What bothers you the most?
 

Hey everyone :)

I'm new to the forum here and I just wanted to ask

Whats your biggest frustrations about weight loss?
Also, whats your biggest fear about weight loss?

I can tell you mine is sticking to anything because life gets in the way a lot :/
My fears include, not having time to do the things I like and the chance of falling into the same diet/exercise traps that never work...

What about you guys?

The most frustrating thing, for me, is that I'm impatient and want this extra mass gone N.O.W not tomorrow.

I am terrified of having nothing to hide behind as a thinner person. I lost 80lbs. years ago and was SO uncomfortable with comments and attention that I pretty much gained it back as fast as I could...on purpose. I am much more comfortable with myself now and am determined that won't happen again, but I would be lying if I said that I wasn't worried about it. :S

The most frustrating part is the planning, the prepping and the cooking. I found my life SO much easier when I could just pick dinner up, or throw together something based solely on carbs and fat.

And my biggest fear is sustainability. I know I CAN do it, I just worry about actually doing it.

Frustration:So slooooooooooow of a process. and ditto on the planning.

Fear: What happens if I lose all the weight I want and am still not the person I want to be...

My biggest frustration: Like everyone else has been saying, the fact that it is soooo slow a process.

Biggest fear: I'm worried I don't have the willpower to stick it out. And I'm worried that even if I do, I still won't be satisfied with my body once I lose the weight. :(

I have so much discipline and focus and drive when I am dealing with 1 or 2 things. I'm nervous because I know eventually a 3rd thing will show up and you know...when you juggle you cant keep your eye on them all at once . :(

I am mostly frustrated by my body shape. My waist is HUGE. If someone took a picture of my stomach, you'd think I was 250+. I have the arms and legs of a person under 200. I don't like where the weight came off from first.

But...I am optimistic that these last 45 lbs are going to melt off my midsection.

That it takes time time time and a lot of effort. I am also on medication for bipolar disorder which makes losing weight ten times harder.

I fear that when I'm finally at that ideal weight, I'm still not happy and I'm still sick. I worry that things won't fall into place.

Frustration: Going round and round in circles

Fear: That I'll be going round in circles forever

Lack of self-control, self-sabotaging behaviors, crappy willpower. I could lose these last ten pounds in two months, but instead I regain and lose and regain the same few every week. I'm so close to goal and it seems like I'm doing everything in my power to backslide. It's been really bad the past week and it sort of scares me.

Frustration: That I let myself go to the point of gaining all that weight in the first place. Loosing weight is a slow process and I try to not let it affect me, I tell myself that it took a while for those pounds to add up and it will take as long to loose them.

Fear: once I reach the weight that I forget how hard it was to get there and start to indulge telling myself that it wont matter, I have to continue for the rest of my life to say no to certain food.

Same with the time. I want to walk in the gym weighing 264 and come out weighing 170 lbs lol. Also I hate how our weight changes throughout the week. I check my weight every day but only record it on Wednesday. The other day unofficially I took my weight and I was 262! But today I am 265, one lb more than last week's official weigh in.

I fear that I will lose the weight and be happy, but something inh my life makes me turn back to food again. That's how I dealt with stress for so long was turning to food.

My biggest frustrations are that its such a waiting game. You eat healthy and workout day in and day out but results only show slowly.
Also that even though I hit my goal weight, im still not entirely happy. I'd like to lose more fat and get more toned. I get so frustrated thinking that even though my body is not where I want it to be visually, that I shouldnt go much lower or i'll be underweight.
My biggest fear is gaining it all back. I have dreams that a wake up and my losing weight was all a dream. I'm afraid of the comments I'll get if I gain all the weight back. Everyone says "you look so great now!" Well I guess if I gain weight back then I wont look so great anymore :-/

I wish you'd asked me a year ago. ;) I have no idea what I would have said.

Today I can honestly say there isn't anything about weight loss that frustrates me, except perhaps plateaus. Even those I take in stride now.

