Rant ahead, bear with me!

Suck it up Buttercup! The only person that can beat you down is yourself.

So what your husband, who is supposed to be supportive, came home and said you were a FAT lazy slacker. That his co workers fat, lazy wives were better at EVERYTHING! They are way fatter than me.

WHO helped you pull the well at the rental, WHO helped you move farm eq. WHO had the shovel and the level in the ditch while you laid the electrical and water and sewer for the new house? WHO helped you fix the miles of fence, WHO kept the home and kids while you were away working?

WHO, has been there for you, when you whacked off your fingers? WHO, has been there for you with your heart problems?

WHO, packs your breakfast and lunch every day?

WHO, splits and packs up your meds and makes sure you take them?

WHO, makes your Dr.s appointments and makes sure you get there?

WHO, does your laundry, mows the acres of shelter belt all summer? To the tune of 10 hours over the weekend.

WHO Checks my oil? Radiator fluid, changes my tires, windshield wipers, feeds the dogs and the cat, does my workouts, keeps track of my diet, and yours? NOT YOU!

WHO, goes to the courthouse, gets plates for the vehicles? WHO, goes to the NRD, and FSA, and all the other government farm agencies, and the bank, and does the taxes and takes care of the health/farm/auto insurance?


WHO did not go with me for a mammo? WHO did not go with me for the rest of the female check up? WHO whines about his windshield wipers and tells me I need to remember to get them for him? And on and on! WHO told me he'd check my radiator fluid 2 weeks ago? Been there, done that, did it myself!


YOU! Had better get a grip!

YOU, just pretty much signed your happy, cared for life away tonight.

I am not fat, or lazy, or uneducated or stupid or unmotivated. I have a job. I can work. I do not need this crap!

Thanks for listening!

Yikes. I hope he heard it.

Could have come right from my mouth (with a few mods...we don't live on a farm). Is it something in the air?

Wow! I feel for you.

Stop doing it all for him and let him see what it is like without you carrying his sorry ***.

How dare he call you fat and lazy. I would leave my husband if he was that insensitive and I wouldn't come back until he made some SERIOUS changes.

You don't need that, don't take that crap from him.

Seriously? Wow, just wow to that.
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Wow. Your husband seems to clearly have issues. Were I in your position, I'd drop him like a hot potato. Having been through a divorce myself, though, I do recognize that it's not quite so easy as all of that, but. . .man, that bites. You have my sympathy. ::hugs::

Print it out. Leave it on the table. Stir up some %^*. If he gets across this line unscathed, it's permission to keep it up.

Hugs to you.

Lin

Sorry to hear this, no one deserves to be treated this way.

I agree no one deserves that way of life. You should be loved, respected and cared for by your other half. I wouldnt put up with that.

So tell me Janelle...did your Nebraska farmboy go from Momma to you with nothing in-between? If so, it sounds like your hubby and mine are twins separated at birth....except, NOW if my DH would call me fat and lazy, he KNOWS I would walk out...but at 300+ not so much. Hang in there. We all have crappy days.

Sounds like one very insecure man, and you sound like one very capable, strong woman. Sorry you're dealing with that garbage from someone who's probably afraid you're not tied to him by dependence.