I will be praying for your sister.

So it's been way too long. Not sure what's happened to my motivation. All I can say is that I'm glad I haven't gained everything back. I'm up to 208... and really not happy with the way I feel OR the way my clothes are fitting. I know I need to get back on track, but again, just not feeling energized at all.

Any tips? Words of wisdom?

Toobig -- I just noticed that you & I started at the same time.. AND LOOK AT HOW FAR YOU'VE COME!!! I am so impressed.. a little jealous... and totally in awe. Good for you!

I'm up to 220 for now blah.. TOM is supposed to be here any day so hopefully that's the reason I'm up another pound. Today is also my husband's birthday and I will be making him a cake. Dear Lord help me. I'm considering making the cake into cup cakes. I was watching a cooking show yesterday and they mentioned cupcakes are so much fun and cute and also a good way to have automatic portion control. I thought that was interesting and how they explained it made sense too.

AnneL-I completely understand having no motivation and I don't know where mine's gone either. I'm not happy either with how I feel at all. I went to church yesterday and wore some black pants to church that had fit nicely on me before and wow they kept hiking up on me and bunching up and etc.

Mtiger- I'm so sorry about your sister. That sounds pretty normal for her to be reacting that way. Prayers and HUGS to you and your family.

Have a great day everyone!

I am down to 219 today.. Don't know why and it was a nice surprise this morning. But I'll take it for now! My sister in law is due today to have her baby and my father in law is here all the way from Michigan. We met them for dinner last night. He is very anxious for grandchildren and has been since the day that my husband and I got married over 6 years ago and is pushy about it. First thing he said to me was that I looked good then which really surprised me that he said that so that was nice...then the next thing was that he hoped the next time he saw me that I would have a belly like my sister in law. When I smiled and tried to politely say I didn't think that would happen any time soon he tried to argue with me and I just told him he needed to talk to his son. LOL.. I didn't know how else to handle it. We hadn't even sat down to the table at the restaurant and that was already starting ugh. He doesn't know that I may not be able to have children since my husband has never sat him down to talk to him about his pushiness. Other than that it was a nice meal at the restaurant and I was able to portion out my dinner meal and I have two more meals out of it for today. Have a great day everyone!

Anne- Thanks for the encouragement! I feel like it has been really slow going.

Brat- How have you kept from killing your FIL? Your self control is amazing! I read your post and wanted to slap someone!!! When people ask me why DH and I don't have children I always say " I'm the baby at my house".

Back home!

I am afraid it probably won't be good news on the scale in the morning....

I will return then.....

Toobig-Well thank you for saying I have good self control. I sure was trying to be nice. Yesterday he started in on my husband this time at the hospital in front of some other people that are not family and was being a bit argumentive again after my husband first tried to just be polite and my husband finally said to him that we were not trying or planning any time soon to have children and that he and we didn't wanna hear anymore about it. It was so quiet in the waiting room for a moment you could hear a pin drop. He left early this morning and after yesterday that is a good thing since he really got on my nerves at the hospital the whole day. I so wanted to say yesterday that I am not a baby making machine. But we are officially an Aunt and an Uncle now! Mom and baby are completely healthy.

I'm still 219. I worked out Thursday night and was a bit sore yesterday. My eating and my working out has been completely disrupted due to my FIL being here this week and us waiting on the baby since she was three days late etc. I did pretty well I think. My in laws noticed how I was eating and how little I was eating etc. The places we went to ended up eating at ended up being a lot of fried stuff. So my stomach has been rumbling a LOT this week. My FIL got here in TX a full 24 hours early this past Saturday and surprised everyone and threw off everyone's plans. Then my FIL showed up Wednesday afternoon on us at my husband's job unannounced when he was supposed to be at our house Thursday afternoon. Then he acted disappointed when we weren't taking off Thursday from our regular schedule like school and work but that's why you were supposed to be here on Thursday night and not Wednesday! It was good to see him but it was time for him to go home since he was not communicating with anyone and just showing up at places. We and my sister in law and her hubby are all on a very tight budget for different reasons so we couldn't afford to take off work or change our daily living schedules unfortunately for him. Now I've gotta play catch up on all of the homework I've put off while trying to entertain him at night here at the house. Have a great weekend all!

Hi Gals ~

Well I weighed in at 187 this morning so I actually lost some weight out of town the last two weeks...nothing to brag about way better than a gain.

I will be around more for a while...the last few months were hectic with work but now I won't have much for a few months it looks like, unless we pick up some remodel work we are bidding. We do have a large project going but my services won't be required until end of the year.

Sheepishly...I threw that "I wanna a grandchild" out to my kids and spouses right after they got married...all in fun...but then I got to thinking maybe it was a bit much....I stopped bugging them...but then they started asking "didn't I want one?"....guess it is all in the presentation and the receiving sometimes....

