Compliments are wonderful!!
 

We've all had our share of awful comments ... about our weight... the food we're consuming, what we "should or shouldn't" be eating...negative comments that make us feel bad, frown, even cry.

Well, I want to share some positive reinforcement! -

A few days ago, as I was exiting a grocery store & making my way across the parking lot, a guy sitting in his truck looked at me & just said "DAY-UM!" - HEH!!! I said "THANK YOU! - that's the best compliment I've received all day!!" and he nodded & smiled and said "you deserve it!" :D :D :D

And this morning, a male colleague said to me: "Wow! you're getting so skinny! seriously! - you look great!" Well, that just MADE MY DAY!!!!! Even tho I wouldn't say I'm "getting so skinny"... cause hey, 5'3" & 159 lb here, not skinny... but definitely thinner than what I have been in a long time!! It just really made me feel good :goodvibes :cloud9:

Please - share COMPLIMENTS you've received!
After all - we have 100's of threads of negativity and how awful we feel about our weight, etc... and we are working hard at our goals, so how about some positive reinforcement? WE DESERVE IT! :cp: :bravo:

Hows this? I was honked at while I was jogging a few weeks ago. I stopped and looked at the guy because I thought I must know him... who else would honk right? Realized that I didn't know him... turned several shades of red and kept running.

And... went for coffee with an old friend and she asked when the other half of me was going to show up :) An oldie but a goodie.

Well, although I am still early in my weight loss and haven't received the "you look good" compliments yet (hehe), I LOVE the idea of this thread!

Come on ladies, let's post the positive comments!

I went to visit my husband on his ship a few weeks ago (he's in the Navy) and one of his female co-workers apparently commented after I had left how "hot" I was. This made my husband's day! Haha

Those are both awesome!! :carrot:

i know they are just being silly but a few people acted (or maybe really didn't) like they didn't recognize me. ive gotten lots of 'WOW Kim you look great!!' My husband said I'm happy the girls haven't gone down :p that made my day cause i was afraid i would lose my boobs while loosing weight haha

I think the *best* compliment I've received so far was when I went to see my family doctor in August, and when she walked into her office and saw me she said, "Holy crap, where's the rest of you?!" *L* To hear that from a doctor just made it that more enjoyable.

But I think that my favourite compliments are the ones that don't specifically *mention* my weight, know what I mean? Like, plenty of people will say, "Oh, you've lost so much weight, that's fantastic!" but I especially love the ones where people say stuff like, "You look great" or "You look like a million bucks" without actually saying anything about the fact that I've lost weight. I mean, yes, I know that they mean I look fantastic *because* I've lost weight, but still. *L*

My OB/GYN also congratulated me on my weight loss - it DOES feel good when your doc gives you accolades! :woohoo:

Just today I received a compliment! It was in the form of a totally out-of-the-blue FB message from a girl I worked with on a class project a couple years ago but haven't seen around campus much.

"Hey! I just saw you walking around (I was outside <on-campus eatery> with my boss) and wanted to tell you that you look AWESOME!!! Seriously."

Made my day!

I have gotten a rash of "I hardly recognized you!" lately. I love it! (Although it is slightly weird to think that people recognize you by your body shape rather than your face.). One coworker greeted me with "good morning, skinny" and I said if he could do that every day, I would appreciate it :)

I have a love/hate relationship with compliments. On one hand, of course, I LOVE being told I look good, who doesn't?? But on the other hand, it makes me uncomfortable when people always bring up the fact that I used to be big, and now I'm thin, and I look "soooo much better now." Just kind of an awkward thing to say.

The "compliments" I've liked best are really just comments. Mostly from people that I met more recently after I lost the weight and have just always known me as a thin person. When somebody says something like "Megan, you're tiny" as if they were stating "Megan, your hair is brown"...that's what really makes me feel good.

One time I had a very intoxicated girl...who I thought was thin herself...bump into me on accident. In her drunken state, she started yelling at me for bumping into her. She said "Get out of my way, skinny b*tch...I could snap you in half!".........I think it was the best compliment I ever received, lol.

I consider myself very, VERY lucky (especially when I see some posts on here) that I have had nothing but supportive complimentary friends, co-workers and family members. I receive compliments on a near daily basis to the point where it is almost embarrassing.

