OK People!! The great FACEBOOK question: Delete Fat photos??
I know this thread has existed before, but I figured I'd start another thread on the same topic.
I am torn about selectively deleting my fat photos. There are pics of me on FB at my high weight of 220. (Size 20). I HATE the pics because I'm really big from my second pregnancy. (I was with my first too, but that was pre-facebook days lol)
In highschool and college I was always heavy (size 12/14), and I hate anyone that I friend (I avoid friending some people because of this) can see how much weight I put on after they last knew me, EVEN if its from a baby, and EVEN if I lost it now. I don't mind pics of me at my generic life weight being posted, (like 165-170lbs) but I don't want the all time high weight pics there. And of course, they are all TAGGED pics, because lord knows I didn't post them!!!
But on the other hand, I don't want current people to see me "cleaning up" my pics, as if I have something to hide, even thought I do. I don't know if the person that tagged me can see if I've removed the photo from my profile, or untagged it. (its several photos from different people over the span of about a year) I've thought about masking it as a "total clean up" seeing as I have 8279729472947 pictures on FB, in like 4000 albums and I'd like to down size anyway, (make it look like I'm getting rid of all photos from over a year ago) BUT I don't really want to delete all my old pictures, just the fat ones!
People, what is your take on the old facebook fat pics??
At "fat" period of your life is part of you. It impacted you. It was there. You cannot erase the past and erasing the photos wont erase it from your mind or anyone else's mind either.
If anything, I think it shows you as a more complete person. You had a problem and then you conquered it. Everyone will see that your new photos are a thinner you. Do you think they will think bad of you for your past and overcoming the weight problem? If anything they'll think better of you. I would!
But that's me. I also don't believe in ripping up old photos of past boyfriends either. It was part of me, why would I destroy that?
I don't think it's of anybody's business if you do delete your "fat pictures". You've come a long way to change your appearance and the way you feel about yourself, and it's your decision if you don't want people to see the old version of your body anymore. If people judge you for deleting these pictures, maybe it's time to reevaluate whether they are really your friends.
I don't participate in social networking, but I'd be inclined toward deleting them, especially if they make you feel bad. Anybody who would think less of you for "cleaning up" isn't really a great friend.
I think it's a very personal choice! For me, I like to keep them as a reminder of how far I've come. I'm proud of that. Also, there may be people from my past that wouldn't even recognize me now!
I untagged a bunch of photos back when I WAS at my highest (or near-highest) weight, but I haven't untagged the ones I left at the time or removed the ones I posted at the time. I looked that way for a long time, and most people I know knew me for years at that higher weight or something close to it. For those that didn't, well, I'm proud of what I've done and how far I've come, and those photos, or the weight loss those photos reflects, is very much a part of who I am.
That said, if you are unhappy having those old photos there, then by all means delete them or untag them. You've put a ton of effort into losing a huge amount of weight, and you've totally earned the right to show yourself as you look now. I can't imagine anyone thinking negatively about you "cleaning up" your photos, even if they were to notice (which I doubt many will). And if someone is critical? Oh well! As I said - you've more than earned the right to do whatever you wish to do with those old photos.
I think it is entirely up to you and it's no one else's business. If someone comments tell them to shove it. A true friend wouldn't bring it up, I'd never go asking, "Hey, why are you deleting your fat photos?" What kind of person would?!
I agree fully with BerryBlondeBoys on this one. Your past is a part of you, even if it's not on facebook anymore it's still there. I think you should keep them, because if anything it shows you strong of a person you are to lose that much weight. You should be proud of your success, not ashamed of what you once were.
you can untag yourself from those pics... or just make it so that only you can see tagged pics of yourself in your privacy settings.
i wouldn't delete them. most pics of me on facebook are from something that was fun... plus the fat pics would keep me motivated to not get that way again. can't wait til i have this problem.
you can untag yourself from those pics... or just make it so that only you can see tagged pics of yourself in your privacy settings.
Yeah, I've adjusted my settings so that I'm the only one that can see when I'm tagged, but it's more of a privacy issue rather than picking out flattering photos.
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Originally Posted by konfyoozed
i wouldn't delete them. most pics of me on facebook are from something that was fun... plus the fat pics would keep me motivated to not get that way again. can't wait til i have this problem.
Heh heh, I can't wait either. Anyway, I've been big all my life and everyone I've ever known has seen me that way. I actually have before and after photos posted of me at my heaviest vs. where I'm at now, so I'm cool with any fat photos staying up. In fact, I was at my heaviest in my last photo ever taken with my dad so that's not about to go down (he died a couple of months later).
I understand it being a personal decision though, as you have every right to choose who can see which photos posted of you.
I kept all my photos from when I was heavier. Most of them had my children in them, or were celebrating something and just living life. I didn't love my body for those 5 years, but it didn't stop me from enjoying my friends, family and activities. I would hate to have all of that deleted just b.c I didn't look as awesome as I could have.
OK People!! The great FACEBOOK question: Delete Fat photos??