I did stop and pick up a used playpen that a lady had in front of her house marked free to a good home...we know her..she was excited to hear my dil was pregnant....tole her we would keep the playpen at our house, she brought down some toys and left them on our porch the next day....cool...

BE GOOD TEAM ~ We will rock again yet!!! And that is no baloney!!

EZMONEY- It is definitely a matter of how you present the subject for sure. :-) I would also say it depends on your relationship as well. For example, my FIL acted like he hated my guts before my husband and I got married. Then on our wedding day his whole tune changed. It was very disconcerting to have a man go from behaving like he hated me and wanted nothing to do with me to wanting me to pop out a grand child for him. He did the same thing to my sister in law's husband as well and treated him very rudely as well. At one point my mother and grandmother spoke to me privately about the behavior they witnessed from my FIL towards me and asked me if I was sure about going through with marrying my husband since I would have to tolerate that behavior for a long time. My FIL is the oddest person I have ever met. The list of inappropriate behavior and comments he says goes on and on. Unfortunately his own children don't even like him and just tolerate him. I think his children have hope that someday he will change. And as long as my husband hopes for that, all I can do is try to be supportive and kind. My husband did however finally put his dad in his place yesterday since my hubby got a taste of what his dad does to me in regards to having babies. His dad tried to argue with him about us having children soon, so my husband told him that the topic is not up for discussion anymore. You could have heard a pin drop in the waiting room is all I can say.

That was very nice of that lady to do that and drop off those toys! I hope your dil isn't too sick from the pregnancy. Glad you are down to 187! Have a good night.

Down to a new low weight this morning. Considering I went to a BBQ yesterday and ate steak and shrimp and chicken and a darn brownie I have no idea why I am down this morning. I have the weirdest body.

Hope everyone has a safe Halloween!

Toobig-Me too.. I am down another two pounds despite having a lot of restaurant food this past week, brownies and birthday cake and waffles. I have been careful about portion sizes though.

So I woke up to being 217 this morning and lost two pounds. I'll take it though! I slept in today and didn't go to church since I was up so late trying to finish reading for schoolwork. We are probably going back over to my sister in law's since they should be going home today from the hospital later. Have a great day!

Toobig - Yay! Except that now you have passed me!! I need a kick in the pants, that's for sure.

Blonde - Glad you are doing so well... Don't worry about the FIL. Sounds a little wacky to me.

Turns out I'm up to 210. I have been feeling "ravenously" hungry for the last few weeks, eating everything in sight. Mostly because things at home haven't been going that well. Yesterday finally had a talk with my husband about some of our issues & ended up asking him to move out. Not quite the way I wanted things to go, but better than feeling miserable all the time. Maybe now I will be able to focus more on my goals, rather than getting caught up in our drama.

So we shall see.

brat- Have fun holding that baby!

Anne- Yikes!!! I will be thinking about you, there is nothing worse than trouble with the spouse!

EZ- Hope you are doing good!

Does anyone know what happened to jendiet?? We are missing some folks.

I was down another half a pound today!!

I will catch up tomorrow gals.....celebrating the news tonight my first GRANDbaby will be a girl!

Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

EZ - Seems you are surrounded by women!!! Congrats!

Hubby has moved to a hotel for the rest of the week. We've got an appt with a marriage counselor tomorrow. Not really sure where all this is going, but suppose I am mentally preparing for things to go either way. Sad to say, the only parts about splitting up that I worry about are telling my parents (they will FREAK) and the $$$.

"Down" to 208 this morning. It would be nice to get back on track!! Think I shall get honest and re-set my tickers to reflect where I actually am, not where I WAS before.

HI TEAM :)

Well I am still swinging back and forth between 187 and high 189...at least I haven't been in the 90's for a while...BUT!!...I can't get below 187 either :mad:

When I look back I can say.... with all due baloney respect....I have not made any drastic changes for a length of time loooong enough to do any good.

However, thinking about it it seems that most days I eat like I di after I reached goal and wanted to splurge just a little....that handful of chips...that cheese nacho for breakfast...bringing home less leftovers on date night dinners...going from that 2-3 beers a day to 3-5 again....:^:

In the next few months I really have the chance to eat right and plan properly as work should be pretty slow for me unless we pick something up on the remodel end. We do have a couple projects out there I should be into the end of the year.

I have been getting my walks in with the dogs since last week-end...awesome weather here for it too...in the high 70's most days with cool mornings and evenings.

BRAT I hope you are getting over the fil pressure :hug: As we get older we find ways to "ignore" those that irritate us for various reasons. We can see that their life is not my life! Allow them to be miserable in their own skin but don't allow them to hurt you!

