I'm SICK of it...
 

I know its really done of my business... but...

Things i'm SICK of..

1) Skinny people eating whatever the heck the want (and not gaining a pound). I smell Mcdonalds and i instantly gain 10 pounds (okay, kidding)

2) Skinny people thinking they are fat. And constantly complaining about it.

3) People saying they are going to start a diet and then still eating fast food, Chinese take out, etc. and then wondering why nothing is changing.

4) people judging me by what I eat. I swear (since i'm not skinny) people just can't get over the fact that I'm eating healthy foods all the time. and of course EVERYONE has to comment on it every single time.


sorry about the rant.. just a little angry.. and seeing if anyone else feels the same that I do.


What are you guys sick of? or maybe i'm the only one?? haha

Hey, some of us "skinny" people were once overweight or even obese ourselves. You don't need to pick on "us" to be confident about your new lifestyle choices. :?: #1 and #4 sort of conflict...

I'm sick of skinny people telling me how I should take better care of my health, even though they eat McDonald's everyday but are blessed with a fast metabolism so they are thin.

Sorry, I'm talking about the people who I know have been skinny their whole lives.

And I didn't take is as her picking on anyone????
I think that it's just really frustrating sometimes and so she is ranting. :)

Some people are just blessed with high metabolisms (downside though is one guy I met would almost pass out suddenly when he got hungry because he burned through it all..kind of scary).

I get a bit frustrated too with people who say they're on a diet then eat all sorts of junk food and take out then complain about not losing any weight. Or the ones that insist they need the junk food then blame everyone else for bad foods.

I do get really depressed by the skinny girls who say they're fat but when I'm in a patient mood I'm able to remind myself that we've all got our own body issues...it's just frustrating when you're sitting next to a girl that literally wears a size 0 and she says she "sooooo fat, such a whale" because it makes me feel like wow...if you're a whale then I'm apparently the size of a planet :(

Hmm, this may sound random but I've actually had a few guy friends get after me for NOT eating because my body gets stuck in starvation mode so I can't lose weight.

I've learned that #4 doesn't get any better. Those of us who have lost the weight hear, "You can afford to eat _____" or "Are you sure you want that cake? I've heard it's pretty easy to put the weight back on." It gets worse actually, because apparently it's not quite the same faux pas to pick on thin people as it is those who need to lose the weight.

I totally know what you mean.
My cousin (I love her to death BTW and we are really close) thinks that she needs to tell me all the things that I can do to magically make myself thinner. The reality is that she has really good genes (her Dad's) and I have our side of the family's genes (the bad ones lol). It's really frustrating when you are sooo good all week on your diet so that you can have that one piece of cake at a party, just to be told by a skinny person who just had 2 pieces that if you didn't eat stuff like that you wouldn't be "heavy".

But I also admit that what gets me even more than that, is another fat person giving me weight loss/health advice. I think that the truth is that I just feel bad about myself a lot and I feel bad that I didn't make the right choices and therefore I don't want advice from anyone.

I know how you feel. My husband weighs what my GOAL weight is and he is always griping about how fat he is! I love him lots but when he does that too often I tell him to cool it or I'm gettin' out the whip! ;-)

I get sick of people who seem to be kind of ignorant about fitness trying to give me advice. For example i'll say "i dieted this week and GAINED a pound" and they'll say "it's probably muscle." i'm like how would i gain muscle doing the EXACT SAME exercise i've always done???? You don't gain muscle by doing nothing, or doing cardio even! That always annoys me.

Things I'm sick off... (since you did what people do that your sick off I went with that)

1. People acting like I must have an eating disorder if I don't want to pig out on junk with them or if I don't want to snatch up all the free samples at the groccery store.

2. People who complain about their weight but binge drink and eat constantly.

3. People who are seriously out of shape telling me that I should just do such and such exercises to "tone things up" because my weight is fine when I obviously need to lose more fat and I exercise regularly.

4. People who are bigger than me and have had no success at ever losing weight telling me I'm dieting wrong or that I should be doing this or that because they heard it works from a friend.

5. People giving me looks of pity when they hear I'm trying to lose weight. what about trying to lose weight = pity. I'm been having success I'm not a yoyo dieter. I don't have extremely low self esteem. Keep your pitty looks to yourself!