This wasn't exactly a compliment but while I was running Tuesday, a guy in a pick-up truck was watching me so closely that he did not see the car in front of him stop at a stop sign and actually rear-ended her. I felt bad, but I was like "Woah, I just caused an accident!"

My cousin whom I haven't seen for 6 months saw me today and said "holy bat sh*t you look amazing" and that just made my day. I haven't gotten compliments like that in years (my husband doesn't count).

Drunk people have such a way with words! :lol:

I'm a substitute teacher and it's always interesting how kids react to me. This week, I was greeted by 2 different students (at different schools) with "You're pretty." Both times it was the first thing in the morning, so I don't think they had ulterior motives ;).

This kind of thing has been happening a lot with students recently, which always surprises me because these are kids who are just meeting me for the first time. They'll do things like blurt out compliments like this or won't stop caressing my boots while I'm reading to them. Very sweet, but this never happened when I was heavier. It could be that I am more open and carry myself differently. Or it could be that the kids have already learned some very interesting things about our society's standards of beauty (i.e. thinner= prettier).

At any rate, it's helping me learn how to accept a compliment (which has always been something that made me squirm a little). You can't reject a "you're pretty" when it's followed by a toothless grin :).

I smiled when I read your post - that's awesome!!

It's nice when ppl give you compliments in a positive way - instead of ways that might be misconstrued - I got howled at by a car of young hoons yesterday - now I don't know if it's a compliment but heck, I'll take it as one.

DH has taken to calling me -stickwoman- and -skinny b!tch- (in the nicest possible way haha) lately and I love it :devil:

Of course I'm not THAT thin, but it's helping to reinforce in me the mental change I need to make going from thinking 'fat' to thinking 'thin'.

I just saw a girlfriend this weekend from out of state. She knows about my weight loss, but the last time I saw her was just before I started losing. She said "You look FANTASTIC. Not just the weight loss, but you look happy and your skin is glowing." :D

Not really related to weightloss, but today in the gym when I was doing a warm-up set of barbell squats with 40 kg (88 lbs), a muscular guy walked up to me and said "You're a very strong woman". I thanked him, of course, although I was a bit puzzled that he thinks I'm strong only from that warm-up set, when I wasn't even getting close to my max squat weight. But it definitely made me feel good.

what a GREAT compliment!!! sometimes, when we're dieting, we really ARE "eating better" and our skin shows it!! congrats!!! :D

This past weekend was my bridal tea and my (evil) grandmother who is obsessed with weight loss and people looking "perfect," said "Your dad said you had lost weight and you do look fantastic." Another lady said who say me mid-way through my weight loss and who is an enthusiastic person in general, gasped and said "I think you have lost even more weight since I saw you last!!!! You look beautiful!"

BUT the best compliment came later on Sunday night when my brother and I were looking at the pictures on my camera from the tea. This was the first time that I had pictures taken since I really lost a lot of weight and it showed. I absolutely loved the way I look in the pictures. My brother was agreeing and saying all the typical male family member things (i.e. "oh, yeah, you look great." "uh-huh, yeah, good job" yadda yadda yadda.) I started flipping through previous pictures and found a picture from last summer (June 2010.) It showed how hefty I was. Just joking, I turned it around to show my brother and said "look at that chunk-o" and he just stared at it for about 5 seconds and then said "D**N, Jessica! You've LOST so much weight" and then fist bumped me. It was the first time he realized just how much I have lost and how different I look. It is more difficult for people you live and see on a daily basis, I know, but it felt good to hear him say it. :^: Later he told my mom and asked her if she had seen the "progression pictures" and she said "yeah, Jacob, 20 pounds off a person will make them look different." :D

So yeah, it was a good weekend for me ;)

I swear going from 160 to 150 (and now past it) made such a difference for some reason. The DAY I hit 150 I was getting compliments left and right!

At the gym everyone calls me skinny—a word I never though I would hear associated with me!

My friend hugged me the other day and said "OMG MY ARMS GO ALL THE WAY AROUND AND THEN SOME." I laughed.

I get called "beautiful" a lot now.