TOOBIG I love that steak/shrimp/bbq chicken diet...patent it...you'll be rich!! :carrot:

MINDY continued prayers for your sister :hug:

ANNE I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope it all works out...20 years ago I went through a divorce I did not want....long story, but all worked out well for me...my only advice is "do the right things" in all matters...it will pay off eventually :hug:

Well TEAM I hope to get us up and going strong again...I have work tomorrow but may be off the rest of the week...I just really never know...

Be good :hug:

Met with a marriage counselor today, who gave both of us alot to think about. I am feeling somewhat hopeful we can work things out.

208 again this morning. Was feeling a little down about my lack of progress & back sliding... then reminded myself that my lowest since finding 3FC is 201. I decided that SEVEN pounds of backsliding is not a disaster. I prefer to think of it as a reminder or maybe a warning to get back on track.

I resolve to be under 200 by the end of 2010. Anybody else have any New Years goals they want to commit to here??

I'm with you Anne and just wanting to be under 200 pounds by the new year. But to tell the darn truth if I can just hang on to my losses through the holidays I will be thrilled.

Glad things went ok with the counselor. Do you think you guys will go back?

know I have not been getting here very much. I just don't have much to tell. I gain 5 pounds before TOM, lose them and then gain them again. Not making any progress downward. I may be joining that gym and working out with Kelly again. Gonna see if I can swing it.

It is tough to be stuck like this. I am not happy to settle for this weight, but cant seem to get it to budge. Maybe the gym would help. We"ll see if I can manage it.

Now that that is out of the way.

Anne- I have been struggling with what to do with the ex-husband live in, for a while now. I think I am about ready to ask him to move on. Just cant seem to get the courage to say the words. It is tough. Good luck to you, I know how complicated things can be.

Hi Gals ~

Well I was down a pound this morning and worked a ton of calories off at work today...soooo...if I don't over do the beer or dinner tonight I should be OK...

man is it HOT here...91 when I got home from work at 3:30 PST...cooling just a bit...

I will check back....

EZMONEY- I usually do a good job of ignoring my FIL.. This time around was very difficult since he kept mentioning my mother since he thinks he knew all about my mother and her battle with breast cancer and he even compared all of his family deaths to my loss at one point one night. I found out that my sister in law told him to flat out not to say anything about my mother and told him that I was having a hard time with the loss of my mom and he did anyways repeatedly. Congrats on the baby girl and the pound lost!

AnneL- So sorry to hear about you and your hubby. Hope counseling goes well!

Toobig and AnneL- I definitely wanna be AT or under 200 myself by Jan. 1st.

Mtiger-Hope you can swing joining the gym!

I am at 217 still. I think I may be battling a cold. I hope not. We went from temperatures of mid 80s to 50s with a pretty cold breeze this week so it may just be the weather changes. Have a great day all!

Well, the counselling session with hubby was good. The counselor had some good insights and was able to talk me down off the ledge. DH has moved back in for now... and we will continue meeting with the counselor.

Mtiger- Glad I'm not the only one going thru this. It's such a big decision and I want to make the right one, so I don't have regrets later.

Thank you so much to everyone else for the support!

Looks like there's a few of us wanting to get under 200 for New Years... Maybe we can keep each other honest & on plan. I'm at 207 today, but struggling because I baked bread yesterday. WHY do I do that to myself?!! Grrr.

My dad will be back permanently on the 18th and my whole family is freaking out. My aunt is 65 going on 12 and I am wondering if I will end up in jail if I slap her.

I can not believe I just said (typed) that. She is really making me crazy. If my dad had any idea how much drama she is trying to stir up he would give her a talking to, but because he is so sick I have not said anything to him. He will be back here soon and I am afraid they are going to end up in a big fight. It is always something.

I came...I read...I weighed 187...will post later...tomorrow....

I am posting. I dont have much to say except I am joining the gym. I went today and had a good workout. I am stronger than I thought. I am hoping it will be the kick I need to lose some more weight. Keep your fingers crossed.

Thanks for the well wishes and prayers for my sister. She has good days and then she has REALLt bad days. She is certainly adjusting to the situation. I actually got emotional when my mamo came back clear this time. What a relief.

Anne- Hang in there. I am reading a book called "too good to leave, to bad to stay", or something like that. Time to analyze my situation for sure. Best wished to you.

Hi TEAM ~

I will probably be up over the 188 I was this morning by tomorrow. Angie and I did Friday date night Italian, I had the fettuccine with shrimp...very rich. Although I did save most of my plate on Friday and had leftovers for dinner tonight and still have enough for lunch tomorrow.

Then Saturday my son and I spent the afternoon at the sports bar with pizza and beer flowing! I ate the leftover pepperoni I had for breakfast this morning.

Those that know me here know I brag about the relationship my ex of 20 years and I have....thanks to me and that is NO BALONEY....anyway she has really taken a turn on the time spent with me from my kids.....it is getting ugly for my daughter and son.....

Be good

Down to another new low weight this morning. I guess stressing out burns calories!?