My biggest fear though? I know it used to be never making goal. Now it's regain. But it isn't a big fear. I know only 5% are able to maintain weight loss, but just knowing that gives me confidence that I can be among the 5%.

1) That it's not automatic, mindless, and easy

2) That the weight doesn't suddenly drop off easily

3) That it requires effort and complete change of lifestyle... otherwise it really doesn't work....

I've had to come to terms with this and it's been hard and it's taken a long time. I'm much more accepting that it does require work and that it's something I'm going to work on for the rest of my life...

But I sometimes wish it wasn't.... I know I am healthier and happier for doing this, of course. I just wish it was easier and faster.

My biggest frustration is that I know I'm going to have to stick to a plan for the rest of my life and that I may not get the results that I want. My body is changing slowly but surely but sometimes I feel like I look exactly the same and the extra skin is really making me wonder if I will ever be happy with my body completely.

My biggest fear however is that I will gain all that I've lost back. I don't ever want to be as big as I was again. I can breath better, I feel smarter, I have more confidence despite my body issues, and I don't wanna feel slow and weak again.

It's funny how your frustrations and fears change as time goes by. When I first started off I would have said my biggest frustration was the time that it takes and that my biggest fear was that I would fall off track. But over time I've become patient and I've learned that even if even you fall of track for awhile it's not a huge deal, the important thing is that you get right back on the horse.

my biggest frustration is that I have almost become a hermit recently... all of my friends, who are all skinny, love to go out and eat and drink. I talk to them on the phone, text and facebook all the time, but I have to say no to going out with them.

My biggest fear is when I do get down to my goal weight, I still won't be satisfied. I will want to get my saggy boobs done, I will want a tummy tuck... a chin tuck... I don't want to be that vain, but I don't want to be saggy, either.

What bothers me the most is my inability to actually stick with it. I KNOW it's what's best for me, I KNOW it really isn't all that much work, yet I continually "fall off the wagon" and slide back into my unhealthy habits.

I have 2 fears, really. One, that I eventually WILL lose the weight (silly, huh?) and two, that I might never lose the weight. It's very conflicting.

Biggest frustration: that it isn't happening more quickly. I've come to terms with that now, though, and by putting much greater emphasis on increased health instead of decreased weight, my reaction to scale frustration is "meh, maybe tomorrow I'll see more of what I've been doing in that number" rather than abject panic.

Biggest fear: that the sustainable lifestyle I'm now living isn't going to be restrictive enough to get me where I want to go--that I'll have to keep cutting and cutting at my calories to approach my goals. It's not a realistic fear, nor is that a realistic reaction to it, though--and I know that. Doesn't stop me from occasionally thinking, "This can't possibly be enough effort" when I'm eating something delicious and on-plan.

I'm still working on internalizing the idea that weight loss doesn't have to be punishing and miserable.

Frustrations: Ditto to all of those who said it's taking too long! Also the fact that I haven't been able to shake that "woe is me" feeling because I can't just eat whatever I want.
Fears: That I'll always be unattractive even at goal. That I'll never GET to goal.

Frustration: That with all of last fall's medical crap (four surgeries and an illness in four months), I have to re-lose some weight. Most of the time I can just let it go and focus on my determination, but not always. I HATE redoing things.

Fear: That I'll never get below 170. I got very close last fall before all the medical crap kicked in, but the fear is still there.

I forgot to mention my fear.....

That I'll stop losing weight and I won't be able to reach any lower.... It's mostly because of my PCOS and my fear that it will get in the way and stop me from reaching my goal weight.

My biggest frustration is how much time I spend working out and worrying about what I eat... and then seee no weight loss. That is frustrating.

In way there is a fear of gaining the weight back... but I know I will never go past 200 again.

There is also a fear of getting to goal weight but my skin and boobs sagging so much that it wouldn't matter how little I weigh.

WOW- now I am scared of that.

My biggest frustration is just like everyone else: I am impatient and weight loss is soo slow and takes commitment even when the motivation isn't there. I want to wake up and be at my goal weight tomorrow!