6. People purposefully trying to sabotage my eating plan.

Yeah, my husband and I started dieting at the same time almost 6 weeks ago. We eat the same thing except he gets about 800 cal a day more than me. He has lost 24 lbs and I have lost 8 (lost 16 but today says last week 8 lb gain). :(
It just seems so unfair sometimes. I hate always feeling like I am in a constant battle with my own body. :(

Just to play devil's advocate here...i hope no one is going to judge me if i say i'm on a diet and then i'm seen eating a slice of cake or an ice cream cone or a McDonald's burger or something. If that happens, it might be because i've fallen off my plan...but it could just as well be that i was craving ice cream and i worked hard to plan and save calories for it.

I get where you're coming from.

It's very uncomfortable talking with my husband's friends wives when they are going on about how they have gotten, "so fat" when I'm sitting there obviously much heavier then either of them. If they need to lose 20lbs and think that makes them so fat, then I don't even want to imagine what they think about me.

If I am in a social situation where it is obvious I am not eating everything in sight, I always say that I am trying to be careful and watching my weight. That way, if they see me with a piece of cake or whatever, there is nothing they can say.

AND, I must admit......I LOVE this website, BUT when I click onto a subject and see that the author has 20 or less points to lose, I go to the next forum. I have NO interest in helping someone who is obviously on the wrong site.

I agree! I've been on plan since March of last year and I still eat McD's and Taco bell!!! No one better be judging my size four *** munchin on chicken nuggets or a taco, especially since I've also had a size fourteen *** in the recent past.

I used to be one of the "skinny" people who ate whatever I wanted without gaining a pound--but, unfortunately, when we grow up our metabolism changes...which is part of the reason why I gained 30 lbs in the last 3 years (even while trying to diet.) Of course, there are lifestyle reasons too.

But, when I was in high school, I was in a group of three best friends. One was anorexic, one was overweight, and one was me.

My anorexic friend would always complain about how "fat" she was--but, I want to emphasize that people with body disorders aren't reflecting on others, but often they are just hard on their own body, because they have issues with their own self worth and image.

The problem with women saying they're fat, usually lays in their own body image, which is usually compared to ridiculously thin, yet busty, fashion and TV models. They aren't comparing themselves to normal women like you, I, or the women on this site, but to airbrushed toothpicks with breast implants. And compared to them, everyone is "fat."

My overweight friend watched her food and ate healthier than both of us--but she was still overweight. I watched her un-fruitful trek through Jenny Craig, and other diets. She would exercise, while me and my anorexic friend sat around watching TV (and I was eating bacon and mac+cheese). Plus, she came from a very thin mom, and so couldn't figure out why she was the only one in her family with weight problems. And people did make comments to her about what she ate.

I am happy, and a little jealous, to report, that she is now skinnier than both me and my anorexic friend, because she eats healthy and goes jogging every day, and we never had to worry about our weight, so we succeeded in gaining it after our metabolisms aged. Now, she is the skinny one who I glower at. Cheers!

I'm glad most of you guys agree with me.. I gotta a little nervous there when one of the first posts "took it the wrong way". Glad i'm not the only one that gets fed up with some things!

My husband was one of those people who could eat 'anything and everything'. He's not 'fat biased' though. And now...it's a good thing...poor man hit 58 yrs. old and all of a sudden he's put on 18 lbs. and has NO idea how to get it back off! He has been thrown into the fat camp....and it's really upsetting to watch him.

I know we all think about putting these high metabolism folks into a 'fat tank' and then say 'see how it is?' but when it really happens to someone who you love...it's not any fun.

The good thing is that he now 'understands' what it takes (while many do NOT) to actually lose the weight and keep it off.

Why would someone with less than 20 lbs to lose be on the wrong site?:?:That just seems mean spirited.

I really dislike when people who clearly look great grab the one ounce of chub they have and say they are so fat, then look around for people to say "No, you're so skinny. You're so pretty. I wish I was your weight." That makes me hack!

This makes me sad. I love this site and hang around past goal to learn new things, help others, and gain support to maintain my weight and get even healthier.
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Mmmmmm... People who have less then 20lbs to lose still need support. Just because I have 85 more lbs to go doesn't mean I belong here. Does that mean when I get down to only having 15lbs left to lose I should leave?