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Worked out at the gym with Kelly (my friend) and her hubbie on Sat. Sore upper body ever since. Working out there with Kelly tomorrow. This should be interesting. I am waiting for my boss to join with me. I am really banking on the hope that this will be what I need to lose some more weight.

Mtiger-Wasn't that a great feeling discovering you're stronger than you thought? :-)

Toobig-stress can do a lot of funky things girl!

EZMONEY-Sorry to hear about things getting tough with your kids and their mom. Just be supportive and be great like you are already! :-)

I'm really tired. It's been a hectic few days for me plus I'm still battling my sinuses and allergies. I'm really not sure if this is a cold anymore. So we'll see. Today is another hectic and long day and evening for me. I have no idea when I'm going to even have time to go food shopping which we are in dire need of. I've also been sleeping pretty horrible and it's because I'm not working out right now. I'm going to try to work out tonight when I get home from my meeting. Have a great day all!

Hi Kids ~

still at 188...I am will catch up tomorrow...I should have a short day at work.

Hope everyone has a great day!

Grrr... The scale was UP this morning. 211. I know I need to do something about it, but not feeling energetic to get on track. There's just so much other stuff going on. Grrr. I think this is going to be a crabby day!!

HI TEAM :)

I am off work today...THANK YOU VETERANS! :hug:

Angie and I will be meeting a 3FC member and her husband for lunch...hope that goes well for both of us.

I have had shorter days at work and a few days off in the last two weeks...been holding pretty steady at 187-189....not sure after yesterday :mad:

I went and did the NO-NO!! I fast fooded...something that I pretty much put out of my life 3 years ago.....there have been a few occasions I admit...but for the most part those were done in emergency situations :D...working out of town, etc.

Yesterday was on purpose....like a fool I cut a buy one get one free coupon out of the paper months ago...for Jack In The Box grilled pastrami sandwich...I kept planning to throw it away....dang! Well, I ended up working longer than planned and didn't take a lunch. I was starving!

There is a Jack 3/4 mile from my house....dang!

2 sandwiches...1 large fry...and 2 tacos (HEY! they were only $.99) later and blah....there goes the baloney....right out the door!

At first I did the right thing ;) I split the meal in half and fridged...INSTEAD OF TRASHING!!...the rest...

Unfortunately, after doing some work in my garage, I finished the deal....dang :mad:

Be good TEAM...

I wasn't.....:hug:

Not the fast food!!! I hate it when I do that to me!!! Its the salt that gets you

I am working hard at the gym Am I seeing any weight loss. **** no!!! Well, you know me. I'll just keep going and maybe something good will happen. If all else fails I will meet with a trainer there.

I wish I could get me motivated to exercise.

HI TEAM

Had a great lunch with CBMARE and her husband yesterday.....I did OK on lunch with one grilled and one beer battered halibut tacos...3 beers wasn't necessary but...hey...that's me!

I did get 4 miles in with Angie and the mutts at the beach yesterday morning...gorgeous here on the southern California coast. We ate at the beach cafe and I had a spinach/bacon/swiss omelette with hash browns.

Angie made white chili last night...so good...didn't over do it so all in all not a bad day at the table for me.

Be Good ~ MOVE IT!

Today I'm finally home for the day. It's been a rough week. I've not been home at night for the majority of the week due to school related meetings and will not be home again tonight but it will be for a party yay. It's been very very difficult eating since my schedule has been so off. I haven't done too bad but I haven't done great either. I was not expecting to be gone from the house so much so I did not buy portable things to eat while on the go when I went to the grocery store. I am up a pound to 219 I think. I wasn't wearing my glasses this morning when I weighed haha so I couldn't see too clearly. I am relaxing right now but plan on doing a dance video and a weight lifting video today and then some homework. I hope to knock out another project today and two classes of homework today. I've already completed two projects this week and done an exam. So it's been very hectic. I hope to get started on two more projects tomorrow as well and get some house cleaning done since I may have company visiting tomorrow night. Have a great day all.. Sounds like some of us are doing well and some of us are struggling. For those of you that are struggling you are not alone! :-) HUGS!

Hi TEAM ~

Weighed in at 188.4 this morning...not good but not too bad considering my hours at work were way down last week....

I seem to lose more calories taping drywall than reclining!

I have been working in the garage, Angie and I are rearranging the gym since I gave the weight machine to my son. We haven't been using it much and he does all the time, it fits nicely in his big garage. I had opened up the wall to get it out of the gym so I lost a few calories fixing that....

well...I would have if the garage fridge wasn't so close and full of beer....dang!

Have been getting 3 miles in most days and Angie and I took the goldens to the beach for 4 miles Thursday and 4 yesterday to Starbucks.

Things are good here....

I will pray that they are for you and yours too....

Be Good TEAM...be good....