Mine was when I was 15, by my mom. She told me I was too fat to wear an outfit and that I should put something else on. The weird thing is I was a normal weight at the time and wore a 7/8 pants. Most of my family is 00 or 0 though so I guess I was fat in comparison?

Such sad stories everyone, thanks for sharing.

I'm sure I don't have to say this but I hope that those of you who are parents never, ever criticize your child's size or looks and if you hear of a relative doing it it gets nipped in the bud immediately.

I have two points in relation to this:

1. I remember first feeling fat when I was around 12. I was no where near fat, but I'm big boned and just a bigger girl even at 5"1'. I was never petite.

2. I was first called fat when I was around 20 by my young cousin. I, like so many, gained all of my weight in college. Well around 20 I was around 160 lbs and was good at ignoring my current state. My aunt, uncle, and cousins were visiting and he was probably around 11 or 12. We were playing a game and he got mad that he was losing and called me a fat pig. I never mentioned it to anyone, but that was the first time and it really hurt.

Now I look back and would kill to be 160 or my weight at 12 (proportionately to my age now). But it is what it is and luckily I have supportive friends who never mention my weight issues for good or bad.

There might have been a time before, but my most vivid memory is in the fifth grade from Tiffany Woods. "You're big" she said... and I said "Yes... I know I'm tall"... she continued "no, the other way". My sister made sure I knew I was fat my entire life though.

The other time in good memory was the sixth grade, when I had a friend talk to someone on AIM about wanting to go out with me. He said "no, she's a fat ***".

In my adult life, I don't remember the last time someone called me fat. I guess looking at my file at a doctor's office and seeing under "previous medical history: obesity" just felt so odd. The first time in a long time I realized I was fat publically was trying to get into a ride at an amusement park and they couldn't get the bar down. I sobbed all the way home that day.

I was a round kid growing up but my best friend was considerably heavier than me - she never missed an opportunity to let me know I looked chunky, I somehow knew even at 5 or 6 years old that she was hurting me so she wouldn't hurt but psychologically those words stick with you, ya know?

One of my first ever memories is being called fat :( I had three brothers who teased me relentlessly.
I was taken to the "fat doctor" aged 6 by my anorexic mother. Standing in a large room, faced with a panel of doctors looking at me in my underwear has seriously scarred me for life.
Adults are far more inciduous- they make snide remarks that are aimed to cause the maximum amount of hurt.
I NEVER want to be called fat again. NEVER !

No clue but definitely early on. I was always chubby as a kid, not fat per se but taller than most kids and stalky. I know for sure in early elementary school I was teased for being "fat". I also know my parents tried putting me on a diet (not really stringent or anything...) when I was in elementary school too.

It's funny because I even remember saying to a relative when I was really young I wasn't that big (thinking about my preschool time) and that relative responded "nope you were always big". :(

The irony is that I had a growth spurt and just watched a bit what I was eating before HS and slimmed down a lot. So I don't think my chubbiness was even due to being fat but more my body waiting to have a growth spurt.


What drives me nuts, though, is that I still get a lot of assumptions about my weight from family members who haven't seen me in a while. I just try to put my fingers in my ears and ignore it. It does drive me nuts because it comes from people who are normally very supportive. :?:

The only thing I have really learned from my parents are how NOT to treat my children. I would never put them what I went through emotionally.

I was in Grade 4. I was a little chunky but always one of the tallest.

As a parent, it should NEVER be tolerated to allow ANYONE to make fun of your child's physical appearance!!!!!

This is unrelated to weight, but still something I want to share. My niece got a belly button ring. She was only 16, but still lots of girls are doing it. I look at it like just another place to wear jewelry for her. She has always loved bling lol!

Anyway, it was Thanksgiving and my other older niece was there and was talking about wanting one. Her dad very loudly said no way was she getting one that it was trashy! That only white trash got them. We had just discussed my other niece getting one and he knew she had it.

I jumped up and got all over his butt about it. My niece went outside crying. I told him he better never say another word about it.

His wife (my sister) never said a word to him. My other sister (the niece's mother) was outside when he said it.

I grew up with my dad's family constantly picking on the kids for their less than perfect appearances and even though this was a belly ring, it ticked me off!!!!!

I will always stand up for kids no matter who it is.

Btw, his own daughter got a belly button ring AND and tattoo as soon as she turned 18 hahahah! Her tattoo is cute too. I know he doesn't like it, but she is old enough to do what she wants now. I think it's funny!

Yes to everything here. I don't know why appearance seems to be a free for all when it comes to family. It's weird because my family won't criticize many other choices but weight/appearance? Totally. :?:

I think that's awesome how you stood up for your niece, good for you!

I agree with those of you saying that adults should never criticize children's bodies. What I saw growing up I now know what NOT to do when I have children. As a teacher, I also know what NOT to say to children based on my own experiences in school.

There's no way I'll tolerate bullying after what I went through. One of my kids tried to make fun of another kid for being fat, and I did NOT let him get away with that.

I was a chubby little kid, not obese or anything, but especially in comparison with my older sister who is a stick. I remember always hearing comments about me being "big boned" but I first remember being aware and ashamed of being bigger than my sister is when I was around 8 and my great grandmother called me "pleasantly plump."

Looking back at photos, I NEVER was even CLOSE to being fat/obese. However comments like this hurt, and I think it's what made me almost give up for a few years and pig out. :( so I was fat for a while, but I'm heading back towards normality, thank goodness. :)

I can't think of the first time I was called fat but I can think of the last time.. it was a couple of weeks ago when my student told me I matched my car.. we both are small and chubby... I was appalled but kids really do just say what's on their mind... chubby isn't necessarily fat but I don't want any association with being overweight when I'm done with my weight loss especially since I'd already lost over 60 pounds. It made me feel like I hadn't done enough.

When I was in college, 211 pounds, at a gas station, and two guys mooed at me. :( Luckily, I hated them and not myself!