Not the best way to think about things. We all need support, that's why we're here.

It's not that I take it the wrong way, I do understand what you are saying, and when I was still overweight I probably would have said the same thing. But after being a maintainer for many years, I found that a lot of that frustration & resentment was more of a reflection on myself rather than the actual situation of the typical 'skinny' person.

Frustration that some people can eat 'whatever they want' and still lose weight, when truthfully, the vast majority of 'skinny' people's definition of 'whatever they want' is just 3x less than what I wanted to eat. Or that I thought everyone was judging me for what I ate when I was doing the same thing. I think it's just as much of a personal emotional journey as a physical one.

I don't think there's anything wrong with your post, and obviously many people do feel the same way and you certainly aren't alone, but that's just my own perspective as a maintainer.

And MonicaM, do you really mean those with less than 20lbs have no business being here? I can think of a few now-slim gals who have lost 100,200lbs+ and are probably some of the best sources of help & inspiration on here!

Whether you need to lose 5 or 100lbs, or whatever your personal opinion is on THIS particular topic, it doesn't matter, everyone is welcome. A site like this one, that is so supportive, is extremely rare.

I hate it when people ask me what I do to lose weight. When I tell them I count calories, they look at me weird and make comments about that being "obsessive" or "bothersome". What I've found through my weight loss journey, that for me personally (you all might have different experiences) is that weight loss can be bothersome. It is often a pain in the @ss. I need to count calories...to me it isn't obsessive...it makes as much sense to me as budgeting my daily expenses. I have to exercise 5-6 times a week, whether I feel like it or not...and I often don't. I also don't like paying taxes, studying, and being a broke student, but that's life (for me). My point is, I guess, I can't stand it when people ask what I do then criticize my actions because (I'm guessing) they think (hope?) that weight loss is easy and effortless.

I am sick of skinny chicks because I am not one JEALOUS LOL just kidding kind of :P

I am sick of hearing the word diet come out of my kids mouth grrr but I still love them lol

Sick of my husband who can seem to lose weight just by looking at healthy food, but hes super supportive so I guess I should just shut up lol

I am sick of people telling me atkins is bad

I am sick of people telling me how to lose weight (how fast or slow I should)

I am sick of adivce from people who have never been fat!

I am sick of people thinking that I have an eating disorder just because I am not eating carbs (many any ways)

I am sick of being fat

I am sick of being fat opps already said that lol

I am sick of BIG PANTIES LOL

Ok I am done because I could go on forever yep Im bitter cant wait to not be a fat kid!

Oh yeah and I am sick of my friend who I love to death but is 350lbs with heart problems asking me (her)"WHY OH WHY cant I lose weight like you are?" (me)"what are you crunching on in my ear" (her)"Doritos" ME! > OMG GRRRRRRRRRRRRR DUH!

Skinny girl HATAHS unite...(j/k)..I was one of the skinny people..I've been one of the chunkier girls. I have news for y'all, if your head isn't in the right place it is just as hard to lose twenty pounds as it is 80!! Stop wasting your energy worrying about what the "skinny people" are doing and focus on yourselves....maybe you'll be happier.

I've got PMS so I'm just about sick of everything right now! I'd say that about 95% of the people I have come in contact with today have pissed me off in some way shape or form. :D

OMG I am so sick of big girl panties too! I wanna wear cute bras and undies again :(

O_o

I have major jealousy of people for whom food is just food. I used to be one of those people, but somewhere in the process of trying to improve my health and feel better about myself, I developed severely messed up thinking about food. At least exercise is still just exercise!

It's really hard to hear that even here people are openly judging others for their weight.

Problems with food, whether it's overeating, body dysmorphia, stress eating, etc manifest themselves in different ways. For some it is outwardly noticeable: a weight gain. For most it's a daily battle that is tearing them up physically and emotionally and this is something not outwardly visible. Everyone has their own battles and it's terrible for someone to judge someone else, regardless of their weight, based on what they eat or the way they feel about their body. I thought the point of this website is to create an uplifting, healthy place to nurture each other, a place where people who hate their body or love their body, who are overweight or trying to maintain or somewhere in between can find support and motivation. We all have a lot to learn from each other and a lot to give each other.

