[NuttyAutty]

Good Morning Everyone,

I have had a horrible couple of weeks. I was on a program called Go Figure not sure if any of you have heard of it, but long story short my spouse and I decided to stop the program and try losing weight on our own. This program was costing us over $600.00 a month which at the time we didn't mind because it was working and I was really tired of being over weight and unhappy. We have had many stresses in our life since June of this year and we just needed to cut back somewhere and this happened to be one of them. It has been two weeks since we have been off this program and I see all of our hard work and dedication slipping away. We have both lost about 50lbs since we have been on this program and now that we are off it I see my spouse eating all the horrible things that got us in the huge ugly battle with ourselves to begin with. I have been grazing and taste tasting everything that he has been eating or bringing home and I can feel the extra weight coming back on. He gets horribly mad at me if I am like honey you don't really need that and it is so disheartening to me because he was one of my huge supporters and companion in all of this.

His health was at an all time scary, that even when we started this program his blood pressure was so high that they were scared to even start him on this program, they were pretty sure they should have sent him to the ER because he was at the point of having a stroke. He was having constant headaches due to how high his blood pressure was and since his weight loss his blood pressure is great and headaches are gone. I am just angry with him that he would allow himself to go back to this. We already buried a son this year, I couldn't imagine having to go through that again and he be the next one I say good-bye to.

Sorry to vent on here, I am just at a loss and I do not want to go backwards. Plus I got rid of all those clothes and I love the new ones I can fit into now. So any words of advice would be helpful because I don't want to be the nagging wife and I so want to be healthy not only for us but our kids to, we all deserve it.

I guess I never understood addiction and how people can get addicted until now. I know it is not alcohol or drugs but food is our horrible addiction and it's control over us is winning!!

[HikingChloe]

Hello -

First off - sorry about the loss of your son this year. That has probably put a ton of strain on you both individually and as a couple.

I assume that for the cost that Go Figure was probably a packaged meal system? And now you are kind of in a calorie counting learning curve on your own.

I guess my first advice would be to focus only on yourself. I totally understand why you want to bring him along, especially with his health problems, but he has to want to do it himself.

I don't like that he gets mad at you when you question his eating choices but I am going to give him the benefit of the doubt that he is struggling with losing his son and doesn't like being overweight either.

Unfortunately his unhealthy eating habits will make things more challenging for you - but you will have to focus on your own strength not to graze or taste what he is having. Remember, lifestyle change.

Assume you will stay married, assume he will continue to make unhealthy choices, and assume you will have to figure out how to remain healthy and lose weight while living with him.

[NEMom]

So sorry for the troubles you have faced this year. As a parent myself, I cannot even imagine how hard it is to lose a child.
First, congrats on your weightloss success to date. 50lbs is AWESOME!
Try counting calories, it is free and with the internet and different free apps it is super easy to find out how many calories are in the food you are eating.
Second, I dito what the above poster said, try not to worry about your husband's eating right now and focus on yourself. As hard as it is for us wives to remember, they are big boys and we are not their food police, they need to make their own choices. Be a leader and an example, he will follow in your footsteps.
Best of luck to you!!!