I posted some progress pictures on facebook (the first time) and I received so many compliments I was blushing :)

I got a ton of compliments on my legs when I mountain climbed a few weeks back; that felt amazing!

Another co-worker compliment...
this morning, said to me "You've been losing weight! you're just wasting away!"
LOVE IT!!!!!!!!! :D :D :D

(altho, have to say, I could lose another 30 lb & STILL NOT be "wasting away")

I have gotten several compliments but these are two of the recent ones:
Sat. night I went out for drinks with a girl friend and was texting my husband (I have been married 16 years) and he sent me a message that he had a HOT wife. He never says things like that to me. It really made me feel good that even after 16 years in his eyes I am hot.

Monday, I was at work, getting my lunch together and my bosses wife walked past me and said "Kassi, you look great. Every time I see you I can't believe how awesome you are."

Weird but I went to a store that I frequent about once a month. The owner stopped me to ask if I was feeling "okay" because I was so much smaller. HA!!! I still have a long way to go but I appreciated the comment even if she thought I had some horrible disease :)

I loved reading all of these comments.

It gives me hope that maybe I will make a noticeable change for me, my husband loves me no matter what size I am, he is crazy.

I LOVE when that happens! Granted, I have only lost a little over 10 lbs, so it hasn't happened to often to me, but I can't wait till it does!

I know a lady who makes clothing of her own design, really nice, really expensive stuff... last year when her show was in town she said to me "I was hoping to see you skinny! I have the perfect shirt for you..." LoL

Unfortunately this year I've gained some weight back :( But the show isn't until December so I have time to lose some of it and wow her again ;)

I've yet to get any compliments and I've almost lost 20 lbs. Sighhh. It's my proportions- they stay the same, just shrink.

I hear you! I've lost just over 50lbs and it's not at all noticeable. We just have to keep on truckin'!

ANOTHER co-worker compliment!

Yesterday my office mate asked "so how much weight HAVE you lost?" and I said "39 lb - still got about 13 to go to meet goal" and she said "WOW, 39! That's really terrific! You look really good!! - how are you doing it?" and I told her the basic "eat less/move more" explanation.

So... anyway... :D - yup, made my day!! :goodvibes

SUPER cute construction guy stared, then winked at me last Fri a.m. - made my day!!

A lot of people at work are starting to notice my weight loss. Just about every day that I work someone is saying something about it! One woman looked at me after not seeing me for almost a week (I only work 3 days a week and she was out sick the days I worked the week before) and said, "Wow, I just looked at you and realize there's a whole lot less of you now!"

Another woman said to me, "Are you losing weight? You are looking skinny!"

One of my best friends and I (who I work out with) went out to eat a few days ago and when I walked into her house her mouth literally dropped and she exclaimed, "Oh my God! You are so LITTLE!" She sees me almost every day, but normally in baggy T-shirts and sweat pants and not fitted jeans and shirts.

I don't think "skinny" and "little" are really good terms to describe me, haha, but it feels good hearing it from other people. I have a long way to go, definitely, but getting awesome compliments makes me want to keep on going!

A few weeks ago I walked by two guys in a convenience store parking lot, and one said to the other, "Damn, that's a fine looking woman."

At Easter, I got lots of "skinny" and "thin" comments. But my fave was when a niece said to Hubby, "Your wife sure is looking good these days."

I got the usual ones along the way, too. One regular customer where I work always calls me "Skinny" now and lots of people from church have said I look wonderful ask me how I did it. These are great. But the best one has to be this:

I've been divorced from my DD's dad for 20 years. We are on decent terms, and I get along with his wife, though we don't often have to get together since our daughter lives out of state. I was 250 when we divorced and stayed there until last year. I was at a dance and saw someone I knew across the room (huge room.) As I turned a corner to go to their table, I saw my ex with his wife and a bunch of their friends. I had to walk past them, which was no big deal - like I said - we get along. I was looking right at the ex - actually making eye contact - and he's just smiling like you would at a stranger. Then his wife says really loud, "Oh, my God! Kay said you were losing weight, but I didn't expect this!" It was only then that the ex realized it was me and his jaw dropped to the floor. I was about 15 pounds heavier than when we met - it wan't like he had never seen me thinner than 250. That was the absolute best reaction ever.

Lin