For some people 20 lbs could mean the difference between healthy and overweight. Some people "catch" themselves slipping after they gain 20 lbs and want to DO something about it before 20 lbs becomes 100 lbs. So they come to 3FC. Isn't that part of the point of this website....?

More importantly, this website is to provide support for all people to lead healthier lives. I understand that people who have 20 lbs to lose have a different journey than people who have 200 lbs to lose. But everyone is here because they are interested in giving and receiving the support to be healthier people.

I like 3FC because I have learned a lot about nutrition, fitness, and health from chicks of all shapes and sizes, some bigger than me, some smaller than me. I've received so much support and I try to give support and motivation as well. Many people on here have inspiring journeys and I love interacting with such incredible individuals. It's troubling to hear there's some sense that some people "do not belong" or are not welcome on this site.

Please don't judge other people because their journey is different from yours :?:

i do understand what you're saying, and the first thing that came to mind when reading your post was one of my favorite quotes by Bikram Choudhury:

"Nothing can steal happiness, peace away from you: if anyone does make you angry, you are the loser; if someone can allow you to lose peace, you are the loser"

usually i apply this to my Bikram yoga practice, but i suppose it works in this instance as well.

NOTE: you're totally not a loser :) but you get the idea

Some people may have had "great metabolisms" all their life and suddenly they find themselves gaining weight and want to put a stop to it before it spirals out of control.

I wish I had nipped the problem in the butt when I only had 20 lbs to lose. I'm on my last 10-20 lbs and it's harder to lose now than it was when I was heavier.

Ever wonder if people who have addiction to alcohol get all of that unasked for advice, same as we who have chronic food addiction? Our current culture seems to encourage everyone to comment about everyone else, not just about weird celebs and their personal antics. Anyone is free game these days. And when you mention "skinny", I picture Skelator in my mind, ribs sticking out, like people from a concentration camp. Also wonder about people who have to tell everyone their size, day in and day out. Please, just tattoo it on your forehead for us...........

Thank you! :D

Your right it's really none of your business.

Most "skinny" people I know work out so they can eat what they want. They do the work to stay "skinny".

These people have a psychological problem and you should feel bad for them not berate them. They obviously have issues and are sad and hurting.

Some people are not ready to change. It's not your problem to worry about it or judge them. They don't want to be fat but they don't know how to fix themselves. They are sad and hurting inside and they are complaining because they are sad and hurting.

Ignore them. It will stop. Why do you care what they think?

I didn't find your post all that amusing, more you are attacking "skinny" people. I don't think you should worry what anyone else is doing or eating. You should focus on yourself. You don't want people to judge you for what you are eating so why are you judging other people?

I guess I could say I'm sick of seeing these kind of posts.

People should NEVER comment on what someone is eating! It is very rude and hurtful. They are not in your shoes so they don't know what you need to eat!
I still eat fast food because it is cheap but I make sure it is within my daily calorie budget

i totally agree with indiblue......this site is about all shapes and sizes coming together to reach one common goal......getting healthier and back on track. It seems as if a few people on here have lost sight of that :(

I'm sure I have pissed off a large number of fat and obese people that are trying to lose weight. I don't eat out often so when I do I plan around it so I can enjoy it but all the fat person at the table next to me sees is a relatively slim guy eating a huge amount of food. Seriously ... I can put it away. :D

Unless you spend 24 hours a day with someone you have no idea how many calories they are consuming.

People who's metabolisms are so fast they can eat huge amounts of calories are extremely rare. More than likely that person isn't eating as much as you think or they are very active or both. Those metabolic calculators that aproximate your BMR were designed based on studying people and if you look at the data there are very few outliers.

Anyways ... I understand the frustration.

aren't you doing number four by listing the three prior to it? ;)

I only have problems with the sabotagers, the ones who know my plan and my goals and insist on trying to break my will and thwart my efforts. Wish I could cut them all from my life. Got it down to one person left...my 81 year old mother. I don't go over to her house during meal time, ever. I don't accept food from her. I don't accept her invitations to eat at her house. Because she won't honor what I'm trying to do. I spend plenty of time with her otherwise. But somehow, not accepting her food means I'm rejecting her and avoiding her and that I don't love her. Her behavior is pushing me very close to that lately!