My biggest fear is that I'll get depressed again and gain back all my weight again. I've lost weight twice before (~30 lbs) and gained it back both times when I let Binge Eating Disorder take over again. I'm hoping that I have a better understanding now of my behaviors and circumstances that trigger my depression/ binge eating. I don't want to do all this work and lose control again and have it be for nothing :(

I am fustrated by the slow pace. I keep losing weight, but my clothes size are the same. Im also scared that I will hit a wall, and be stuckin the 180's forever.

the fact that some months i lose 12 lbs and others only lose 2, despite no change in diet.

Biggest Frustration: Waiting for the weight to come off! I haven't plateaued yet, thankfully, and it's coming off slowly but surely, which I am happy about, but it's hard to stay patient. I cannot wait to go shopping when I finally reach my goal weight. I know I look better than I did a few months ago, but I'm still not happy with my body or the way my clothes look.

Biggest Fear: Regaining the weight! I've lost weight before and regained it all but ten pounds, and this time I'm determined to maintain. But it's a fear that's already come true for me once, so it's hard for me not to worry about.

I can't get pregnant
 

What bothers me most about my weight is it is keeping me from getting pregnant. I feel enormous guilt because of it. I have polycystic ovary syndrome and my doctor has said to get pregnant I need to get down to at least 200lbs. Every time I weigh myself I've gained weight. Sometimes it feels just too far out of my reach.

frustation has to be the slow pace for me. weight fluctuations.
fear: becoming a shopaholic lol

My Biggest Frustrations:
1) Waiting. I'm uncharmingly impatient.
2) There's something happening with my boobs. I don't know if they are getting smaller per se, but something I don't like is definitely happening.

Surprising annoyance: I already looked stupid in a business suit and now they are all ridiculously huge on me. I can't afford new clothes.

Fear: that I won't get there or I won't stay. That I will end up liking the way I looked before better.

My biggest frustration is having to be PATIENT! I know I didn't put this weight on in a week and can't expext to lose it in a week - but still!

My biggest fear is that I will stall before I reach my goal weight.

Biggest frustration....definitely the long time it takes to shed this weight...I keep telling myself, I did not gain it overnight as well...

Fear...That I will have a severe lupus attack again, and I have to go back on the Prednisone.

Biggest frustration is that I don't have THAT much to lose (by other's standards), about 25 or 30 lbs. And I am having trouble sticking with it.

I'll lose 5 lbs, then relax and let it creep back up. It's discouraging and I know that I am the one to blame. :(

Like they feel as if there's nothing substantial in them? I had this happen. Now though, they're starting to feel normal again, just smaller. They no longer feel like deflated balloons. :D Hopefully it will work out for you too.

My biggest frustration is that I've done this at least a hundred times and here I am again. Up and down the scale all my life. Can I lose it this time and STAY THIN?????

My biggest frustration is losing the same few pounds over and over again. Last summer I did so well and then due to circumstance I gained about 15 lbs back and since then losing it has been slow AGONY. I'm still about 5 lbs up from my lowest weight since I joined 3fc.

My biggest fear is one day I'm going to say SCREW IT and gain it all back and then some. And then I'll just hate myself.

I can honestly say I've never been healthier in my life and I hope that never happens but you never know what life is going throw at you. I just pray that I can get through it without turning to food.

If I ever do reach my goal I know I will have a lot of stretch marks it makes me mad but I would rather be in shape with stretch marks that fat without them

Biggest Frustrations

Biggest Fears

• That I will give up when I am close to my goal because that's what I do. Self-sabotage tends to come pretty easily to me.

Frustration#1: That it took forever to lose the weight (30 pounds in three years followed by a 2 year stall).

Frustration#2: That I've had to cut my calories down to rock bottom levels in order to break my stall, while at the same time having to think about food all the time in order to make sure that every calorie I take in is a healthy one.

Fear#1: That I won't be able to stick to this Spartan lifestyle forever and will gain the weight back before I get to goal.

Fear#2: That I will get to goal and still hate my thighs and stomach.