeball better.

4) Google "3oz or chicken" or whatever it was that I was going to eat so I could compare what the portion size looked like.


It's annoying and rough, I know, when you're living with a family that is ARGGHHH about these things. It can be done though, and you don't have to resort to starving yourself. I know how it is and I totally 100% feel your pain :(

Originally Posted by chibir3dpanda:
I tried at one point. And then my dad caught me measuring cereal and gave me a weird look then asked if I was on a diet or something so I told him yeah I guess. And then we had to have "the talk" about how I'm too young to be worrying about my weight, and that I don't need to lose weight or I might hurt myself, idk **** like that. Then after that I felt embarassed. I don't want my parents, or my friends to know I'm trying to lose weight.

I can see not wanting your friends to know but maybe if your parents know they can help you lose weight in a healthy way. What your dad said seems to indicate that he cares. Can you talk to him? Explain how you feel. Explain what you want. I worry for you that keeping it so secretive might lead to disordered eating or that it may already have, if you truly have been starving yourself. That kind of thing is exactly what your dad is saying he doesn't want for you.

Originally Posted by Thistleberry:
Focus on what you CAN eat instead of what you can't and you'll be much happier for it.

But I don't know what I CAN eat anymore. It just seems like everything I'm going to eat is just going to make me fatter.

Thank you sontaikle.. I shall PM you sometime..

Originally Posted by chibir3dpanda:
No matter what I eat I'll just get fatter :( so what's the point of even eating anymore?

This mindframe is certainly not going to help. You have to be committed and realize you can eat peanut butter. You can eat oatmeal. But you need to be aware of HOW MUCH of these things or any other thing you are eating, and limit yourself. Are you keeping track of your calories? I ate 2 boiled eggs (sometimes just the whites), with 1/2 cup oatmeal (real oats-cheaper) with a little bit of honey almost every day the last time I lost a significant amount of weight. During that time, I also ate peanut butter sandwiches. I just kept a log of how much I ate, and didn't go over my calories for that day. Now that I am starting over, I still eat oatmeal, and I still eat peanut butter. Just keep track of it and you will do fine. Don't give up! You will definitely gain weight that way!:D