Why the heck not?? Do it...I beg you! :devil: Seriously, how will you ever get her to understand if you don't show her how it feels. If she laughs it off, then she meant it as a joke to you, but if she raises h*ll, then joyfully tell her, "Oh, I thought it was so funny when you said it to me, that I stole your joke...haha, you are so cute...".

Call me a *itch, but I'm all about, "what's good for the goose" reality.

Or better yet, close your facebook account and live IRL. ;)

If I valued her friendship (and I don't know if I would, given how she's behaving), I would send her a private message and say something like ".....if you're going to make condescending comments, it's probably best not to post them for all to see on my wall." See how she reacts......maybe it would open the door to a conversation. She may not even realize she's being spiteful....she probably just doesn't know what to do with her jealous emotions.

I cannot deal with "the facebooks".

Isn't there a way to only send certain updates to certain people? Just don't include her in any of your (AWESOME) fitness achievement updates :)

She clearly doesn't want to be a part of that, and for sure you don't need the negativity.

I have this one coworker who has not said one word to me about my weight loss, except when I told her I wasn't going to eat the cupcakes at a company party. Then she was full of advice! "You know, if you keep this deprivation up, it's going to backfire on you." I said, "Uh, I eat chocolate for breakfast every morning. Those protein bars I eat are chocolate." She just said, "Oh," and walked away. (They're Special K chocolate delight protein bars by the way. Deeelicious!)

I've learned that with her it is all about jealousy. She cannot stand that, even though she "wants" to lose weight, she hasn't been able to while I have. (I have my own opinions about why she's been unsuccessful, but that's neither here nor there.) I've learned to take her unwanted "advice" and her silence about my success in stride. Other people in the office have gone on and on about my weight loss in positive, motivating ways, so I don't care if this one person is jealous and can't stand for me to be doing well.

But that's me with a coworker. If it was a friend, I would totally call her out on her bs. Friends are supportive and want each other to succeed! If not, then what's the point in having these kinds of people in our lives?

Just keep up all the hard work cause you look awsome! And remember she wishes she had your body....

From a fat chick who can't wait to be hot!!!

I have my loseit account linked to Facebook and I love the encouragement and support I get when I post updates.

I would be ticked with the comment your friend made as well, but do try take it for what it is, a manifestation of her insecurity, and know you're doing great things for your body and overall health.

I'm consistently floored with how awesome this community is. Love all the replies-especially with the diversity of thought!

In my life, my journey is very solitary, but I am always so happy to read these forums and see that everyone is dealing with the same (or similar) things. Thank you for the insights! Being reminded to just keep pushing forward-regardless of hurdles (or negativity) is so nice to hear, since in real life, I am admittedly very hard on myself.

:)

I would have replied, "Well, we don't have to worry about that happening to you, do we?"

Carol